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MARRIED & 'ECHEATING': A DREADFUL ALLIANCE
2007-03-10 08:03:00
MARRIED & 'ECHEATING': A DREADFUL ALLIANCEIn Homer’s Odyssey (a Greek Myth) sailors were lured to their death by Sirens, mythological temptresses who sang seductive songs. Sailors called Argonauts escaped the songs, because of the great musician Orpheus. He played his lyre so beautifully, that it drowned out the songs from the Sirens. His decisive deed saved the crew from total devastation.Today’s version of this enticement is “ECheat ing” - a phrase I’ve coined. “ECheating ” enchants new scalawags to an internet isle. Rather than sail, today’s Argonauts surf to this island. In great numbers surfers are defying danger and destruction for a chance encounter - a rendezvous.Here’s one such tale:Martin leaves mornings for work before rush hour. He hates the wasted time or so he’s been coached to tell Michelle, his unwitting wife. She cleans up breakfast dishes before heading off to work an hour later. Michelle loves Martin and thinks of him throughout the day. She fa...
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INSIDE THE ABUSIVE MIND
2007-03-09 03:32:00
Abusive people typically think they are unique, so different from other people that they don't have to follow the same rules as everyone else. But actually, abusers have a lot in common with one another and share a great many thinking patterns and behaviors. These may include:Success Fantasies: The abuser believes in fantasies of being rich, famous, or extremely successful in other terms if only other people weren't holding him back. They're blocking the way makes the abuser feel justified in getting back at them, including through abuse. The abuser also puts other people down as a way of building himself up. Blaming: The abuser shifts responsibility for certain actions to others, which allows the abuser to be angry at the other person for "causing" the behavior. For example: "If you would stay out of it while I am disciplining the kids, I could do it without hitting them."Redefining: The abuser redefines the situation so that the problem lies not with the abuser but with others ...
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INVESTOR POSED AS HER ON 'NET AND SET HER UP TO BE RAPED
2007-03-08 02:20:00
(Cyber identity theft can happen to you!! Sometimes its financial, sometimes its just for sick twisted reasons. As bizarre as it sounds - It can and does happen. Be careful who you trust!)By JANA WINTER, RODDY BOYD & KATE SHEEHYA renowned hedge-fund honcho hatched a heinous revenge plot against his former mistress by posing as her on the Internet - saying she wanted to be kidnapped and raped as part of a sicko sex fantasy, officials said yesterday.Albert Hsu, 43, a wealthy, married dad of two and former Cub Scout leader, posted his fiendish ad on a hardcore, S&M Web site, Connecticut authorities said.He allegedly included the woman's name, photo, address, license-plate number, train schedule to and from work and even the rail car she usually sits in."The defendant set the victim up to be abducted and raped by a complete stranger," prosecutor Ricki Goldstein said in Norwalk, Conn., Superior Court.Hsu, who co-founded Anchor Point Capital in New York City after overseeing billions i...
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A Love Triangle by E-Mail
2007-03-07 03:02:00
It was Henry L. Stimson, serving as Herbert Hoover's Secretary of State, who famously said, "Gentlemen don't read each other's mail." That was 1929. Things have changed.The State Attorney's office in the Lisa Nowak case has released 250 pages of documents, and they make for steamy reading. We've posted some text HERE. Most of what you'll find are emails between Bill Oefelein, the fellow astronaut Nowak allegedly pined for, and Colleen Shipman, the Air Force captain he was seeing even before he broke up with Nowak.You read right. Oefelein tells investigators that he did indeed have an affair with Nowak, starting in 2004. That apparently contradics her version, back in February, that their relationship, while "more than professional," was less than romantic. "Bill is absolutely the best person I've ever known and I love him more than I knew possible," Nowak wrote in a letter to Oefelein's mother.Take a look, as well, at Gina Sunseri's REPORT on the case. She says there...
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WHY LISA NOWAK SNAPPED
2007-03-07 02:09:00
What would cause a highly educated, seemingly successful person to snap?Some are asking that question in the case of an astronaut accused of trying to kill another woman in a purported love triangle.Wednesday on TODAY, psychiatrist and television personality Dr. Keith Ablow offered his perspective, saying astronaut Lisa Nowak may have underlying "unresolved issues" and as a result "lost perspective." "It is very hard for people to understand," said Ablow, "but these are feelings that cut across all social barriers. They cut across how accomplished you are at work. When affairs of the heart are involved, people sometimes tap very primitive and primal unresolved issues in their psyches and those come to the fore."Nowak, 43, an astronaut who flew aboard the space shuttle Discovery last year, returned home to Houston on Wednesday after posting $25,500 bail. She was charged a day earlier in Florida with attempted murder of the woman she believed was her romantic rival for a space shuttle...
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THE HUGE HURT: BETRAYAL
2007-01-27 00:46:05
Betrayal, when realized, is a phenomenal existential feeling. Suddenly, your world is no longer the one you believed in. You question reality, but most of all you question yourself. How, you wonder, could I have been so naive, stupid, blind, trusting, unseeing, unknowing? It may be difficult to believe, but these questions are good. YOU are the normal person, the one who aligns reality (he was so nice to me, he was my friend) with a cognitive belief: he ACTS as if he likes me, he TELLS me he likes me, I see no reason not to believe him because in my past, people who act and speak this way, CAN be trusted. There is congruency. But not now. Suddenly, you learn that someone trusted - a spouse, lover, family member, close friend - has been putting you down, lying, manipulating others against you, and yet maintaining a stance of intimacy with you. The world is not clear, the ground you stand on is wobbly. You will never feel good about this. But you CAN get past it. You can do so by r...
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WOMAN ASSAULTED BY A MAN SHE KNEW ONLINE
2007-01-26 12:45:01
By NATALIE DICK (North Carolina, USA) A young woman said she was sexually assaulted over the weekend by a man who she had been talking to online. The 21-year-old said she had been talking to the man through an online dating service and that this had been their first meeting. She said they met in public and he convinced her to follow him to his house where he later attacked her. Investigators said sex crimes linked to the internet are on the rise... ORIGINAL STORY HERE
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SEXUAL ARRANGEMENTS
2007-01-25 00:43:01
by Aidan Maconachy (excerpts) Are you in a loveless marriage? Has the thrill gone out of it? Sex once a month if you're lucky? If you live in a small community, cheating is often more of a risk than it's worth with neighborhood gossips on the prowl. In the UK there is a burgeoning internet business that focuses on putting married people in touch with one another for discreet affairs. A number of these services go out of their way to ensure the comfort levels of clients who don't want their extramarital affairs to interfere with the routine of family life. Some even offer tips on how best to avoid being caught and provide counseling on how to handle emotional fall-out such as guilt. Stress is laid on confidentiality, and there is an undertaking to safeguard clients' identities. Often sexual partners meet and make-out while using pseudonyms. That could get a little weird. Saying her name at the crucial moment wouldn't have the same resonance. Services that help the married wi...
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22-year-old Killed in Deadly Internet Love Triangle
2007-01-25 00:43:01
By Carolyn ThompsonBUFFALO, N.Y. -He was an 18-year-old Marine headed to war.She was an attractive young woman sending him off with pictures and lingerie.Or so each one thought.In reality, they were two middle-aged people carrying on an Inter net fantasy based on seemingly harmless lies.When a truthful 22-year-old was drawn in, authorities say, their cyber escape turned deadly."When you're on the Internet talking, you haven't got a clue who that is on the other end," Erie County Sheriff's Lt. Ron Kenyon said. "You don't have a clue."When Brian Barrett was shot to death Sept. 15 outside the factory where he worked to help pay for college, investigators and his family were stumped.Barrett, 22, was an aspiring industrial arts teacher, an accomplished high school athlete who had coached Little League all summer and helped his father coach soccer. Those who knew the Buffalo State College student described him as quiet and unassuming.He had clearly been targeted. Barrett was shot three...
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Finding Love(?) on the World Wide Web
2007-01-23 06:40:01
Excerpted from FINDING LOVE ON THE WORLD WIDE WEB .....Not all online relationships follow the happy course..., however. When senior Heather Baker's online relationship took a turn for the worse, it was too late for her to log off. Unplugging the cord Although Baker's former online boyfriend, Bryan, lived 500 miles away in Michigan, he still managed to exert control over her life through phone
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The Downside of Telling A Cyberpath's Spouse/Partner
2007-01-22 12:38:05
While exposing a predator (or any cheater/liar for that matter) can give YOU conceptual closure, bear the following things in mind while you plan how to do it:What if the partner/spouse/job doesn't believe you.... but believes THE PREDATOR!!You could lose your jobYou could be accused of harrassment or stalkingYou could be accused of a vendetta against the predatorYou could get a cease & desist order and/or Restraining Order filed against youThis is what the partner MIGHT do:*Tell YOU to stop pursuing their partner,* that the predator had told them what a nut you are,* your attentions were not welcome and please stop trying to come between their relationship and/or start trouble in their familyEven if you can produce emails, instant message transcripts, letters, gifts, photos, etc as proof of the relationship. This is what might happen: the partner/job can say they prove nothing. Predators are VERY GOOD LIARS & TALKERS!! Even if you have source codes saved on instant messages and ...
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(We are posting this because this 'mindset' of exploitation
2007-01-16 18:30:03
(We are posting this because this 'mindset' of exploitation applies to many Cyberpaths. It often starts with online porn and escalates to cyberpathy.Online Predators can be Sexual Predators (remember "J" - who tried to seduce his 'friends'; normal women as well as buying prostitutes on his lunch hour? and Ed Hicks - who sexually seduced women, was a serial bigamist and con man? Mike Campbell who uses his band and insurance business to connect with vulnerable women that breaks up marriages and destroys lives while he uses them for sex?These sexual predators and their sick treatment of those they prey on sexually & emotionally - just further their mindset that their targets are "objects" to be used and thrown away - and this carries into their online 'relationships' as well.This article gives a horrifying but very REAL assessment of these men and the damage they cause.... and much of the misogyny can be extended to male Cyberpaths as well. - Fighter)~~~~The Internet and Web, a...
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This story being posted, with permission, is by Shelly Marsh
2007-01-15 06:29:01
This story being posted, with permission, is by Shelly Mars hall - a friend of EOPC and the site owner of YOU ARE A TARGET. (please visit her site when you have a chance!) Her site is full of healing and validating words for those who have suffered all kinds of abuse.We thank her for her continued friendship and allowing us use of this story - Fighter.~~~~~"Would you give him the man back his keys," the deputy said into the phone.My sleepy voice came back, "Officer, I don't have his keys," He had awoken me at 2am and I could hear my husband in the background slamming doors and throwing things about. I was in the RV beside the house, having moved because of his all-pervasive anger and our impending divorce."Well, if you just happen to find them, would you throw them in the door? Or I will have to do a full investigation on you." The officer's insinuations pissed me off because I had done nothing but go to bed in the RV once my ex came home displaying his usual hostile demeanor. I r...
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JANUARY 2007 - PREDATOR OF THE MONTHMIKE CAMPBELLOne Victim
2007-01-15 06:29:01
JANUARY 2007 - PREDATOR OF THE MONTHMIKE CAMPBELLOne Victim Tells Her Story:About eight years ago my husband and I and four children joined a churchthat Mike and his family also joined. We and Mike live in the Duncanville, Texas area.Our children became close friends and stayted friends for a long time. We left the church to visit other ones and Mike would call my husband and try to get us to come back. This happened a few times because Mike is a insurance agent (his business bears his name) so he wanted to do the insurance on our house also when we moved. He called the house periodically throughout the years and would talk to me.Last year, we went through bankruptcy and Mike had messed up the insurance on our house which caused even more problems though I didn't realize this at the time. Eventually our marriage started having problems from all the stress and my husband was becoming angry and hard to live with. I was falling deeper into depression. (PREDATORS ALWAYS HUNT WOMEN LIK...
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by T.M. Grundner These are the facts: 1. Among t
2007-01-15 06:29:01
by T.M. Grundner These are the facts: 1. Among the millions of people on the Internet there exists a signifigant percentage for whom online pornography is not, and never will be, a "recreational pursuit." Rather it is, or soon will become an addiction. 2. Researchers and clinicians have established that pornography addiction contains all the characteristics of any other kind of addiction: mood altercation, compulsion, dependency, the need for higher and more exotic "doses" and withdrawl symptoms when the person tries to stop. 3. Because of the "Skinner Box Effect," pornography on the Internet is different and far more virulent than the customary forms. The reason is because it derives its potency from both the content of what is seen, AND from the way it is presented to the user by the technology itself. For those suffering from the problem, Dr. Grundner provides a series of behavioral and spiritual techniques to help stop the downward spiral. Over 30 perso...
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(ANOTHER HUMOR PIECE FROM YESTERDAY'S AUTHOR - Fighter
2007-01-15 06:29:01
(ANOTHER HUMOR PIECE FROM YESTERDAY'S AUTHOR - Fight er) The holiday season is upon us and we know what that means - it's time to go shopping! And let's all just take a moment to be honest. When we're out purchasing presents for those on our mandatory gift-giving list, we're really just buying useless crap we'd enjoy. So, what do you really want this year? Love? Romance? A quick piece of hot ass? The future Mr. or Mrs.? Thanks to the convenience of the World Wide Web, you can shop for gadgets to enlarge your penis, prescription medicines, toasters, stuffed animals and Mr. or Ms. Right (Now). Keeping with the theme of holiday honesty, we can all admit that we've done a little shopping through personal ads on the 'net. It's okay. It's not 1986 anymore. Everybody's doing it - even married folks. To assist with your holiday shopping, I'll provide some helpful hints on the joys of internet dating in a three part series. At this point, there may be some concern as t...
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(EOPC usually posts very serious articles. However, the b
2007-01-15 06:29:01
(EOPC usually posts very serious articles. However, the below is a HUMOR piece. A tongue-in-cheek look at "online dating." Enjoy! - Fighter) by Aldra Robinson The ball drops. It's officially a new year. Ever ywhere you look, people are kissing and cheering. You hug friends, grab a few cheek pecks and suck down a couple of mighty swigs of your cocktail. Patronizing friends pat your back and whisper that it's ok to be single on the Big Night and not to worry, because love is just around the corner. Instead of blackening their eyes, you smile and remind them that you rather enjoy the single life. Then the resolve sets in as you say under your breath - by gods, I will not be single again on New Year's Eve. Enter Internet dating. Yes, you swore you'd never do it? again. But you're not going to make the same mistakes as before. Eharmony? Yahoo! Personals? Meeting without first seeing a picture? F*** that. You're not some average doofus. You're special. Smart, even....
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So, at bottom, the nature of the narcissist is the n
2007-01-15 06:29:01
So, at bottom, the nature of the narcissist is the nature of a predator who preys on his own kind . The importance of that fact cannot be overstated. The brain of a predator just does not relate to the living soul of its prey. If you don't believe this, just watch PBS. Watch the behavior, and look into the eyes, of predatory animals while they're making a kill. There's nothing there. They are like machines at that moment. They must be, or they couldn't do it. In other words, Natur e has equipped them with hard-wired circuitry in the brain that takes over the moment prey is sighted when they are hungry. It suppresses what we could observe in that animal only a minute earlier while it was playing with its siblings or a waving leaf on a twig, tenderly nuzzling its offspring or mate. Perhaps it was even grieving over the death of a member of the pack. But that's all gone the moment it sights prey while hungry. Then suddenly it's a killing machine. It likes killing. N...
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It won't take much imagination, as you read this article - t
2007-01-15 06:29:01
It won't take much imagination, as you read this article - to transfer many of these tips to flirting ONLINE!Here's just a few:Try to respond to your e-mails as quickly as you can. This shows the person sending the message that you have interest and will make him or her feel good about corresponding with you.Start out by asking 'innocent' questions. For example, when you first start communication with someone, you could ask, "Did you do anything special this week?" or "Do you have any great plans for the weekend?" This will help you learn more about the person without seeming nosey. After you have been communicating with someone special for a while, you can use innocent questions to see if you can find an opening in time when the two of you might meet.Another way to flirt is by hinting at something interesting without actually giving away too much information. Perhaps you could say something like, "After this last weekend, I had to buy a new pair of shoes." Your comment leaves m...
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Hows To for Online Seducing! READ ON!
2006-10-01 07:16:00
When we come across these sites and their "contents" we will post them here. Yes, ladies you are TARGETS (don't forget WOMEN can be cyberpaths too and use the SAME TECHNIQUES on men they target!!) These 2 posts were taken from a site linked at the bottom. Read and see what these guys BRAG about doing to people ONLINE!! (LONG but well worth the read!!) sound familiar anyone?From the archives at this seduction website: http://www.pickupguide.com~~~~~"An excellent online seduction by David Shade!Message-ID: From: David ShadeX-Mailer: Mozilla 4.51 [en] (Win98; U)X-Accept-Language: enMIME-Version: 1.0Newsgroups: alt.seduction.fastSubject: the married roomContent-Type: text/plain; charset=us-asciiContent-Transfer-Encoding : 7bitLine s: 354Date: Mon, 12 Jul 1999 09:17:13 GMTNNTP-Posting-Host: 24.2.75.114X-Complaints-To: abuse@home.netX-Trace: news.rdc1.mi.home.com 931771033 24.2.75.114 (Mon, 12 Jul 1999 02:17:13 PDT)NNTP-Posting-Date: Mon, 12 Jul 1999 02:17:13 PDTOrganization: @Home Networ...
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PROSTITUTION THRIVES ON THE INTERNET
2006-03-30 08:21:00
(posting this in light of our boy "J"s sex-addiction and his love of high-price hookers [remember once he lost his job and couldn't go to hookers.... he turned someone he hadn't bothered with in 27 years just to use & toy with her, and subsequently her friends. Target #1 said she asked him about hookers in one of their FIRST conversations and he just lied to her repeatedly. Inter net sex addicts see others as sex-toys.... not people] Sex addiction is progressive - the addict needs more and more and doesn't care who he hurts or uses. The internet has made it far too easy for johns/ hobbyists/ addicts... and their objectified view of other people carries into the real & online 'lives' affecting everyone they come in contact with, sooner or later. - Fighter)by Mike BrunkerDemonstrating the adaptability that helped earn it the title of "world's oldest profession," prostitution is thriving on the Intern et, slipping into comfortable new guises like sex-for-money chatrooms an...
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THOUGHTS ABOUT CYBERPATHS FROM VICTIMS & PROFESSIONALS
2006-03-30 07:58:00
Here on EOPC, in both margins, we have quotes from victims of Cyberpaths and professionals dealing with Cyberpaths' victims as well as thoughts on the long term after-effects of their attacks.You may have read them elsewhere, you may not. We think they're important and powerful enough to include here so you can read them in their entirety - FighterFROM VICTIMS:"The potential for damage is overwhelming. Overnight, many lives are turned inside out when it has been revealed that the person that you gave your love and your complete trust to has betrayed you. The emotional and financial scars are deep"--- Target of Julia-Bish-Judah-Hunt-McGovern"I will gain strength, become a stronger and much wiser person from this devastating experience, but it will never be over. It will be with me for the remainder of my days on Earth. I will forever be changed by this most ultimate & intimate of betrayals... They throw us away like an old pair of shoes; and like the predators they are, they quic...
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Psychological torture as damaging as physical torture
2006-03-29 23:44:00
By Jonathan M. GitlinThe subject of torture has been in the news a lot lately, what with extraordinary rendition, secret prisons in Poland, detainee abuse in Abu Ghraib, Iraqi torture facilities, and the fight between the US Congress and the White House over just what you can and can't do to a prisoner. Everyone is pretty much on board with the idea that causing physical pain, a la the TV show 24, is verboten. But in this brave new world, the techniques being employed are more sophisticated than such trusty old standbys like beating the soles of the feet or inserting and then breaking glass catheters.Practices that have evolved from the men who stare at goats now aim to break down subjects through psychological means that leave no visible scars, and as a result they are far more palatable with the general public. Sleep deprivation, stress positions, sensory deprivation and the like are dismissed by pundits and defense lawyers as nothing like torture.But the aftereffects of such tre...
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THAT 'SOMETHING MORE' ABOUT "J"
2006-03-27 08:56:00
We will distill some of the aftermath of the explosion of the sex-addict games of our predator of the month, "J"s - twisted world. As with all of our predators prior to this, situations revolving around them is ongoing and we hope to update our readers about our predators and what happens as time goes on. - FighterThis expose left off with Target #1 taking everything to the police them telling her that "J" was a sex 'hobbyist' with an expensive hooker habit as well as a sex addict with a computer full of porn.Target #2 sent the things "J" sent her to the FBI, since she did not ask for the homemade porn he sent her. Target #2 told us she told "J"s publishers, job and family that he is a predator - using his articles as bait as well as ego strokes.- 1 month later: "J" and his wife apparently take out a cease & desist on Targets #1 and #2. Neither Targets ever recieved any notification of such an order. Target #1 finds out when she is hassled by a detective "J" and his wife spoke ...
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"J"s TARGET #2: TAKING HER STAND - AND A CAUTIONARY NOTE
2006-03-26 05:24:00
Target #2 gave us these emails between herself and "J" after he'd been exposed. We, of course, have taken out identifying information at the request of Target #1, who is concerned for "J"s family. Also, some comments from Target #2 and a cautionary note from EOPC! (our comments are in purple - Fighter)_______________YAHOO MAIL HEADER (verified)From: "J" To:Target #2Sent: Wednesday March 17, 2004 9:59AMI was on the train coming home I have told [my wife]and will finish telling her in a few. My (clergyman) already knew I spoke to him the other day. I know you hate me but please let her heal. I am canceling all my messenger accounts an made appointments for me to see a shrink Now please leave me alone TARGET #2 told EOPC: I was enraged! Precisely what had he told everyone? Leave him alone? Let his wife heal? He'd told me over & over he was in love with me and I was his soulmate. That he didn't love his wife and "our love would go on forever." Leave him alone? I don't thin...
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"J": THE SEX ADDICT/PREDATOR - FINALLY REVEALED.
2006-03-24 18:06:00
We will use portions of Target #1s interview with EOPC here to consolidate the nasty truth about that boy "J"! Please note, as we have said before we will not publish untrue statements or speculation. Everything we have here has been verified and verifiable documentation has been submitted. Our comments are in purple - FighterTarget #1: "I felt mortified, like a bad joke, stupid and ugly. I hadn't listen to my gut in almost two years. I would ask "J" point blank questions and he CONTINUED to lie to me. And I fully admit what I did was wrong. Very wrong and I take full responsibility. I was in a very deep depression and not thinking clearly - but it was still wrong. I felt so much guilt.I couldn't sleep, I was vomitting all the time, I was getting my kids to & from school but that was about it, my ex-husband thought I had lost my mind, "J" had THREATENED me and told me in an email I that he was going to help my ex-husband take my children away. All for simply telling the ...
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Why do YOU Always Have to be Right, Martyr Man?
2006-03-18 23:32:00
(this wonderful article can be read in its entirety at THIS SITE. It could be a letter to any of our cyberpaths. We recommend you read the whole thing at the site linked above! - Fighter)Dear Mart y r Man,You will always be the victim, in every situation where someone tries to get close to you. You cannot relate to women as equals. You look for a strong-willed woman, latch on to her, but envy her strength and ability to express herself openly, so you attack her in vicious little ways. Ways so subtle that you can easily and convincingly deny any wrongdoing and make HER look like the crazy one for even suspecting that you are a passive-aggressive game player.You played similar games with women before, and this was a chief motivator for their anger and "abuse" towards you. If they struck you physically, that was not right, but when you paint yourself as a martyr, you *always* fail to mention the emotional and psychological abuse you were inflicting on THEM.That's right, Martyr . You are...
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"J"s 'Apology' and more of this painful Saga of Sex Lies & Cyberpathy
2006-03-18 07:03:00
More from our phone and email interviews with "J"s targets:Target #1 - I was horrified, sick and feeling very used and stupid. That feeling I had in the pit of my stomach all along had been right and I ignored it. "J" had lied to me. Someone he knew. Everything was a big fat lie. Even the "friendship." The abuse I had been taking from my ex-husband because of "J" now made me feel very pathetic.I told Target #2 to go be with him because I truly wanted him to be happy. In my trauma and blinded thinking all I could think was to make him happy. And obviously, what was going to make him happy wasn't ever me. I also felt (and still feel) truly HORRIBLE that I introduced Target #2 to "J". She was pretty nasty to me about for a while after for introducing her to him and telling her what a great guy he was. I deserved it for being such an idiot.When I saw that he answered MY friend (FoT1) that he 'hadn't talked about Target #2' to me; but he had gone and smeared ME to Target #2....Tha...
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The Modus Operandi of the "Emotional Blackmailer" (CYBERPATH)
2006-03-14 23:35:00
The "Modus Opera ndi" of the Emotional Black mailer He is too good to be true - He is soft-spoken and polite, he smells good, he looks good, he is kind and loves women, he is respectful, he doesn't come on too strong FOR THE FIRST FEW MEETINGS ONLY. He's always on the lookout for a patsy, but he's in no hurry as there's always another one around the corner so he'll take his time in coming on to you. He'll be there more and more frequently -gazing at you with puppy dog eyes; wanting to know everything about you, asking your advice, making it look like you are getting to know each other and forming a bond. He will put himself in the best possible light - including lying through his teeth about his ambitions, activities, hopes and dreams. His seduction techniques are often subtle and well-practiced - It will seem he did nothing to seduce you until you look back and analyze it. He sat and stood close to you, he brushed against you, but it didn't seem to...
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Emotional Abusers - The Heart of Cyberpaths
2006-03-10 21:50:00
(some insightful excerpts from this great article - to read the whole thing click here A great guideline for starting to 'understand' your cyberpath. Edited out are statements that are not applicable but if you are in a possibly harmful relationship in real life? Please click on the link and read the entire article! Our comments are in purple. - Fighter)by Natalie P.Most people have had it happen: at some point in our lives we find ourselves manipulated or "guilted" into doing something we didn't want to do. We end up angry at ourselves for caving in, and resenting the other person for pressuring us.The thing is, while [we] would NEVER tolerate physical abuse, they can get blindsided by emotional abuse, and not even realize it's happening - especially if it is coming from someone they trust and love. Like physical abuse, emotional abuse becomes a vicious circle that chips away at your self-confidence, making it harder and harder to leave. If you are in a relationship where you...
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