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This mum doesn't believe in keeping kids happy
2007-12-10 07:42:00 I REFER to the article, 'Most S'pore kids are happy: Study' (ST, Nov 30).In the study, children were asked if they felt happy often and whether they had fun. As the majority indicated that they were happy, the study concluded that our children are generally emotionally healthy. A comment was also made that working mothers can now rest easy.I find this disturbing because it implies that our main task as parents is to ensure that our children are happy. As a mother of two, I know it does not take much work to make my children happy. All I need to do is turn on the TV and give them their favourite snacks and require them to do absolutely no work at all.I contend that as a mother, it is not my job to make my children feel happy but rather my job is to keep them unhappy.They are unhappy when I limit their intake of sugary foods and TV time because they are bad for them. They are unhappy when I do not allow them to have their way all the time or buy them whatever toy they want.They are... More About: Kids , Happy
The latest research on working women.
2007-11-27 18:01:00 http://pewresearch.org/pubs/536/working-w omen"In the span of the past decade, full-time work outside the home has lost some of its appeal to mothers. This trend holds both for mothers who have such jobs and those who don't.Among working mothers with minor children (ages 17 and under), just one-in-five (21%) say full-time work is the ideal situation for them, down from the 32% who said this back in 1997, according to a new Pew Research Center survey. Fully six-in-ten (up from 48% in 1997) of today's working mothers say part-time work would be their ideal, and another one-in-five (19%) say she would prefer not working at all outside the home. ....Meantime, even as mothers have grown less enamored with full-time work, a new division of opinion has opened up between working moms and at-home moms on the question of whether it's good or bad for society that more mothers are working outside the home.A decade ago, nearly identical pluralities of both groups (38% among at-home moms; 39% a... More About: Women , Working , Workin
With longer lifespans, women can have kids first, careers later: MP
2007-11-22 05:42:00 Nov 12, 2007By Lynn LeeAS PEOPLE live longer and retire later, women should consider putting their careers on hold to have children first, said a woman MP.They will have plenty of time to focus on their jobs later, said Mrs Josephine Teo, an MP for Bishan-Toa Payoh GRC.Mrs Teo, who has a son aged nine and twin daughters aged seven, was responding to concerns raised at a dialogue with PAP leaders over the low birth rate, despite national efforts to boost it.The efforts have ranged from cash to tax incentives, including a parenthood package worth $575million in 2005.But the increase in the birth rate has been small: There were 400 more babies in 2005 than the year before.Last year, 36,200 babies were registered, 700 more than those born the year before.Mrs Teo urged young couples to relook the conventional approach of putting career before children, as lifespans stretch.'If we think of...85 and beyond being a likelihood, what is the hurry to do the things that can be done later?'I w... More About: Women , Kids , Careers
How to get housewives, retirees back to work? New fund may help
2007-11-22 05:35:00 Nov 15, 2007Firms can tap $3 million fund for initiatives aimed at pool of 600,000 potential workersBy Keith LinEVERY hour, two security officers patrol the Tradehub 21 industrial park in Boon Lay Way - on bicycles.But this could change soon. Their bosses want to introduce golf buggies as a way of attracting more older workers to join the company.KH Security Agency sees it as the solution to the uphill task of getting workers.Yesterday, eyes lit up when news broke of a new fund that promises to give companies up to $100,000 to implement flexible or part-time measures at the workplace.The $3 million government fund, called the Flexi-Work s! scheme, was launched yesterday and is aimed at coaxing housewives and retirees to work again.It received loud cheers from companies like KH Security. Said its operations manager Gary Harris: 'This is timely given the dire manpower shortage facing our industry, especially after strict rules were introduced following the Sept 11 attacks on who we ca... More About: Back , Fund , Tire
What is fair and objective report?
2007-11-10 08:23:00 It was the second day of STB resumed Horizon Tower Hearing, here is the report from Business Times:Horizon Towers sale could be timed out by tribunal decision STB says it is not bound to rule by sale completion date; lawsuit looms By MICHELLE QUAH (SINGAPORE) The Strata Titles Board (STB) tribunal has delivered a startling decision that could spell the end of the en bloc sale of Horizon Towers. The ruling could in turn resurrect the $1 billion lawsuit filed by the buyers against the sellers.Tribunal chairman Philip Chan announced yesterday that the board was under no legal obligation to rule on whether to approve the collective sale on or before Dec 11, the sale completion date.This means, if the tribunal chooses to make a decision only after Dec 11, the sale agreement between the buyers and the sellers will lapse - and the en bloc sale will collapse.The decision took many observers by surprise since a ruling after the sale completion deadline would effectively render the role of th... More About: Report , Fair
The second shift
2007-11-06 04:54:00 By Arlie Russell HochschildHochschild, studied modern women mothers, observed the increasing mothers participating in economic world. In 1975, 47% of all American mothers with children under age eighteen worked for pay, and by 2000, the rate had risen to 73%. This upward trend applied to mothers of children age six and under as well: in 1990 49% of married mothers with children six and under were in the labour force, while in 2001 the percentage had risen to 63%, and for single mothers, it was from 49% to 70%; In 1975, 34% of mothers of children age three and under were doing paid work, and in 2000, this had risen to 61%. Mothers with children age one and under were in the labour force also rose from 31% in 1975 to 58% in 2000. She did a research on how did these women and their family coping the increased challenge, especially when they have to look after both small children and elderly parents. She found out, by adding together the time it takes to do a paid work and to do hou... More About: Shift
The fantistic trip- to remind us who we are!
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The Surprise at STB hearing
2007-10-30 15:32:00 It was a big surprise for everyone, when one of CSPs of Horizon Tower represented by her lawyer objected the validity of Collective Sales Agreement and the authority of newly elected Sales committee to expend the four months under Option of Purchase agreement with HPPL. Neither majority nor minority had expected such a surprise. After about half hour argument whether STBjurisdiction to decide such things, the chairman of STB board asked the lawyer to submit the written application by this Friday, and the counsel for majority owner CSPs shall give the reply on next Monday. At meantime, he didn't allow him to be a party.That shows the long suffered Horizon Tower owners will have a hard way ahead.Now, the main objections that minority owners will be regarding the "bad faith" of the sales agreement and whole procedure. The fate of this troubled dealing is still not clear. More About: Hearing
Book review on ?Time Bind? ? when work becomes home and home becomes work
2007-10-24 04:07:00 By Arlie Russell Hochschild Call No:HQ536 H685 After ?second shift?, where Hochschild observed the working mother had her first shift at work, second shift at home, she conducted an intensive research on one of Fortune 500 companies, Amerco, a highly profitable, innovative company with reputation of ?family friendly?, on its ?work and life? balance programme. The ?work/life balance? polices the company offered are rather standard: Flexible work hour arrangement Flexible place Part time Share job Maternity leave and Father?s maternity leave Her research results were surprising. Though it was appeared that all the right policies were in place, top management also full hearted supported the scheme, there were not many people to make use of these polices. The program of work/life balance did not achieve its goal to balance work and life. For various reasons: One factor contributed the failure of program could be the company hierarchy: Top management, who ... More About: Book Review , Time , Review , Home , Work
Modern Women?s New Struggle
2007-10-18 04:05:00 We are in modern era, for better or worse, modernization has forever changed human society, especially the life of modern women. We have seen the greater number of women in participating the economic workforce in past three decades, the more pertinent problem they are facing, is no longer gender discrimination, though it is not altogether disappearing, but rather how do these women copy with two demanding world, work and family. This is still a main women?s issue, according to Arlie Hochschild, just like there is gender gap in the work place, there is ?leisure gap? at home. For women, over a year, (according her research based on 50 US couples) have to work extra month of twenty-four-hour days than men. That means that women have her first shift at work, then she get her second shift at home. However, to make matter worse, more modern women now view work place as home, and home as work. In her second powerful book ?Time bind? Hochschild vividly painted this new dimension struggles ?... More About: Women , Modern
Judgment Day for Horizon Tower Appeal
2007-10-11 07:57:00 Today, Honorable Judge Choo Han Teck delivers his judgment in regarding of Horizon Tower appeal against STB?s decision to dismiss its application. To many of majority owner?s happiness and relief, he allows the appeal, and allows application remit back to STB with no further direction or amendment specially ordered by his honorable court. His judgment, in my laymen?s opinion, is perfectly balanced, fair and just. The principle which leads to his decision was the simple the principle of law, he states?in nature of law is always purposive for if man and society were perfect there would be no need for law. We often encounter complication when one principle of law appears irreconcilably incongruous with another. We are also often compelled to seek the middle course between extremes such as immutability and ephemerality; sometimes as an exercise in precision and sometimes out of nervous uncertainty. Nonetheless,the courts are also often urged to reject the compromise in order to be ... More About: Judgment , Izon , Appeal
HORIZON TOWERS SAGA
2007-10-04 04:18:00 Owners: missing pages are a minor defect Judge Choo to deliver judgment on appeal next week By MICHELLE QUAH (SINGAPORE) Yesterday's penultimate Horizon Towers appeal session was a decidedly tamer affair.Still, Senior Counsel K Shanmugam of Allen & Gledhill (A&G), acting for the Hotel Properties consortium, was not spared heckling by majority owners seated in the public gallery when he sought permission from the court to address submissions made by the minority owners the day before.Senior Counsel Michael Hwang, representing one of the minorities, opposed the move vigorously, arguing that only the applicants for the appeal - that is the majority owners, represented by the sales committee and their lawyers, Tan Rajah & Cheah - be allowed to reply to earlier submissions.Judge Choo Han Teck proposed a middle ground: he will accept a written reply from Mr Shanmugam, but not an oral rebuttal, after the session. Overall, the session was relatively calm, with Senior Counsel Chelva Rajah o... More About: Saga , Izon
Horizon Tower High Court Appeal Hearing
2007-10-04 02:54:00 Our "learned friend" restored a few time during the Horizon Tower Hearing that "the courtroom is not circus", but I found it even more amusing than circus.Hostile end to Horizon Towers hearing By Fiona Chan, Property Reporter TENSIONS ran high at the already prickly Horizon Towers hearing yesterday, as lawyers fought over who would have the last word.The heated exchanges lasted less than an hour but they were more hostile than any of the previous day-long sessions since last Friday. They brought to a close the appeal over the estate's bungled collective sale - an appeal peppered by barbed comments between highly paid lawyers and regular jeers and boos from the public gallery. The only lawyer scheduled to speak yesterday was Senior Counsel Chelva Rajah of Tan, Rajah and Cheah. He represents the condominium's majority owners, who have asked the High Court to overturn the Strata Titles Board's (STB's) dismissal of their collective sale application in August.Mr Rajah was to reply ... More About: High Court
Tip from Tae Kwon
2007-09-28 12:07:00 A friend of mine sent me this:-Because of recent abductions in daylight hours, refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation. This is for you to share with your wife, your children, everyone you know. After reading these 9 crucial tips, forward them to someone you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do:The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back taillights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.4. Women have a te...
Newspaper report is not accuate on En bloc mess
2007-09-26 05:43:00 From: The Straits Time Sep 23, 2007 En blocked: How Horizon Towers made history The Leonie Hill condo was just one of scores of estates snapped up by developers in a collective sales frenzy over the past two years. Now its owners are being sued by a developer in a landmark case that will go before the High Court on Thursday. How did it all come to this? Joyce Teo reports THE first hint that the $500 million sale faced trouble can be traced to an anonymous letter dated April 25 that was sent to owners of the condo's 210 units. It started: 'Dear fellow owners, Some of us begin to wonder if our en bloc exercise now makes sense.' The letter writers urged decisive action, suggesting that the owners of the 25-year-old property were being short-changed and that a far higher price was possible. 'If enough like-minded owners decide to rescind the (agreement) and the majority falls below 80 per cent, the application to the Strata Titles Board (STB) can be repealed.' The buyers were local... More About: Report , Bloc , Newspaper , Accu , Mess
SINGAPORE?S EN BLOC MESS
2007-09-25 01:43:00 In the 1970?s and early 1980?s, Singapore ?s building construction fever resulted in many heritage buildings including almost the entire China town, being bulldozed away to make room for modern, tall skyscrapers. Today?s en bloc fever has the setting for a remake.We however should not just refer to solidly constructed buildings, giving way to taller skyscrapers, changing our accustomed landscape. Far worse is the legal mess popping out in en bloc sales, hogging the front pages of many newspapers. This in turn stems from the Building Maintenance and Strata Management Act that governs en bloc sales, which new changes coming into effect on 1 October 2007 are unlikely to solve. The fundamental problem is that a law originally aimed at ensuring the proper maintenance of apartment buildings has become the Code for takeover purchases of buildings for enforcing the sale upon reluctant minority owners.In the case of equities, the law protects minority shareholders from forced selling, up ... More About: Bloc , Mess
A Mother?s Power of Influence
2007-09-21 07:53:00 Recently I met up with a retired teacher. She was expert on early childhood education. Our conversation was not surprisingly all about children issue. As an experience mother and teacher, she gave me many wonderful insights on how a mother impact on her children?s development.One thing she impressed me was that the mother?s impact to her children was so confound that it seems to be the most powerful force to shape a child?s temperament in early year, though the personality of this child is subject to many factors? influence and can be formed and reformed according to circumstance. That is to say a mother can positively or negatively affect her children?s temperament.We do see many empirical evidences. An anxious mother is often to be seen to have an anxious child; a calm mother is often to be seen to have a confident child; a sad mother, with a sad child; a happy mother, with jubilant child...Later, I met this lady?s daughter, once again confirmed my ?sociological observation?.... More About: Power , Mother , Influence
Full Time Mother's choice- a personal one or social one?
2007-09-12 14:47:00 I have greatly benefited from the study on Sociology. Though from a science background, I do appreciate "sociology" as the systematic study of human society. One of significant differences of Sociology from other natural sciences is the studying objects are often subjects too. That makes certain difficulties in searching any definite scientific laws if any, which were/and are guiding and ruling the course of human society.Giving the complexity and fast changing world we have in now, it is however beneficial, to adapt the sociological perspective into our daily living, this sociological perspective becomes a way of thinking and a form of consciousness and a critical way of seeing the world and ourselves.The sociological perspective has the following benefits (from my textbook):it allows us to challenge familiar understanding of ourselves and of others so that we can critically assess the truth of commonly held assumptionsIt enables us to assess both the opportunities and constrains... More About: Personal , Social , Time , Choice , Full
Difficulties and Opportunities
2007-09-07 08:01:00 From baby to a teenage, from a youth to an adult, from adult to midlife and from midlife to retirement, each stage of life has its own challenges and opportunities.We humans, by the nature, have need for security, for stabilities for belonging and for satisfaction besides of basic physical and emotional needs. We are venerable to external changes and internal struggles. Full time mother certainly is not exception. Even with you best mind and effort, the difficulties will flow into your life. The difficult may crash your present world; but also it may create the total new opportunity and resources. Just like the economic crisis may lead to any social and political revolution, the new relation of production and new mode of production will re-established. Two year ago, the worst ever hurricane Catherine hit Louisianan in USA, there was devastating situation without any business hope, two year later, today, Louisianan is the land of with flourish business opportunity.That however d... More About: Opportunities , Unit , Diff
Midlife Crisis
2007-08-30 18:06:00 There is a common phenomenon called Midlife crisis. It refers to a transition period from young adult to midlife. That is time when many men and women have more or less established their family, career. Work has become a routine and losses its freshness and challenging; Children are now more independent, they start to have their own friends; spouse has become very familiar, very often, too familiar to care more. Suddenly there is an emptiness and weariness for day to day routine.They often experience a disharmony and dismemberment that is a call for growth in consciousness and a change of life.One of my friends, in his early 40?s, having a lucrative job and a comfortable home and a loving family, but the urge to change was so strong that he finally decided to resign from his job and became a full time minister; another one, being a stay at home for six years, she devoted her time and energy to look after her two daughters, when they entered school, she suddenly felt quite at los... More About: Crisis , Midlife crisis , Cris
Sociological Imagination
2007-08-26 15:39:00 This is the term that C.W Mills, a re-know sociologist,coined to explain what he sees as the essential task of the social science: to facilitate self-understanding. Mills argues that if we are to understand ourselves in particular, and human behavior in general. Ht thinks that when facing dramatic social changing and development, what the ordinary people need are not only information, knowledge and skills but the quality of mind, which he called "Sociological Imagination "By this, one is able to transcend personal troubles into public matters, and all the individuals problems are determined by social structure and social function. If only can one develop this sociological imagination, he/she will no longer see his/her biographies as isolated events but within the context of our society and its larger historical context.Understanding the interconnection or intersection of biography and history is the first step in self-understanding. To develop the intellectual capacity or quality ... More About: Logical , Logi
Teenager Sex Education
2007-08-23 09:55:00 This morning as I drove my children to school, I heard this week?s ?Edu-talk show? on the air. The topic was ?The teenagers? sexual issue?. It reviewed an alarming statistics. In recent survey to local secondary schools (I didn?t catch how many of them), they found that:13% teenager students are sexual active4% of them who do not use any contraceptive measures.... The main show carried on talking on how to make ?sex education? more effective, in other word, how to teach more students to use more contraceptive measures. When asked why the students are more liberal and opened minded towards teenager sex, one of students in discuss panel answered: ?The media influence?. How true it is. The bombarded, massive ?media influence? on TV, movie, computer game and internet has subtly disarmed our moral standard in our society. Teenager sex is no longer viewed as moral disgrace, but accepted as a life style. The lust replaces the love, the very thing a virgin treasures before ... More About: Education , Duca , Ager , Sex Education
A privilege of being a ?Stay at home? mum,
2007-08-16 16:54:00 To be a full time mother or "stay at home mum" is really a privilege.Time is our great enemy for all parents, time changes our babies into teenage and adults in no time. My children need me most when they are young, while my job can wait. Their beautiful, wonderful and innocent childhood fly like wind, passing quickly, it is more worthy to enjoy these time together.The study done by Teachers College, Social work professor finds association between mothers working full time and young child?s cognitive and verbal development. Professor Jeanne Brooks of Columbia Teachers College and her colleagues found that even after taking into consideration of quality of child care, the home environment and maternal sensitivity, the researchers found lower cognitive development for the children of mothers who worked full (30 or more hours per weeks) during the first nine months of life.No one, not best childcare service can raise my children better than I can, no one loves my children more than ... More About: Home , Stay
Sermon against Homosexuality
2007-08-12 08:19:00 I have heard an insightful and very informative sermon by Rev Charles Seet at Live BP church. His sermon was about ?That which is against nature?Here are key points summarized from his sermon.Sin has caused us:to change the knowledge about God;to change the worship to God;to change the gift of God.In particular case of homosexuality, our society has changed the attitude toward it over the times:Before 1967 it was widely regarded as a crime called sodomy; Sigmund Freud reduced it to a morally neutral mental illness; by the 70s and 80s, it was attributed to environmental conditioning. Later on it became an alternative lifestyle. Today it is advocated as a preferred way of life to provide the highest form of loving relationship and the best means of population control. Many famous people publicly confess that they are homosexuals, giving it a new respectful image. Within last seven years, the same sex marriage have been legalized in five countries and recognized in other three.Wha... More About: Homosexuality , Sermon , Ality
Facing "Mother's Sin"
2007-08-07 17:15:00 The Sins of the Mother From ?Stories from the motherline? by Naomi Lowinsky Many have hoped to master the parental skills so that our children will go up to be happy, well adjusted, successful and proud of us. But parental failure is almost inevitable to certain degree. Maybe it is due to generation gap, children always complain of their parents do not understand them; parents often comment the generation changes.However, the truth is that we are bound to fail our children by our own human limitation. We need to be peopling as well as children do. We are certain to err on the side of too much or too little control, discipline, love, support, attention, money. We are doomed to fail the ones we love the most.This is why ?the terrible? is part of every mother-child relationship. Mothers and children live in different bodies, are born into different families in different historical contexts and different psychology frame. They are people in different life stages, usually of differ... More About: Facing
Children Discipline
2007-08-03 03:41:00 Discipline in the home and the school has become a major problem and increasing inability and inefficiency in managing children,The traditional rewards and punishments method are no longer effective but also creates a number of problems:1. Punishment has the effect of inviting retaliation. A parent who smacks a boy for hitting his sister and then sends him to his room may find that the boy scribbles all over the wallpaper. What he is saying is: ?if you have the right to hurt me, I have the same right to hurt you, your things? Revenge and retaliation are characteristic of children who are controlled by punishment.2. Punishment has the effect of temporarily suppressing behavior but not of eliminating it. A parent who punishes a child for coming home late from school will find that, for a short time, the child will come home on time. But observe the child a few weeks later and you will find the undesired behavior will come back again. More punishment will again temporarily suppres... More About: Children , Discipline , Disc
?Is not fair??
2007-07-31 02:10:00 My children often complain ?It is not fair?. They are comparing all kinds of things, privileges to go out with parents, size of birthday cakes, stories mum read, pencils received in different colours, and (always, his colours is nice than mine)?.I am always trying to be a fair mother, but soon I find there is no absolute fairness in this world. I have to take my youngest son with me every time I run errands, am I not fair to my other children? I have to spend more with one of my sons with his reading, while my daughter is proficient in reading without even by my help, so am I not fair?I have to punish the bigger one when fighting happened between two of them. Our rule is the big is required always to give in to the younger, am I not being unfair?I have to give more food to my eldest son, for he has been on the growing spurge at the age of 8. ?..Fair ness is only found in principle, however, not in absolute quantity. As a mother, I love all of my children, but I cannot give them e... More About: Fairness
Understanding the children?s behaviour
2007-07-29 11:10:00 Many parents have difficulties to understand their children?s behaviour. It will be helpful for parents to have the basic knowledge on human behaviour. There are two groups of psychological principles to explain the children behaviour.One is referring to Individual Psychology, which is a view of people which recognises them as active decision makers, as purposeful and goal oriented individuals, free to determine their own behaviour, understood only within their social environment, and the other views on the nature of people exist, sees them as passive products of their environment, motivated by unconscious forces such as sex and aggression.The parental relationship with their children has evolved from autocratic to democratic in today society, and the Individual Psychology principle provides a more acceptable approach for today?s parents to raise up their children in this relatively new changing society. Therefore, the following principles provide a framework for parents to unders... More About: Children , Behaviour , Understand , Standing , Under
Feminism and Women's Life
2007-07-25 10:09:00 I cannot help but thinking whether the Feminism movement did any good for women's life. What was Feminism movement really up to?In early 60's Betty Friedan published her "Feminine Mystique" in which she revealed the suffering of women:-the suffocation of the women of her time, the narrow servitude of their roles as mothers and housewives. This book evoked the longing for women for more than just being at home.While women?s legal and social status have significantly improved - women are enjoying much better human rights and gender equality today- working mothers however continue to face greater challenges compared with older women whose main roles as recognized culturally and socially were childbearing, child caring and homemaking.Since 1990, dual?career couples constituted more than 45 per cent of all married couples in Singapore and from 1980-1990, the number of dual-career couples also doubled. Today, it is estimated to constitute more than 60 per cent working mothers of all f... More About: Life
Full Time Motherhood - the career with possiblities
More articles from this author:2007-07-23 09:21:00 We have been talking about Full Time Motherhood as the career with all possibilities. Besides all other skills and experiences a mother can develop, the most important task of all for a mother is to bring up her children. This is her main duty. The career of motherhood is one of noblest, most challenging, yet most rewarding one because a child carries our hope, our linkage from present to future, our strength and weakness. A mother, being a coworker and stewardess together with God, our creator, will shape up a human. Every child is unique to his/her mother and every mother is special to her child. You don?t have to be a perfect mother, just be a whole hearted mother. What a privilege and responsibility that will be.When a woman becomes a mother, she experiences so many wonderful transformations. From a tiny egg in her womb miraculously conceived, from tiny embryo miraculously formed into a shape of a human, from the labor of birth, from the first feeding, not only physically, ... More About: Career , Ossi 1, 2, 3 |
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