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What Assumptions Do You Make About Your Partner’s Behaviors
2012-01-06 19:52:00 What Assumptions Do You Make About Your Partner’s Behaviors The way people interpret their partner’s actions makes a big difference in the marriage. It’s important to remember that your assumptions aren’t always correct. There may be many other possible conclusions that can be drawn about your spouse’s behaviors. In fact, many people jump to the wrong conclusion. This can lead to people feeling hurt, angry, ...
Choosing to be Assertive Rather Than Passive-Aggressive
2012-01-06 19:50:00 Choosing to be Assertive Rather Than Passive-Aggressive It takes courage to behave assertively in your marriage. Sometimes people don’t really know what it means to be assertive. Other times, people have never really tried to be assertive and it feels awkward or uncomfortable. Learning how to be truthful about how you feel can have a positive impact on your marriage. What it ...
10 tricks to deal with missing your man
2012-01-05 19:43:00 10 tricks to deal with missing your man It’s no secret that maintaining a long-distance relationship requires a huge amount of work and dedication. Whether it’s the result of deployment, relocation or an online romance, being separated from one another can be the most difficult things a couple ever goes through. Here are some tips to help make the separation more bearable. Stay Positive – Fight the temptation to hunker down with an MP3 player full of sad songs and a bottle of wine. Instead, try to concentrate on the positive aspects of your relationship. Focus On Future Plans – When the pressure of being separated gets to be a bit too much, it helps to focus on the future. Whether it’s the next meeting or the big picture, thinking about what you’re working towards and waiting for can make it all seem worthwhile. Get Out of the House – Go out. Go to the park or a museum, out for a walk or to dinner with friends. Doing something fun will keep your mind of... More About: Tricks , Deal , Missing
10 Women from History Who Should Have Stayed Single
2012-01-05 19:39:00 10 Women from History Who Should Have Stayed Single A word of caution should be headed by any woman who is currently contemplating matrimony. Women throughout history have been making bad marital decisions and often with tragic results. Many of these marriages were strategically arranged, but even if they truly loved the man they married, perhaps they would have been better off staying unwed. Looking back, here are 10 women from history who should have remained single. Joanna of Castile – This intelligent, young beauty from Spain was married to Philip the Handsome at the tender age of 16. Most people would consider this a match made in heaven. A young, beautiful princess wed to a handsome duke, soon to become king and queen. Alas, her husband turned out to be a power hungry philandering cad who drove her literally insane. Katherine of Aragon – Joanna’s sister Katherine didn’t fare much better in her chosen mate. She was the unfortun...
10 Most Romantic Places to Visit in Europe
2012-01-04 19:41:00 10 Most Romantic Places to Visit in Europe For so many of us, the entire European continent is synonymous with romance. The rich history and impressive architecture in addition to the legendary culinary culture make Europe a favorite travel destination for lovers and honeymooners; here are ten of the can’t-miss spots on the European map. Venice, Italy – The first thing that comes to mind for most people at the mention of Venice is an enchanting gondola ride through the canals. The Rialto Bridge and Bridge of Sighs are often counted among the most romantic spots in the world, so be sure not to miss them. Paris, France – Nothing says “I love you” like a weekend in Paris. The City of Lights is a go-to setting for romantic film and literature; iconic sites like the Eiffel Tower and the Louvre have been the backdrop for many a breathtaking scene. Can’t-miss opportunity: the sunset through the Arc de Triomphe. Read on
10 Weird But True Facts About Kissing
2012-01-04 19:36:00 10 Weird But True Facts About Kissing Comment Kissing is an integral part of our courting rituals, holiday celebrations, and romantic comedies. Most of us can probably still remember cheering on the characters of our favorite TV shows when their lips touched for the first time. We know that locking lips makes us happy and excited, but there are several aspects of smooching that we don’t normally consider. Try not to think about these 10 facts the next time you’re making mouth babies with your significant other. It might kill the mood. Your lips can be hundreds of times more sensitive than your fingers The sensitivity of the skin on the lips varies from person to person, but for most people, the lips are the most sensitive part of your body. Some areas of your body have more touch receptors sending signals to your brain than other parts, making them more sensitive, and the hands and lips are at the top of the list. Lips are often 100 or 200 times more sen...
The More Trust the Better the Relationship
2012-01-03 17:31:00 Sunday, October 7, 2007 The More Trust the Better the Relationship I’ve recently been exploring the relationship between trust and peace and posted my thoughts on my Goodness Graciousness blog. As I was doing some research and pondering various ideas concerning the correlation between trust and peace, the thought occurred to me that I can extrapolate my observations on peace in general to various dynamics in intimate relationships. To summarize, generally, the more trust; the more peace. Moving specifically to our loving relationships it seems also true that the more we trust our partner, the more we get along, in other words, the more trust, the more peace and joy in our marriages. How many arguments, challenges, and frustrations come from lack of trust? How many problems would be eliminated if deep trust filled the relationship? Read on
Quality Communication with Your Spouse Offers a Deeper Emotional Connection
2012-01-03 17:26:00 Quality Communication with Your Spouse Offers a Deeper Emotional Connection Many couples run their marriage like a business. They discuss the bills, the kids, and the day to day operations of the house. They may struggle to keep things in check or they may operate like a well-oiled machine. Either way, they may like quality communication with one another. How often do you and your ...
Learning How To Accept Your Spouse’s Habits, Behaviors, and Personality Q
2012-01-02 19:01:00 Learning How To Accept Your Spouse’s Habits , Behaviors, and Personality Quirks Sometimes a person’s desire to get their spouse to change becomes detrimental to the relationship. There are times that it makes sense to simply accept your spouse for who he is at this present time. This doesn’t mean that you have to give up hope that things will ever be different. Instead, it means that ... More About: Learning
What Assumptions Do You Make About Your Partner’s Behaviors
2012-01-02 19:00:00 What Assumptions Do You Make About Your Partner’s Behaviors The way people interpret their partner’s actions makes a big difference in the marriage. It’s important to remember that your assumptions aren’t always correct. There may be many other possible conclusions that can be drawn about your spouse’s behaviors. In fact, many people jump to the wrong conclusion. This can lead to people feeling hurt, angry, ...
7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 7: Completion (The 7 Stages of Marriage)
2010-10-27 17:17:00 7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 7: Completion (The 7 Stages of Marriage )
7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 6: Explosion (The 7 Stages of Marriage)
2010-10-27 17:15:00 7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 6: Explosion (The 7 Stages of Marriage )
7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 5: Reunion
2010-10-27 17:12:00 7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 5: Reunion More About: Marriage
7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 4: Cooperation
2010-10-27 17:09:00 7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 4: Cooperation More About: Marriage
7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 3: Rebellion
2010-10-27 17:00:00 7 STAGES OF MARRIAGE — Stage 3: Rebellion More About: Marriage
Save My Marriage Advice – Marriage Counseling Video
2010-10-27 16:32:00 Save My Marriage Advice – Marriage Counseling Video More About: Save
Michele Weiner Davis on 20/20: Sex Starved Marriage with Barbara Walters
2010-10-26 15:34:00 Michele Weiner Davis on 20/20: Sex Starved Marriage More About: Barbara Walters , Barbara
What is intimacy and why is it so important?
2007-07-19 19:25:00 What is intimacy and why is it so importantIntimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner's feelings, about being there when he/she wants to let their defences down.We all have an `inner world' of feelings and experiences, the world of our day dreams, hopes, fears, hurts and memories, the world of our 'inner-most' thoughts. To be able to share our 'inner-world' with a partner we love, and to be able to share our partner's experiences, is one of the most rewarding aspects of a relationship.Intimacy often doesn't need words, but being able to put feelings and experiences into words makes intimacy more likely to occur. Intimacy involves being able to share the whole range of feelings and experiences we have as human beings - pain and sadness, as well as happiness and love.Most of us, however, find it easier to sh... More About: Import
Example of how Stress can effect Children
2007-07-19 00:45:00 Example of how Stress can effect Children Uploaded by Peyton on Jun 15, 2006 Disturbing, resilience, and courageous are merely a glimpse of how impacting the story of Mary Karr’s life was growing up as a child in an unpredictable home life. Reading about situations that Mary and her sister experienced made me think about my own childhood with its crisis and misfortunes. I myself have never come close to experiencing anything in my life like she had, but how she described the situations she endured made me feel her frustrations and vulnerabilities. Even with the difference in the time era from today Mary’s traumatic and stressful childhood growing up in the 60’s coincides with what we have been learning in this class. There are many examples that can be related to the information about stress and how it affects children in today’s society. The way she starts her memoir is like she is unfolding memories she had tucked away during the pecks of the stressful and at many times... More About: Effect , Tres , Xamp
Job Stress can affect your children
2007-07-19 00:39:00 Job stress can affect your childrenWorking parents often bring a bad day home to their kidsLiveScienceUpdated: 6:40 a.m. AKT Jan 25, 2007NEW YORK - Working parents might think they leave it at the office, but kids know better. Whether adults realize it or not, their job-related stress affects their children, scientists said here this week at the annual meeting of the American Psychoanalytic Association.Over the past 30 years, time spent at the office has jumped 10 hours a week. And one in three employees in the United States reports feeling chronically overworked, said Ellen Galinsky, president of the Families and Work Institute in New York.“By all of our measures, jobs have become much more hectic and demanding," Galinsky said. "People feel like they don’t have enough time to get everything done.” And that includes spending time, let alone quality time, with childrenEven if parents bring no actual work home, they definitely carry the residual impact of their day in the offi... More About: Children , Stress , Tres
Weathering our Feelings
2007-07-17 19:32:00 Weathering our feelingsPosted by Wendy in Health, Love & Relationships, Power & Energy, Sustainability, FamiliesOur feelings are like weather patterns. They are changeable and act on the environment with great power. They inform and distract with their intensity. They reflect the nature of the moment with great accuracy. Just as our changing weather patterns are shifting and changing the world we live in, our ability to experience and share our feelings in meaningful ways has the power to shift the emotional landscape of our lives.Yet feelings are for many people a locked box: an experience that overwhelms and is difficult to express. We are taught in a variety of circumstances and for a variety of reasons to suppress our feelings. We learn to silence our feelings so well that the messages in our bodies are not even discernable. Suppressed feelings are not as invisible as you might think. They take on a life in our dreams and eventually become diseases in our bodies. Our inability t... More About: Feeling , Feel , Feelings , Erin
Why Do we fall in Love?
2007-07-17 19:23:00 Why Do We Fall in Love ?Loving and being loved adds richness to our lives. When people feel close to others they are happier and even healthier. Love helps us feel important, understood, and secure.But each kind of love has its own distinctive feel. The kind of love we feel for a parent is different from our love for a baby brother or best friend. And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence. Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction. Even in cultures where people are not allowed to act on or express these feelings, they're still there. It's a natural part of growing up to develop romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. These new feelings can be exciting — or even confusing at first.The Magical Ingredients of Love RelationshipsLove is such a powerful human emotion that experts are constantly studying it. They've discovered that love has three...
Add Trust to your Relationship
2007-07-16 17:44:00 Add Trust To Your Relation ship by S. A. BakerTrust is something that is important to every single relationship you have. No matter if it is a relationship of friends, family, or even a relationship of lovers; trust must be there to make it successful. So, if you are noticing a lack of trust within your relationship, how can you get trust back into your relationship? How can trust be incorporated into your life, daily? How can you trust if you’ve been hurt in relationships before?It is hard to add trust into a relationship that is already damaged. But, it is necessary in the most immediate way. Relationships are built on qualities like trust. If the trust in your relationship is week, chances are good that the relationship will suffer in the long run. If you are constantly questioning or worry about your relationship, then you have no trust in your partner. If you trust in them, then you know that they have your best interests at their heart just as you do for them.To add trust to y... More About: Ship , Rust
Impact of Parental Conflict and Childrens Futures
2007-07-16 17:28:00 New studies confirm impact of parental conflict on children's futuresBy William G. GilroyTwo new studies lend further support to research by E. Mark Cummings, a University of Notre Dame professor of psychology, on the impact of parental conflict behavior on their children's future behavior.Cummings, the Notre Dame Professor of Psychology, and researchers from Rochester University and the Catholic University of America, found that the manner in which parents handle everyday marital conflicts has a significant effect on how secure their children feel, and, in turn, significantly affects their future emotional adjustment."A useful analogy is to think about emotional security as a bridge between the child and the world," Cummings said. "When the marital relationship is functioning well, it serves as a secure base, a structurally sound bridge to support the child's exploration and relationships with others."When destructive marital conflict erodes the bridge, children may lack confide... More About: Futures , Conflict , Parent , Pare
Healing
2007-07-11 19:00:00 I am the healing force. I trust in the movement of love. I release myself (my family, my friends [can name them individually]) into the hands of love. I am the love in all things. I have no need to hold on to anything because I am the love in all things. It is safe for me to let go of all worry and just reveal the love that I am. It is okay for me to just be. I let go of all responsibility except the responsibility to be love. I trust in the power of love to heal my body. I trust in the love given to me by my doctors (family, friends, etc.) to help my body heal itself. I let go of all worry about the future, knowing that as I yield to love, the very best things possible will happen. I have no need to worry about anyone or anything. I can just be. When I feel afraid, I love my fear.When I feel anxious, I love my anxiety. When I start to feel that I need to be in control, I love my feeling that I need to be in control. I am not afraid of any of my feelings. I love all my feelings. All... More About: Healing , Ealing , Heal
HEALING
2007-07-11 18:37:00 I am the healing force. I trust in the movement of love. I release myself (my family, my friends [can name them individually]) into the hands of love. I am the love in all things. I have no need to hold on to anything because I am the love in all things. It is safe for me to let go of all worry and just reveal the love that I am. It is okay for me to just be. I let go of all responsibility except the responsibility to be love. I trust in the power of love to heal my body. I trust in the love given to me by my doctors (family, friends, etc.) to help my body heal itself. I let go of all worry about the future, knowing that as I yield to love, the very best things possible will happen. I have no need to worry about anyone or anything. I can just be. When I feel afraid, I love my fear.When I feel anxious, I love my anxiety. When I start to feel that I need to be in control, I love my feeling that I need to be in control. I am not afraid of any of my feelings. I love all my feelings. All... More About: Healing , Ealing , Heal
HEALING
2007-07-11 18:37:00 I am the healing force. I trust in the movement of love. I release myself (my family, my friends [can name them individually]) into the hands of love. I am the love in all things. I have no need to hold on to anything because I am the love in all things. It is safe for me to let go of all worry and just reveal the love that I am. It is okay for me to just be. I let go of all responsibility except the responsibility to be love. I trust in the power of love to heal my body. I trust in the love given to me by my doctors (family, friends, etc.) to help my body heal itself. I let go of all worry about the future, knowing that as I yield to love, the very best things possible will happen. I have no need to worry about anyone or anything. I can just be. When I feel afraid, I love my fear.When I feel anxious, I love my anxiety. When I start to feel that I need to be in control, I love my feeling that I need to be in control. I am not afraid of any of my feelings. I love all my feelings. All... More About: Healing , Ealing , Heal
Overcoming Fear
2007-07-10 18:38:00 Overcoming Fear , Uncertainty & Doubt by John D. Moore, MS, CADCFour things you can do to chase away the enemies of goal attainment & move onto reaching you dreams!When he was 32, Dylan fulfilled his longtime dream of becoming a professional body builder. For him, winning first place in the state championship was even more spectacular than he had imagined. Now he set a new goal that would drive his decision making process for the next decade: To become a professional trainer to those who desired to improve their physical appearance. Today, Dylan is runs a thriving business and clears nearly six figures a year.Achieving his goals was anything but easy, because along the way, many people attempted to dissuade him off his path through the use of FUD. Simply put, FUD is Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt. It is quite possibly the most powerful weapon that others will use against you to prevent you from reaching your lifetime goals. Sometimes the use of FUD is insidious, cloaked in a message tha... More About: Ming
TIPS FOR HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
More articles from this author:2007-07-09 18:49:00 TIPS FOR HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGETen ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one. The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.Enter the Marriage With the Right Intention and Renew this OftenDo Not Hold Unrealistic ExpectationsEmphasize the Best in Your SpouseBe Your Mate's Best FriendSpend Quality Time TogetherExpress Feelings OftenAdmit to Mistakes and Ask for ForgivenessNever Bring Up Mistakes of the PastSurprise Each Other at TimesHave a Sense of HumorQuick Tips for Discussions and DisagreementsBegin with the intentio... More About: Happy 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 |
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