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ECHO NO LONGER - RECOVERY
2007-04-16 07:00:00
The Recovery Process of the Ex Partner of the Person Suffering from a Narcissistically Impaired Personality.*N = NarcissistP = Partner of Narcissist(*Many online predators/cyberpaths have a Destructive Narcissistic Pattern. This article is to help victims understand and start healing - Fighter)In the past few years I have come across an increasing number of persons suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and also an increasing number of individuals whose partners seem to be narcissistically disordered. Through my practice I have met clients at the various stages of this process and each stage has its characteristics as regards both the state of the relationship, and the emotional state of the partner. I will be using the masculine pronoun, as most Ns are male.Narcissism is usually described by a list of behaviours most of which involve the individual himself. Here I will focus more of the way narcissism interferes with relationships. I believe that there is no better ...
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OH THE THINGS CYBERPATHS SAY!
2007-04-16 03:21:00
OH, THE THINGS CYBERPATHS SAY!Just a few words from about the predators we have profiled or those we have helped to expose behind the scenes of this blog. In the time this blog has been up and running - we have only heard from ONE online predator who threatened us directly with legal action. We welcomed it since we had done nothing wrong and could back up everything we had. (this is the reason for our stringent rules for exposure)Brad Dorsky, who threatened us, seemed to think they were dealing with a bunch of vindictive teenagers - they thought wrong. Mr. Dorsky said he was going to his local police - we told him to please feel free as we would be happy to speak to the FBI about his contacting someone out of the country and waiting until she was no longer a minor to talk about violent sexual acts online with her and traumatize here. Also, we encouraged him to seek counseling for the way they had treated their victims and even offered to help them find a counselor in their area...
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SYMPTOMS OF ONLINE BRAINWASHING
2007-04-13 04:38:00
The process of brainwashing (or 'grooming') their victims is one consistently reported by those who have dealt with a cyberpath. Here's some of the cyberpath's process:THE PROCESS OF BRAINWASHING (MIND CONTROL)1. The cyberpath keeps the victim unaware of what is going on and what changes are taking place.Your cyberpath might make plans for you, or not tell you what his plans are until the last minute. He may talk about you to others behind your back, to isolate you from them. They will always leave you on the edge of your seat about what their next move or even when your next contact will be. (usually on their terms, not yours)2. The cyberpath controls the victim's time and online environment, and works to suppress much of the victim's old behavior. The victim is slowly, or abruptly, isolated from all supportive persons/friends/net buddies except the cyberpath.Your cyberpath might have insisted that you stop certain social, hobby, or work activities. Your chats may have move...
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HOW TO AVOID LETTING A PLAYER PLAY WITH YOU
2007-04-12 02:10:00
by CAZimmy818@aol.com#1. If he sounds too good to be true, guess what, he's not !!#2 Make sure your antennas are in good working order, and when they talk to you, LISTEN CLOSELY. Don't bypass any red flags or a rise of your antennas. Don't tell yourself men are just 'that way' or you are 'making too much of' something.#3 Don't center your life around this new friend. Fact of the matter is, he is just words on a screen. Keep up with friends in the real world#4 If he tells you he loves you before meeting him face to face, don't believe him, they are only words to him; he doesn't feel them!!#5. If he gives you a long sob story and always has a new crisis in his life. Run as fast as you can, and hide too. Would you truly want to live your life with one crisis after another?#6. Before you go to IM's with a new friend, spend time in the chats with him and see how he interacts with other women, and continue to go to chats with him, even as the friendship progresses !!#7. Stick p...
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BECKSTEAD - 'PROJECTOR' EXTRAORDINAIRE!
2007-04-11 02:34:00
More from one of Beck stead's victims:(EOPC's comments are in purple)Beckstead was so full of it and I was ignoring my gut instinct because of his continual banter. He would always lay the guilt trip back on me, accusing me of everything that he, himself had committed. (that's called PROJECTION)It just about did my head in trying to keep up with his BS. (that's called SCHIZOPHASIA) The one thing though, he did have a lousy memory and that is what tripped him up. (that's what tripped up Ed Hicks, "J" and Brad Dorksy) That and the fact that I did hold onto a good deal of the conversations down the track because I noticed he had a devious and sneaky side. I caught him red handed several times in the VIP chatroom and his lies rebounded on him because I was always quick to point out fact from fiction when I noticed a distinct slip up. (Ohhhh Cyberpaths just LOVE when you catch them! NOT!) I became very savvy to them in those last months. I just kept on asking the questions, he cou...
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Online Predators, Cybersex and Covert Seduction
2007-04-10 02:58:00
We are reposting this as it applies to many of our predators of the month. (see list in right margin of our previous cyberpath stories)It is time for this site to post some information about the sex addicts online. Many cyberpaths are also sex addicts. Oh, they won't seem like perverts up front. (we have used the male gender. your cyberpath could be female)They will convince you they are nice guys, lonely guys, misunderstood, needy; that they "LOVE" you (even though they have NEVER met you), that they are religious or spiritual (see article: Lures of the Online Predator; on this site) and then slowly they ask you to 'turn on your webcam,''send me some pictures of your body parts or you naked,"''send me some underwear/ a lock of your hair" and a variety of requests that by the time they make them (i.e. - by the time they have controlled your mind to think only the best of them and to ignore red flags) - seem very innocent and even romantic - but in reality? should send you RUNN...
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An Online Predator of a Different Sort!
2007-04-09 03:44:00
My Roommate, The Diamond ThiefHe found me on Craigslist. I found him on America's Most Wanted.By Brian BoucherSeeking roommate for one-bedroom in Washington Heights. It's a bit small for two but I have to catch up on some bills. Two friendly cats, but we keep clean because I'm a little allergic myself. A little more than half of the $950 rent gets you the privacy of the bedroom. It was August 2003. I'd only recently found work, nearly a year after losing my job organizing school tours at an art museum, and my fiancee had just moved out of our apartment. It was a small, sunny place on the fourth floor of an old building, high enough on a hill that you could even see a little of New Jersey from the right angle. We'd moved up there when she landed a medical residency at Columbia University Medical Center, but we'd split six months before the wedding. Without a job, I'd run up a ton of debt, and I urgently needed extra income to make rent, so I figured I'd lease out my bedroom...
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Online liars' noses don't grow, but their wordiness does, Cornell researche
2007-04-08 03:53:00
How to spot an online fibberREPOSTING THIS IN HONOR OF THIS MOUTH'S SELF-INVOLVED BLABBER - CYBERPATH: DOUGLAS BECKSTEAD(ITHACA, N.Y.) How to spot an online fibber: They talk too much, use more pronouns about others and use more terms about the senses, such as "see," "hear" and "feel," than people telling the truth, according to a new study by Corn ell University communication experts."Our study suggests that people who are lying to another person in a chat room or in instant messaging use approximately one-third more words, probably in their attempt to construct a more cohesive and detailed story in order to seem believable," says Jeff Hancock, assistant professor of communication in the College of Agriculture and Life Sciences (CALS) at Cornell."Perhaps more important is the finding that people being lied to also change the way they talk, even though they don't explicitly know they are being lied to," says Hancock. He found that targets of lies on the Web ask more questions and a...
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Technology and the Fast Food of Sex
2007-04-07 02:55:00
Ingenious 'blue' minds have found a way to exploit a most innocuous technology for sexual purposes.By Alon van DamHe checks his Rolex irritably as he bustles along through London's Gatwick airport. Clad in an Armani suit, his attache case swinging with every step as he busily sends an SMS message from his mobile phone, bystanders don't give him a second glance: just another yuppie businessman arranging a meeting. Except that Richard's meeting won't take place in a boardroom with executives, but in a public lavatory with a woman he's never met before and will never meet again after their "business" is concluded. For Richard is into toothing, a new sexual trend enabled by mobile phone technology.Toothing is a form of anonymous sex with strangers that relies on Bluetooth technology, from which it also derives its name. Bluetooth is a system devised by Ericsson that provides a way for devices like computers, cameras, printers and mobile phones to communicate and convey informatio...
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Doug Beckstead - More Excuses Than A Disgraced Politician
2007-04-06 07:37:00
Let's read some of the wit & charm (and WORD SALAD) of our Predator of the Month, Doug Beck s tead. See if you know an online "friend" like this!Beckstead loves bending his target's ears with his tales of woe, his tales of his so busy & popular life, his tales of how he was in law enforcement (rrriiiiigggghhhhttt). Doug's just so good with his family, friends and life in general. Who wouldn't want to be a part of this predator.... er, man's life - even if only online?He tries to paint a very normal picture of himself, he's "oh so busy" and has "oh so many friends" that want his time & energy. Why he's more popular than the ice cream truck in August isn't he?Or is he?(as always our comments are in purple)~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~From: "Doug Beckstead" To: XXXXSubject: Okay, Here's a Long Answer to Your Long E-MailGood afternoon! Well, this has been a real hectic day and I still feel like I have gotten absolutely nothing accomplished. I am soooooo frustrated with it. On top of...
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Americans Must Have Criminal Checks Before Contacting Foreigners on Interne
2007-04-04 03:26:00
A new federal law that makes it a crime for America ns to communicate with foreigners on dating websites without criminal background checks is upheld by a federal judge. Washington, DC -- On March 26, 2007, a new federal law restricting American s from contacting foreigners through internet dating sites was upheld by a federal court after a Constitutional challenge by an internet dating company. In European Connections v. Alberto Gonzales, 1:06-CV-0426-CC, Judge Clarence Cooper of the US District Court for the Northern District of Georgia dismissed a lawsuit by European Connections which claimed that the law violated the right to freedom of speech contained in the First Amendment to the United States Constitution. The plaintiff had failed to challenge the law based on the First Amendment right to assemble. According to Tristan Laurent, President of the advocacy group Online Dating Rights, "We will now have to take legal action from the point of view of the users of o...
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The Emotional Cost of Infidelity
2007-04-03 02:13:00
By Pam GerhardtNearly four years ago Linda Shafer, divorced and living alone with her dog in Oklahoma City, logged onto her computer after a long day of social work and entered the world of Internet chat rooms. One man sparked her interest. They started a private conversation."This wasn't the usual 'how much do you weigh' or 'what color is your hair?' " says Shafer, a social worker with the federal government. "This was different."As it turned out, he lived close by. After a few weeks of intense, personal dialogue, he suggested they meet for lunch. He was married with children."This was the stupid part," says Shafer, her voice soft, kind, a voice that troubled families--her clients--can trust. "I thought it would be harmless just to meet a married man for lunch. Well, I met him."Shafer didn't know it at the time, but she had already entered stage three of an extramarital affair that would last 3 1/2 years, bringing her moments of bliss, hours of sorrow.Nearly all affairs--yes,...
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APRIL 2007 PREDATOR OF THE MONTH - DOUGLAS BECKSTEAD
2007-04-02 02:04:00
STARTING THOUGHTS AND INFORMATION FROM ONE OF BECKSTEAD'S VICTIMS:(as always, EOPC's comments in Purple)Full Name: Douglas S. Beck s tead.But commonly is known as Doug Beckstead or Douglas Beckstead for his business liaisons.His Internet nicknames:'dog driver''Grizzly Adams''Road Runner''Louis XIV'there are probably more.He is currently living in Anchorage, Alaska, has been full time since the end of September 2006. He has lived in Alaska for some years now, alternating between Anchorage and Fairbanks. Originally moved to Alaska from Utah many years ago now. Got his masters in Utah. Has also lived in Philadelphia as a child. He has moved around quite a bit.He used to travel back and forth from Fairbanks, Alaska to Anchorage on a regular basis. Now in Anchorage supposedly to spend time with his now adult children. But obviously to see his wife as well as I soon discovered.The one online nickname I knew him by and most commonly used was 'dog driver'. I caught him last year...
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HOW ONLINE STUPIDITY CAN GET YOU IN BIG BIG TROUBLE!
2007-04-01 02:42:00
REVENGE OF THE SPAMGregory Steven Hart lives behind black metal gates in a house full of computers, elegant sculptures and expensive liquor that he never drinks.Three days after Christmas, Deputy Sheriff Russell Hemmendinger hauled Hart to jail. The charges were driving with a suspended license and resisting arrest. The deputy took him down in the driveway of his $367,000 Lutz home, in front of his pregnant wife and neighbors.Hart posted bail and went home and got to work. Within 24 hours, the first concerned citizen e-mailed the Pasco County Sheriff's Office.From: tom and rayTo: dtobin@pascosheriff.orgSubject: Is Officer R. Hemmendinger Gay?Has Officer R. Hemmendinger ever had sex with a boy that's under the age of 16?*****Hart is 43, a database developer for a massive health care corporation called Baxter International. He has a clean record, aside from nearly two dozen traffic tickets - mostly for speeding and running red lights - in the past decade. These led to the license su...
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NLP, Mind Control and Seduction
2007-03-31 07:06:00
We talk a great deal on this site about the seduction techniques used by cyberpaths. Similar techniques are used by seducers offline as well. Anyone - we mean ANYONE - irregardless of how smart or savvy you are - is a potential target.This doesn't make you stupid, gullible or irresponsible. These techniques are used by Advertisers, Marketers, Politicians, even Con Men and Success Seminar Gurus. We are exposed to it every day - so much so that we no longer see it. Here's some clickable links we hope you read to learn more about the science of everyday seduction:NLP = NeuroLinguistic ProgrammingReview of The Art of Seduction Influence at work -- Site that explains the different tools of influence and how they're used. Based on Cialdini's 7 Principles of influence.Encyclopedia of NLP -- Defines key terms in NLP, a collection of psychological influence and therapeutic techniques.Neurosemantics.com -- great online resource for NLP, state control and modelling.How to Become an Irresist...
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HOW TO HANDLE ONLINE HARRASSMENT
2007-03-30 02:54:00
FROM WHOAYou must clearly tell the harasser to stopGenerally speaking, it is unwise to communicate with a harasser. However, as soon as you determine that you are truly being harassed by someone, you must very clearly tell that person to stop. Simply say something like "Do not contact me in any way in the future" and leave it there. You do not need to explain why, just state that you do not want the person to contact you. Sometimes it is helpful to copy this message to the abuse department of the harasser's ISP. Keep a record of this message for your records. Do not respond to any further messages of any sort from the harasser. Don't have anyone else contact the harasser on your behalf.It is common for the harasser to claim that you are harassing him or her, but if you aren't contacting the person, it is clear that you aren't the harasser.Save everythingOne of the first impulses many harassment victims have is to just delete any communications they've received, and that's a ba...
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THE LURES OF THE ONLINE PREDATOR
2007-03-29 08:08:00
These are excerpts from the book THE ART OF SEDUCTION by Robert Greene. Many of these seduction techniques are time-tested and often used in sales & marketing as well as the training of Neuro-Linguistic Programming for salesmen and advertising persons. For anyone who thinks those "seduce women now" sites are total b.s. - think again. This is powerful, covert stuff that can penetrate even the smartest people. BEWAREBy the way, did you know that more intelligent people are EASIER to hypnotise? Ask any certified hypnotist and check this fact OUT!COMMENTS in PURPLE are the site owner's and not Mr. Greene'sHOW TO DO IT1-CHOOSE THE RIGHT VICTIMEverything depends on the target of your seduction. Study your prey thoroughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic. They are often isolated or at least somewhat unhappy (perhaps because of recent adverse circumstances), or can ea...
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MIKE CAMPBELL - REDUX
2007-03-28 03:46:00
UPDATE 3/27/07This isn't the first or last time EOPC has gotten or will get veiled threats of this nature via our comments. We see that Mr. Camp bell is still visiting this site daily. This poster came in from a Netscape News Aggregator which EOPC belongs to and promises to "personally see to it" that EOPC is closed down. What this poster did not bother to do was to see or read any of the many legal links on the left or the agreement form which we make all our victims sign and return. This poster also should send this same threat to many of the sites under "EXPOSE THEM" on the right, some of which also pick up stories from EOPC and other sites. This isn't the only place Mr. Campbell is listed and all these sites have a same, very high standard of report and liability.IP Address 64.183.222.# (Unknown Organization)ISP Unknown ISPLocationContinent : UnknownCountry : Unknown CountryLat/Long : unknownLanguage English (United States)en-usOperating System Microsoft WinX...
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IS IT LEGAL (redux)
2007-03-28 02:33:00
We are reposting this article due to popular demand:IS IT LEGAL (To Expose a Cheater or Abuser Online)? by FighterCLICK HERE TO READAnd an excerpt from a recent article along the same legal lines:"Obviously, the men have the option of attempting to sue the women who post information about them, if they can figure out who they are. (Of course the women couldn countersue for INTENTIONAL INFLICTION OF EMOTIONAL DISTRESS and ALIENATION OF AFFECTION (if married). Since many women develop PTSD ['Emotional Rape Syndrome'] and severe depression from Cyberpaths - these women's claims may be easier to prove. - Fighter) If the Postings are False, Are They Defamatory?"....Moreover, "substantial truth" - truth in substance, but not in the details -- is a full defense to a defamation claim. So any man who is contesting a claim of infidelity, probably should never have been unfaithful - at least, in the recent past.(Which is why this site has such a rigorous standard of proof - Fighter) "......
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YOU ARE NOT GOING CRAZY!
2007-03-27 02:50:00
In the introduction to the 25th Anniversary Edition of her book, Women and Madness, Phyliss Chesler, M.D. writes:We now understand that women and men are not "crazy" or "defective"when, in response to trauma, they develop post traumatic symptoms,including insomnia, flashbacks, phobias, panic attacks, anxiety,depression, dissociation, a numbed toughness, amnesia, shame, guilt, self-loathing, self-mutilation, and social withdrawal.Oppression causes bodily changes. These changes make you think you are going crazy. There is a difference between a mental illness and a psychological injury. Victims of abuse are not mentally ill, they have been injured. ORIGINAL POSTONLINE PREDATORS/CYBERPATHS CAUSE EMOTIONAL TRAUMA!! Serious mental & emotional distress. Do not let others minimize what has happened to you! - Fighter
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The Online Disinhibition Effect
2007-03-26 02:06:00
It's well known that people say and do things in cyberspace that they wouldn't ordinarily say or do in the face-to-face world. They loosen up, feel more uninhibited, express themselves more openly. Researchers call this the "disinhibition effect." It's a double-edged sword. Sometimes people share very personal things about themselves. They reveal secret emotions, fears, wishes. Or they show unusual acts of kindness and generosity. On the other hand, the disinhibition effect may not be so benign. Out spills rude language and harsh criticisms, anger, hatred, even threats. They can start their own website where what they think or feel reigns supreme. Or people explore the dark underworld of the internet, places of pornography and violence, places they would never visit in the real world. On the positive side, the disinhibition indicates an attempt to understand and explore oneself, to work through problems and find new ways of being. And sometimes it is simply a blind catharsis, an ...
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GI Jerk aka Phil Haberman Sends Threatening Emails to Bloggers Via US Army
2007-03-25 10:31:00
From Fight Bigamy:BTW, Haberman is No Longer is in the ArmyPhil Haberman, appropriately named GI Jerk by Glenna Whitley of The Dallas Observer, has been real busy lately. 'Ole Phil has been sending emails via a United States Army email account (Haberman is no longer in the Army) to bloggers telling them "you are in violation of a court order by posting reference to myself and my ew (sic) wife on your homepage? As you see you are clearly aiding in the commission of a felony, and I dont (sic) think you want to have the civil or criminial (sic) reprocussions (sic) as a result of that action. I also find it interesting how I ended up on YOUR site when I was only married to her. It seems that those she has manipulated into believing her grand tales take ONLY her side and have not once spoken to me. Again, I hope you will remove all references immediately to avoid any legal issues that will arise if failure to do so results". See the email sent by Haberman to our friends at FIGHT BIGAMY ...
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Virtual State of Affairs
2007-03-24 03:42:00
A Virtual Stat e of AffairsA better way to cheat: One kiss leads to the next and she finds herself at the HiltonBy Sandy Lawrence EdryOn a chilly morning, Robin rushes to get ready for work as usual, though today she reminds herself not to put on pantyhose -- she has never figured out a way to remove them "sexily." Then she kisses her husband goodbye, drives her 15-month-old daughter to daycare, and heads to her secretarial job in suburban Philadelphia.BUT WHEN SHE GETS TO HER OFFICE, she ignores the papers piled on her desk and clicks the icon on her computer screen to launch America Online, which connects her to another, secret life. She sees on her buddy list that today's breakfast date has already signed on, and they confirm their rendezvous point: a deli near the airport. It's safe because it's public -- the man is a stranger, after all, despite their 4-week cyber-relationship -- and because it's decidedly unromantic. No one would suspect her real reasons for being there.Clo...
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New Jersey considers banning sex offenders from Internet use; Constitutiona
2007-03-23 02:43:00
Released sex offenders would be barred from using the Inter net and online dating sites would face new security rules under bills to be considered today by the Senate amid worries about child safety on the computer."We're living in some very scary times," said Senate President Richard J. Codey, who is sponsoring the legislative package that has raised constitutional questions and opposition from Internet companies.Under the plan, released sex offenders caught using the Internet would face up to 18 months in jail and fines of up to $10,000.Sex offenders caught using the Internet to solicit a child would face a mandatory five years in jail, rather than the three years they face under current law.A bill also would require online dating sites to notify New Jersey residents whether they do background checks, a proposal opposed by Internet companies such as Yahoo!, AOL, eHarmony and Match.com."Criminal background checks provide users of online dating with a false sense of security," said ...
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NET ABUSERS ARE PATHOLOGICAL
2007-03-22 07:13:00
IT'S OFFICIAL: NET ABUSERS ARE PATHOLOGICALBy Evan Schuman, TechWire CHICAGO -- Another yardstick of success will be achieved by the Internet community: It will be awarded its first official mental health disorder.The newly identified disorder will be dubbed Pathological Internet Use (PIU) and will be christened during the presentation of a major medical paper at the annual convention of the American Psychological Association in Chicago.The term is being coined by Dr. Kimberly Young, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Pittsburgh at Bradford, in Bradford, Pa. With her paper's presentation, the APA will classify excessive Internet use as addictive, in the same way that drugs (including alcohol), gambling, video games, and some types of eating disorders are today officially considered addictive.Like those other ailments, Internet addiction starts when the rest of the person's life starts to fall apart, the paper stated. The Internet is a fine hobby or work too...
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PREDATORS HUNT THE WOUNDED
2007-03-21 11:47:00
(an article everyone who goes online should read; whether you are an abuse survivor - or just vulnerable! - Fighter)An abuse survivor e-mailed me saying how she seemed to attract men who want to exploit her. On the other hand, good people seemed to run from her. Tragically, this is the common experience of abuse survivors, whether they be men or women. I had often puzzled as to why this is. The woman sent me a couple of photos of herself and suddenly I understood. No, she was not dressed to seduce.The reply I sent her was a little gentler than the following, but here is the essence of what I said:Your photos, though nice, give the impression that you are sad, shy, lacking in confidence and aching for love. An evil man (cyberpath/predator) might look at those photos and think to himself, “I bet her self-esteem is so low that she thinks no decent guy would want her. Her need for love and for a boost in self-esteem seem so great that if I let her think that I could meet these needs, ...
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DO THEY EVER ADMIT THEY LIED OR TWISTED THE FACTS?
2007-03-14 02:01:00
The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed." - Stephen BikoDO THEY EVER ADMIT THEY ARE LYING OR TWISTED THE FACTS?from this group(EOPC believes Cyberpathy is an expression of Narcissism - Fighter)We work to try to understand the essence of the narcissist. When I was trying to explain the N to a friend, she understood an N as someone not "able to face the pain of imagining they did something wrong". I wasn't sure about this so did a quick internet search on narcissists and admitting wrong and accepting fault, and got these quotes:- The narcissist often notices that something is wrong with him and with his life -- but he never admits it.- ... the narcissist is incapable of admitting that something is wrong with HIM- They will never admit fault, they will never say they are sorry. If something goes wrong, they will play the victim. They will blame others.- Remember they will never admit they are wrong, they will never debase themselves with an a...
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SOME OF THE INNER WORKINGS OF A CYBERPATH
2007-03-13 22:34:00
SOME OF THE INNER WORKINGS OF A CYBERPATH(extrapolated from the work of Lundy Bancroft)The cyberpath is controlling; he insists on having the last word in arguments and decisionmaking,he may make rules for the victim about her movements and personal contacts, such as forbidding her to contact or to see certain friends online or offhe is manipulative; he misleads people inside and outside of the family about hisabusiveness, he twists arguments around to make other people feel at fault, he changes times & dates to cover himself, and he turns into a sweet, sensitive person for extended periods of time when he feels that it is in his best interest to do sohis public image usually contrasts sharply with the online realityhe is entitled; he considers himself to have special rights and privileges not applicable toother family membershe believes that his needs should be at the center of the target's agenda, and that everyone should focus on keeping him happyhe typically believes that it is...
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HOW TO FLIRT ON THE NET
2007-03-12 02:39:00
HOW TO FLIRT WITH A WOMANON THE NET10 TIPS TO SUCCESSFUL CYBER-FLIRTING1. WOMEN WANT TO BE TREATED WELLThe same rules of gentlemanly conduct that apply in life, apply on the Net. Woman want to be treated well. Respect her and you'll be a winner. Offend her, and you're out of the game.2. LOVERS COME AND GO -- FRIENDS LAST FOREVER Although there are some women who are looking for a casual one-net stand, most women want a Cyber-Seduction to grow out of a friendship. If you can create a comfortable & safe place, chances are she'll want to play more. Even the most sensuous encounters are still all about creating relationships. They may not be permanent, they may not have the deepest emotional intimacy, but the guidelines for good relating apply to Cyber- Love as well.3. RECOGNIZE THE VARIOUS STAGES OF SEDUCTIONDifferent rules apply for each stage of seduction . Recognize what stage of the seduction you're in:First Stage: Making Contact.Second Stage: Flirt ing and Courtship.Third Stage...
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Online revenge sites latest landmine in modern dating game
2007-03-11 08:03:00
Online revenge sites latest landmine in modern dating gameBad dates beware — all your misdeeds and misbehaviour are a click away for all to see.If you have dumped someone unceremoniously, cheated, lied or otherwise been a sleaze or a stalker, read all about it on the Internet.Posting dating and mating horror stories of wrongdoing is the latest way to exact revenge on exes in the modern dating game.A new website owned by two Calgary entrepreneurs, www.playersandpsychos.com, is the latest venue to out bad boys and girls.The site includes stories written by the jilted about their lovers’ wrongdoings and, in many cases, the photos and full names of the so-called players and psychos and their tales of torment.The stories are nasty.People are called out as promiscuous, as sexually-transmitted-infection spreaders, drug addicts, cheaters, deadbeat dads, con artists, broke bums, prostitutes, sleazebags, dirtbags, all manner of bags, cyberpaths or e-whores. (The latter two are newish term...
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