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About Trauma
2007-04-03 17:56:00 About Trauma This page briefly summarizes some of what we know about traumatic symptoms and responses, and includes links describing PTSD symptoms and coping strategies. Other links lead to more research-oriented issues, such as measuring treatment efficacy, etc. Succeeding pages at this site provide additional links to more detailed references, online articles, and web resources helpful in understanding trauma responses and treatment.Traumatic experiences shake the foundations of our beliefs about safety, and shatter our assumptions of trust.Because they are so far outside what we would expect, these events provoke reactions that feel strange and "crazy". Perhaps the most helpful thing I can say here is that even though these reactions are unusual and disturbing, they are typical and expectable. By and large, these are normal responses to abnormal events.Trauma symptoms are probably adaptive, and originally evolved to help us recognize and avoid other dangerous situations quickly --... More About: About , Raum
Introduction to Tips and Advice for Couples
2007-04-02 20:06:00 Introduction to Tips and Advice for Coup lesThis is not a porn site. It focuses on improving intimacy between couples.PurposeThis site is designed to give all sorts of intimate ideas, details, and council for couples who enjoy or want to enjoy intimacy. Some of the areas are somewhat graphic and intended for an adult audience (age 18 and up). Many people get bored or have never enjoyed making love. Some are looking to try new things and some are just starting out. This site is intended to help couples grow closer through intimate interactions.Site IndexSex can be one of the most enjoyable aspects of a couple's relationship. It can also be one of the worst. Couple s need to learn and experiment while staying in the bounds of each other's limits. * Advice for Men - This article focuses on what men should do to satisfy their woman. * Advice for Women - This article focuses on making a man satisfied. * Romantic Stories - Here are some fantasies that may help get you and your pa... More About: Introduction
Fair Fighting is Love Work
2007-04-01 17:54:00 Fair Fight ing is Love workBy Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.The following is an abridged excerpt from Chapter 9 of The New Intimacy: Discovering the Magic at the Heart of Your Differences and reprinted with permission. For more extensive explanation of their nine-step conflict resolution process, which they call Conscious Creativity, you might want to get a copy of their book (Renaissance/St. Martin's Press, 2001).Fair fighting is lovework—a fierce expression of love for yourself and your partner. Given that, there are very specific commitments you and your partner can make, before and during a fight, that will assure that you are doing lovework instead of doing damage. Remember, every fight is like a flare, an S.O.S. drawing your attention to what needs healing.1. Your purpose is to find a mutually respectful resolutionDuring a fight, frustrations are high. Voices are loud. Vision is clouded, even distorted. Both of you can feel unseen, unheard, and unappreciat... More About: Work , Fighting , Fair
What is a Healthy Relationship
2007-03-28 23:32:00 What is a healthy relationship? In healthy relationships, you and your friend or the person you are dating feel good about each other and yourselves. You do activities together, like going to movies or out with other friends, and you talk to one another honestly about how you feel. These relationships can last a few weeks, a few months, or even years.In healthy relationships, there is respect and honesty between both people. This means that you listen to each other's thoughts and opinions and accept each other's right to say no or to change your mind without giving each other a hard time. You should be able to let the other person know how you are feeling. You might disagree or argue sometimes, but in healthy relationships you should be able to talk things out to reach a solution. More About: Health , Relationship , What , Hat , Relations
Relationship Quiz
2007-03-27 19:28:00 "Are you in a healthy relationship?Ain't love grand? Well, it is when it works - research suggests that the happiest people in the world are those in a good marriage. The flipside, of course, is that an unhealthy relationship can be the biggest downer of all time. So how's your love life? Do our quiz to discover how you and your partner are making out - and how you can make things better.1. When I discuss problems with my partner he: Sympathises with me over everythingTells me what he’d do to solve itListens to what I have to say and then helps me to come up with my own solutionsSwings between wanting to kill anyone who’s upset me and telling me to sort things out for myself. 2. When it comes to sex: We have a set routine and try to make sure we do it at least twice a weekWhat sex life? We’re both way too tired for anything more than a quick hugWe stopped worrying about the 'national average' and whether we're doing it enough long ago. We have a loving relationship that... More About: Quiz , Relationship , Relations , Ship , Relation
From a Mother
2007-03-27 18:14:00 From a motherMy daughter, who is now 12, took the KidPower workshop three years ago. "Recently, we moved to a smaller town to get away from the violence in the city. My daughter was very excited about going to her first formal dress-up dance at her new school. It must have been poorly supervised because a group of about 15 9th grade boys started playing a game where they captured girls by linking arms in a circle around them.The first time my daughter and her 7th grade friends were surrounded, they just moved away. They felt awkward about this "game", but this was their first time at a school dance and they didn’t know what to think. My daughter saw that three other girls who got captured later were disheveled and crying. She saw the boys pawing at the girls and making sexual remarks.Then she and her friends were surrounded again. This time, one boy grabbed our daughter from behind and tried to put his hand up her shirt. She stomped on his foot and elbowed him in the groin.This ac... More About: Other , Mother
Anxiety Symptoms, Causes, Types, Signs, and Treatment on MedicineNet.com
2007-03-26 20:23:00 Anxiety Symptoms, Causes, Types, Signs , and Treatment on Medicine Net.com: "Environmental factors: Trauma and stressful events, such as abuse, the death of a loved one, divorce, changing jobs or schools, may lead to GAD. GAD also may become worse during periods of stress. The use of and withdrawal from addictive substances, including alcohol, caffeine and nicotine, can also worsen anxiety." More About: Men , Cine
Poetry
2007-03-25 17:36:00 Poetry: " My Father (Written 8/96 - before I confronted him on the abuse)Daddy,how can you be so mean to me?I don't know what I ever did to you,for I only tried to please you.No matter what I did,or how hard I tried,it was never enough,but why did you have to be so rough?I've spent endless hours,blaming myself for all your,endless hate for me,I now know it is you and not me.As years go on,will you still despise me?I have always tried,and so many tears I have cried.Can you ever be happy with me,and the life I live?Or will this just go on.I'm sorry I'm not what you wanted me to be.~Angelic Skye~" More About: Poetry , Poet
Broken Spirits
2007-03-23 16:45:00 The Broken Spirit s NetworkE-mail: info@brokenspirits.comBroken Spirits Network is an online community and support group that focuses on aiding both current and past victims of child abuse, sexual abuse, and domestic violence. The Broken Spirits Network provides a comprehensive state by state list of shelters, hotlines and organizations that can provide help for potential victims. In addition to the national abuse resource listing is a comprehensive discussion forum where users can create their own virtual identity within complete confidentiality. This allows people to discuss the happenings of their life without letting others know who they really are. Another point of interest is the information section of the site where you can find a reference of common symptoms of abuse and also find methods to prevent becoming a victim.E-mail: info@brokenspirits.com
Rape Trauma Syndrome
2007-03-21 17:47:00 rape trauma syndromeImmediate reactions after a rape may vary. Some rape survivors remain controlled, numb, in shock, denial disbelief. They present a flat affect, quiet, reserved, and have difficulties expressing themselves. Other rape survivors respond quite differently - being very expressive and verbalizing feelings of sadness or anger. They may appear distraught or anxious and may even express rage or hostility against the medical staff attempting to care for them.Various factors may aid or inhibit the survivors ability to resolve the issues associated by the rape. Positive feelings of self-esteem, good support systems, previous success in dealing with crisis and economic security all enhance her ability to heal. Survivors who can minimize, (deal with one small segment of the problem at a time ) often find success. Certainly survivors moved to action gain confidence as they implement decisions. But survivors who suffer with chronic stress, lack of support systems and prior vict... More About: Rome , Syndrome , Rape , Raum , Trauma
St John's Wort - any good?
2007-03-20 18:22:00 St John 's Wort - any good?: "HiI've been taking St John 's Wort now for a couple of months and am not sure whether it has helped me or not. I do seem to have fewer long bouts of depression, instead I seem to experience sudden severe but short-lived attacks. I'm not sure whether this has anything to do with the St John's Wort though.Has anyone had any good experiences or bad experiences with it? Can it really help depression? "Lia More About: Good
A Depressed Civilization
2007-03-19 16:57:00 Are We a Depressed Civil ization ? Author unknown I just read a blog written by delectable pet regarding depression. Her writing is amazing and you could feel what she was feeling. It gave me a lot to think about. This is the most personal blog I have written and I gave it a lot of thought before I decided to do it. I hope it helps someone. Although I did not realize it, I have been struggling with depression for many years. I did not realize that the sadness, lack of energy or interest in things, insomnia and physical pain were symptoms. In the beginning, this was a subject people did not talk about. There was little understanding.....you were either nuts or you were just sad. Medications were addictive and just made you high. Pursuing therapy was done (if it was done at all) secretly because anyone who saw a therepist was "crazy". No matter what your situation was, you did not talk about it....you hid it. Kept it hidden in the attic, so to speak. I experienced this first... More About: Press , Esse
Overcoming depression and Finding Happiness
2007-03-17 18:40:00 Overcoming Depression and Find ing Happiness By Chuck T. Falcon,Mental Health ProfessionalCounseling PsychologistSensible Psychology Press Chuck Falcon, Counseling Psychologist and Author of "Family Desk Reference to Psychology", has been working with psychiatric patients for the last 22 years and incest abusers for the last 5 years. He has been an Adjunct Faculty member of Delgado Community College in New Orleans for the last 2 years, teaching courses in Communications Disorders.Remember sadness is always temporary. This, too, shall pass.Can't, If, When, and But never did anything.Trials give you strength, sorrows give understanding and wisdom.Depression involves sadness, pessimism, a preoccupation with personal problems, and perhaps feeling sorry for one's self, anguish, crying, and hopelessness. Depressed people often lose interest in many activities and social contacts because of loss of pleasure in and enthusiasm for their usual activities. They may become apathetic or socially ... More About: Over
Post Traumatic Stress
2007-03-16 18:46:00 Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (cont.)In this Article * What is the post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) * Why discuss PTSD now? * What is the scope of PTSD? * What are the symptoms of PTSD? * How is the diagnosis made and what is the initial approach to PTSD? * What are the tools to treat PTSD? * What are the types of pychotherapy for PTSD? * What are the medications for PTSD? * What are the results of treatment and the follow-up of PTSD? * What's in the future for PTSD? * Post-Trauma tic Stress Disorder at a Glance * Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Glossary * Posttraumatic Stress Disorder CenterWhat are the symptoms of PTSD?In general, post-traumatic stress disorder can be seen as an overwhelming of the body's normal psychological defenses against stress. Thus, after the trauma, there is abnormal function (dysfunction) of the normal defense systems, which results in certain symptoms. The symptoms are produced in three different ways: 1. Re-e... More About: Post , Raum , Tres
Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - Overview Paper
2007-03-15 19:21:00 Adult Survivor s of Child Sexual Abuse - Overview Paper What is Child Sexual Abuse?Although there are many descriptions of childhood sexual abuse, for the purpose of this document it is considered to be the use of a child for any form of sexual activity or behaviour by an adult or adolescent. It is a betrayal of trust by someonewho has power over the child.1Who is an Adult Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse?Any adult who was sexually abused as a child is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. The majority of statistics in this document refer to the abuse of children under the age of 17. Sexual abuse occurs in all communities, ethnic backgrounds,religions, cultures, and social and economic classes, and is experienced by both males and females.2,3VocabularyThe words “victim” and “survivor” are used throughout this document, but their limitations are acknowledged in that these terms may discount the aspects of a person’s life that are healthy and productive. The term “thriver” i... More About: View , Adult
52 Successful Marriage Tips For A Happy Married Life
2007-03-14 19:12:00 wedaholic.com52 Success ful Marriage Tips For A Happy Married Life Date: July 17, 2006 The wedding is over, the presents have been put away and thank you notes written – now what? Once the excitement of the festivities and the romantic honeymoon is over, the real work of marriage begins. And yes, it can sometimes be work no matter how much you love each other!I've gathered some tips to help you keep things on track as you step into the “real world” of married life. Some are serious, some light-hearted, but all can help you remember exactly why you got married in the first place and what it is you love so much about your mate.1. Money is one of the most frequent causes of marital friction. If you haven’t talked about it before the wedding, talk about it now. The sooner you establish a spending plan and agree on it, the more arguments you’ll avoid down the line.2. Don’t assume all things have to be 50/50%. If you prefer balancing the checkbook and paying bills, but your spo...
Coping with Relationship Problems: Introduction
2007-03-13 16:48:00 Coping with Relationship Problems : Introduction Relationships - whether family or intimate relationships with a partner - can be a great source of love, pleasure, support and excitement. However they can also be a source of grief and anguish if they go wrong. The issue is made more relevant for students by the fact that most people in a university are in a period of personal change, which can make them feel less sure of what they want or how they can expect others to react.Research into what makes relationships work successfully - whether family relationships, friendships or partnerships - tend to come up with the same few things:Acceptance of differencePeople in successful relationships do not try to force the others to be exactly like them; they work to accept difference even when this difference is profound.Capacity for boundariesPeople are aware that there is a point where they stop and the other person begins. Sadly, it is unrealistic to expect others to solve all our problems o... More About: With , Coping
Dealing with Abadonment Issues by Sue Anderson
2007-03-12 20:57:00 Dealing with Abadonment Issues by Sue Anderson : "Dealing with Abandonment Issuesby Sue AndersonWhen a relationship ends, both partners experience turmoil and loss, but the one who is left feeling abandoned bears the brunt of the pain. Why does it hurt so much when someone leaves us?Loving and wanting someone who does not love us back engenders a deep personal wound. Rejection hits a raw nerve whose root begins in childhood. It arouses our abandonment issues. Abandonment is primal fear, the first fear that each of us experience as an infant. It is the fear that we will be left, literally abandoned, with no one to care for us. Abandonment's wound is cumulative. It contains all of our losses, disconnections and disappointments from early on, the death of a parent, a teenage breakup, being out-shown by a sibling, these experiences make us more susceptible to heartbreak when we are abandoned as adults.The abandonment wound, stored deep within the limbic brain, is easily triggered. You f... More About: Men , With , Deal
Dr. Grohol's Psych Central - How to Choose a Therapist
2007-03-12 18:30:00 Dr. Grohol's Psych Cent ral - How to Choose a Therapist: "How to Choose a TherapistAND OTHER FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ANSWEREDABOUT STARTING YOUR PSYCHOTHERAPYJohn M. Grohol, Psy.D.Originally written: June 17, 1995Last updated: July 28, 2004So often I've been asked, 'So how does one choose a good therapist?' After all, nobody wants to put their intensely personal emotional problems into the hands of an inexperienced, ineffective, or useless practitioner. The below guidelines will offer suggestions you may want to follow in choosing your next therapist. By the way, while I was at one time a therapist in practice, I have also been in my own therapy. This article was written with both experiences in mind. What should I look for first in a therapist? First and foremost, you must find a therapist you feel comfortable with. Therapy is not an easy process and your therapist is not there to be your friend. Having said that, however, you can certainly choose a therapist whom ... More About: How To , Hera , Central
Make Your Way Through the Stages of Marriage & Relationship
2007-03-11 20:40:00 Make Your Way Through the Stages of Marriage & Relations hip Dawn J. Lipthrott, LCSWAre You Going through a Stage? It's Normal!By Dawn Lipthrott, LCSWWe've all heard jokes about marriage or exclusive committed relationship ruining a perfectly good relationship. And it might even feel like that in your own relationship or in that of someone you care about. Why does something that starts out feeling so good seem to go downhill once you take that step of commitment? One reason is that relationships go through predictable stages, although the intensity may vary from person to person and couple to couple.You may notice that relationships with friends, a boss, a job, or an adopted child may follow a similar pattern; everything seems wonderful and then the "honeymoon" is over. Frustrations or hurt feelings begin to mount. In marriage or in a deeply committed love relationship, these stages take on new intensity. There is much more at stake when we make a commitment to spend our lives toget...
Breaking the Silence
2007-03-09 17:08:00 South Jersey native's true tale of abuse inspires powerful showBy Allegra Tiverativer@sjnewsco.comLisa Regina will never forget that afternoon in early April 2005 when a New York City ambulance delivered her to the emergency room at Beth Israel Hospital, where she was treated for injuries resulting from an attack by a violent man.This was no random act, however, and the assailant was no stranger. The man was Regina's boyfriend, and that day she became a victim of domestic violence -- the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 across the United States.Fear has long silenced many of these victims, mostly women but sometimes men, who suffer alone, feeling alienated and embarrassed by the trauma they've experienced. But Regina is giving the victims of domestic violence a voice -- a loud one.Staff photo by Tim HawkSouth Jersey native Lisa Regina, right, claps with the Voices of Mount Pisgah choir, during a rehearsal for "A Write to Heal." Regina is the writer, ... More About: Break , King , Breaking , Silence , Brea
Psychotherapy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
2007-03-08 23:30:00 Psychotherapy - Wikipedia , the free encyclopedia: "PsychotherapyFrom Wikipedia, the free encyclopediaPsychotherapy is a range of techniques based on dialogue, communication and behavior change and which are designed to improve the mental health of a client or patient, or to improve group relationships (such as in a family). Most forms of psychotherapy use only spoken conversation, though some also use various other forms of communication such as the written word, artwork or touch. Commonly psychotherapy involves a therapist and client(s) — and in family therapy several family members or even other members from their social network — who discuss emotionally difficult situati"click on title to read on More About: Psycho , Other , Free , Pedi
What is Counseling?
2007-03-08 02:12:00 LifeShopsWhat Is Counseling?There are many myths about what Counseling entails. Most of them are rooted in some outdated ideas about psychology and psychotherapy. Unfortunately, images of old men in beards, clients on couches and patients in asylums still define what counseling is for many individuals who might benefit from what counseling offers today. Often, people dismiss counseling as Something for “crazy people”?Professional help for people with really major problems?An activity for people who are way too preoccupied with themselves!A crutch for people who are just too weak to handle life.orWhere you go and get analyzed by somebody and then hope something changes for the better!Usually, if counseling is described in these ways, the descriptions are coming from people who have never been to counseling....Counseling is many things....but a good place to start is by clarifying what counseling is NOT!Counseling is NOT a place that people go to find out if they’re "crazy" ...... More About: Hat
Do Fears Block Your Success
2007-03-08 00:26:00 Do Fear s Bloc k Your Success ?Succeeding is easy if nothing scares you. If nothing makes you hesitant, shy or nervous.When you do not act, it is probably because of some FEAR. Fear is the inability to face someone or something. When you cannot face an issue, it causes complexity and stress.For example, if you cannot easily discuss money, you have money problems. Whenever you need to take financial action, you freeze. You end with less money.If you are an employer and avoid staff problems, production statistics decline. Work becomes serious. Since no one resolves the staff problems, the problems persist while your business suffers.Avoiding topics with your spouse is the most common reason for marriage problems. Hiding, withholding or suppressing your feelings and thoughts from your spouse is a giant leap toward divorce.When fears control your life, L. Ron Hubbard points out you are controlled by shadows. If you reach out and take action despite your fears, you will discover how thin an... More About: Block
The Dangers of Denial
2007-03-06 19:10:00 The Danger s of Denial : The D angers of Denial * Denial Is Caused By Fear * It's Not My Fault * Don't Blame Me... * Why Denial Is Dangerous * Give Up DenialWho's Fooling Whom?Most people who are addicted to substances, people, or behaviors don't want to admit they have a problem. Friends and loved ones of the addicted person may also deny the problem by trying to cover up for the other person's behavior. Ending denial is never easy, and takes great courage. But continuing denial makes it impossible to recover from addiction.Denial Is Caused By FearFear pushes many addicts into denial, a belief that their situation is really not that serious. People who are afraid to face their problems often start practicing denial even before they're addicted. They may get resentful, angry, or defensive when asked about their behavior. As addiction progresses, it causes its own problems. Then the idea of facing reality can be frightening and overwhelming.Its Not My Faultclick on... More About: Anger
Psychological Intimacy in the Lasting Relationships of Heterosexual and Sam
2007-03-05 18:58:00 Psychological Intimacy in the Last ing Relationship s of Heterosexual and Same-Gender Couples: "Psychological Intimacy in the Lasting Relationships of Heterosexual and Same-Gender Couplesby Richard A. Mac key, Matthew A. Diemer, Bernard A.O'Brien. Published 8/00: Sex Roles: A Journal of ResearchThis research focused on the meaning of psychological intimacy to partners in heterosexual and same-gender relationships that have lasted for an average of 30 years. In-depth interviews were used to explore the meaning of intimacy to 216 partners in 108 relationships. The participants were whites, blacks, and Mexican-Americans, with Catholic, Jewish, and Protestant religious backgrounds; they were employed in both blue-and white collar occupations.Specialists who have studied sexual behavior and worked with priests say that proposals to address the sexual abuse scandal in the Catholic church by screening homosexuals out of the priesthood are based on a flawed understanding -- and doomed to fail... More About: Psycho
Meaning of Intimacy
2007-03-05 18:48:00 by Phil Rich, Ed.D., MSWDefining intimacy is no straightforward task. Its meaning varies from relationship to relationship, and within relationships over time. In some relationships, intimacy is entwined with sex and feelings of closeness may be connected or confused with sexual feelings. In other relationships, intimacy has more to do with shared moments than sexual interactions. In any case, intimacy is linked with feelings of closeness among partners in a relationship. But, even without a specific definition, it seems clear that intimacy and healthy relationships go hand in hand. Indeed, intimacy is a basic ingredient in any meaningful relationship.The Meaning of Inti macySpread throughout this article are questions designed to help you think about and explore intimacy in your relationship. You can think about and answer these questions on your own. Or, you can discuss and think about these questions with your romantic partner and, in this way, use the article to both explore and ... More About: Mac , Macy , Intimacy
Ten Reasons not to hit your kids
2007-03-04 18:50:00 Ten Reason s Not to Hit Your Kids by Jan Hunt, M.Sc.In Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Finland, Iceland, Croatia, Cyprus, Latvia, Italy, Israel, Germany and Austria, it is illegal for a parent, teacher, or anyone else to spank a child. In some states and provinces, it is only illegal for a teacher to spank. In all areas of North America, physical punishment by a parent, as long as it is not severe, is still seen by many as necessary discipline, and condoned, or sadly, even encouraged.For the past several years, many psychiatrists, sociological researchers, and parents have recommended that we seriously consider banning the physical punishment of children. The most important reason, according to Dr. Peter Newell, coordinator of the organization End Punishment of Children (EPOCH)1, is that "all people have the right to protection of their physical integrity, and children are people too."21. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to ... More About: Reasons , Sons
Liberated From Abuse
More articles from this author:2007-03-03 22:34:00 Sexual Abuse and SpankingSpanked children don't regard their bodies as beingtheir own personal property. Spanking trains them toaccept the idea that adults have absolute authorityover their bodies, including the right to inflict pain.And being hit on the buttocks teaches them that eventheir sexual areas are subject to the will of adults.The child who submits to a spanking on Monday is notlikely to say "No" to a molester on Tuesday. People whosexually molest or exploit children know this. Theystalk potential victims among children who have beentaught to "obey or else" because such children are theeasiest targets.The above excerpt was re-posted with permission of:Jordan Riak, Exec. Dir., Parents and Teachers Against Violence in Education(PTAVE), P.O. Box 1033, Alamo, CA 94507-7033. Web site: "Project NoSpank" atwww.nospank.net Telephone: (925) 831-1661Thus begins, another episode of The Wraith of Thor. First, a bit of background. I was cruising the net, and landed on an excellent si... More About: Berat , Rate , Libera 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 |
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