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Want to be "In Love"?
2007-07-19 04:08:00
Want to be "In Love "?Do you long to feel very much in love? Do you ever look at your partner and wonder where the magic went? Many people have the mistaken idea that loving feelings come first and that loving actions follow. It sometimes seems as if that is what happens in the beginning of a relationship—you fall in love and then you act in loving ways. However even in the beginning it is the choice to smile, flirt and do nice things for each other that leads to and fans those loving feelings. If you want to stay in love then you need to continue to choose to behave in loving ways. When you first met and were getting to know one another and nurturing your budding relationship, you probably went out of your way to be considerate and kind. You found creative ways to show that you cared. You found ways to surprise and give gifts to each other. Over time some of that effort may have waned. Chances are that, right now, you know what it is that you could give to your partner—that some...

Love Changes Everything
2007-06-26 16:22:00
Love Changes EverythingRelationships are vulnerable to outside influences, like pressure from family and friends, from job stresses and a myriad other things life can throw at a person. These stresses are normal and sometimes difficult to handle. Yet, they can be dealt with in a successful manner when both are on the same page. When each partner loves and wants the best for the other and supports them as a matter of fact, then dealing these issues can actually strengthen the relationship. With patience and perseverance couples can help each other deal with their respective worlds outside the relationship.It is when the relationship suffers a blow from within that causes the biggest problem. Some of these issues might be an over-controlling spouse, an absent husband, passive aggressive behaviors, jealousy, mistrust, untrustworthy behavior, belittling and whatever else people bring to a relationship that is destructive. Resolving these issues is not easy as the issues are not usually ...
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Selfishness Destroys Relationships
2007-06-26 16:07:00
Selfishness Destroys Relationships Selfishness is a destructive force in any relationship, but more so in marriage because of the increased amount of time spent together. Things that you may be understanding or tolerant about with a friend or acquaintance may be unbearable when you have to live with them day after day. We all need to stop and consider in what ways we may be acting selfishly in our relationship. It is often easier to see how our partner is being selfish and can be tempting to point out to them their follies. But since it is so true that the only person we can change is our self, we need to begin and end with striving to improve our self. We can make conscious choices to be kind, considerate, and thoughtful—rregardless of the behavior of our partner. We can look for ways to be loving in our relationship. As we focus on being more loving and selfless; giving gifts of love unconditionally to our partner, we will soon find these gifts returning to us.This does not mean ...

In This Corner: Learn to Fight Fair
2007-06-08 20:34:00
In This Corner : Learn to Fight Fair In every relationship there are ups and downs. The secret is to have more ups than downs and to have ups that are higher than the downs are deep. Anyway, disagreements don't mean that there are major problems. It just means that you are both alive.The secret about dealing with disagreements is to not allow them to escalate into full-scale battles. And that means that you have to know how to fight fair. Now if that isn't an oxymoron nothing is. But it is true. Just like for the world's armies in times of war, there has to be rules of engagement. These are the guidelines that keep each other safe. We need that because we know that there will be disagreements, in fact there will be fights, so we need to be prepared for those times.Knowing that we are going to get into fights now and again lets us get ready. When things are going real good at the beginning of the relationship is the time to prepare for those eventual disagreements and squabbles. Now...

Resentment Reduces Sex Drive
2007-06-02 15:25:00
Resentment Reduces Sex Drive If you find that you sex drive has diminished noticeably, you may want to check your mood barometer. Check to see if you have residual resentment carried over from previous experiences. Check for hidden anger or frustration with your lover.Have you smiled and said, “That’s okay.” when it wasn’t okay at all. Are you keeping a mental tally of offences?Allowing resentment to build in your relationship is going to adversely affect your sex life. Each resentment takes energy to maintain. This is energy that is not available to invigorate your life, your relationship or the bedroom. Harboring resentment is very draining, it can literally suck the fun right out of your sex life.Ask yourself, “Am I angry with my lover today?” “Are there hurts or resentments from our past that still carry some pain?” You may want to write out the items on your “s/he was such a jerk” list. If there is something on that list that needs to be dealt with, then make...
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