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Get Bouncing Everyone!
2008-06-05 18:00:00
Have you ever had one of those days, or months, or years, when you felt like life?s situations were locking a ball and chain around you, holding you stuck in a negative situation or keeping you trapped in a depressed or sad mood? Do you want to move forward but don?t know how to shake it off?Help is here! ?I?m delighted to have Karen Salmansohn as my guest today. She?s a best selling author of many books with over 1 million sold. Her newest is The Bounce Back Book: How To Thrive In The Face Of Adversity, Setbacks And Losses (Workman Publishing Company, 2008). It?s dressed in a symbolic red rubber cover. Just like a red rubber ball bounces back when it?s thrown against a wall, Karen tells her readers how to bounce back from a variety of situations.The Bounce Back Book has gotten high praise from many impressive folks, including Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, and Lucy S. Danziger, Editor-in-Chief of SELF. It?s a great gift for someone you know who?s going though a personal struggle or ...

Saying ?No? Without Saying ?No?
2008-06-04 00:34:00
In my last post, I discussed why saying ?no? is important. We?re often afraid that if we turn people down when they ask for something, they won?t like us. Since saying the actual word ?no? can feel uncomfortable, but there are alternative that work well.Find firm ways to turn folks down without the word ever crossing your lips.Little white lies ease you into it. If it?s more comfortable at first, create excuses. Someone calls for a lift ? you just washed your hair. Can you come watch her kids? You?re writing a report. Survival excuses allow you to bow out nicely. Consistent, reasonable excuses can get people out of the habit of always expecting your help. Agree occasionally.You really don?t owe anyone elaborate excuses! Be careful about letting someone box you into a corner. When I was a DoorMat, I?d be asked if I really had to go to the doctor when they needed me. I?d actually change my appointment rather than argue! People may not take your turning them down well and challenge you...

You Can Say NO!
2008-05-28 19:09:00
Last night I was at an event. The speaker asked people in the audience to share something special they?d done this year. One woman said she began to say ?no? to people. Everyone applauded this feat. Women are known for being overly agreeable. I?ve encountered many guys who say they also agree to requests much too often.Saying that one small word??no??turns into a very big deal for many of us!I relate. When I was a DoorMat, I couldn?t get that word out. Turning someone down meant possibly losing a friendship. Or alienating someone. You might not even like the person but if you want to be liked by EVERYONE, agreeable seems to be the course of action.Being liked seems much more pleasant than annoying someone by not helping. When I was on Oprah, she asked the audience what they preferred?being liked or being respected? Almost everyone chose liked. And people like you much more when you?re agreeable! Now I know that real friends like you even if you don?t jump when they need something. A...

Interview with Perez Hilton
2008-05-22 17:05:00
I continue with interviews for my Embracing SUCCESS series with celebrity blogger, Perez Hilton . I interviewed him while he was driving to the set of CSI. He asked to do a cameo on the show and got it! While Perez's writing on his website has a strong edginess (some have harsher words for it!) and some of those who he writes about would disagree, I found him to be a delightful, sweet, and sincere guy. Speaking with him was so much fun! Perez, whose real name is Mario Lavandeira, was a journalist when he began blogging as a hobby for his friends. Now he?s become very well known and is regarded by many as an example of the new face of A & R people because of his good ear for discovering music and enlightening people about it. After Perez recommended artist Eric Hutchinson's music on his blog, Eric?s album went to #5 on the iTunes album chart, becoming the highest-charting album by an unsigned act in iTunes history.Now Perez is negotiating to start his own record label, acting i...
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Does Marriage = SUCCESS?
2008-05-20 01:39:00
Females dream of getting married from a young age. The pursuit of Prince Charming is encouraged in the media. Girls read fairy tales and want their own Prince. Women watch movies that show perfect men behaving in perfectly romantic ways. We crave those types! Lust after them! Go hunting and searching for the guy who can live up to our fantasy expectations, while real life men endure getting bashed with our unfair needs.Growing up, I felt no interest from anyone about my dreams and career thoughts. But I got a lot of attention for eating an extra cookie or other treat.Everyone encouraged me to be a very nice girl who watched her weight. That was the foundation of my life in DoorMatville. The underlying message was to be as nice and as thin as possible in order to attract a husband?the big goal for me and my friends. We played at being wives and mothers with our dolls, while boys were having a lot more fun playing ball and getting dirty. By early teens, everything revolved around havi...
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SUCCESS!!
2008-05-18 14:00:00
I?m so delighted to announce that the third edition of Start & Run Your Own Record Label (Billboard Books) has been turned in! It?s been an exhausting labor of pure love. I?ve been working on it simultaneously with my book, Nice Girls CAN Finish First (McGraw-Hill), which I must finish in TWO weeks! I?m so blessed to be able to love what I do so much that the pressure of deadlines doesn?t get to me. I just feel bad that I?ve neglected this blog. Hopefully, I?ll do better from now on.I?m excited about both books. They?re each very special to me. Start & Run Your Own Record Label has been my biggest selling book?so far?close to 100,000 copies. For this new edition, I interviewed over 100 people in order to get the most helpful, up-to-date info and resources for helping my readers have the best shot at a SUCCESSFUL record label. Some are musicians and singers who are marketing their own music. Others are people who are passionate about marketing the music of folks whose talent...
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Wellness, Optimal Health and Self?Care
2008-05-12 20:48:00
Today I'm delighted to have Yolanda G. Smith, RN, MSN ? Holistic Self-Care : Just For Me, Inc. as my guest. She's a Holistic Nurse Educator Specializing in Self?Care, Wellness , and Health y Lifestyles in Brooklyn, New York. Striving for a life of wellness is a great gift of love to you. The better you feel, the more self-empowered you become. Since I left DoorMatville, optimum health--body, mind and spirit has been my top priority. It spills over into every area of life. Yolanda shares her personal story of how she learned the hard way how important it is to strive for overall wellness, and she shares some of the tips that she gives to her clients.Wellness, Optimal Health and Self?Careby Yolanda G. Smith, RN, MSNLets begin with a Wellness Quiz? Do you:? Do you wake up with enthusiasm for the day ahead?? Do you have the high energy you need to do what you want?? Do you laugh easily, especially at yourself?? Do you confidently find solutions for the challenges in your ...

Guilt Free Ice Cream Pig Out
2008-05-10 17:16:00
I talked to a woman yesterday as I waited on line in the bank. She seemed agitated and told me the pizza she?d had for lunch was haunting her. Indigestion? I asked. Nope. Guilt was ruining her day and the memory of the ONE slice of pizza she?d eaten. ONE slice!I asked what was wrong with eating it? She looked horrified and moaned about how she needed to lose weight and that she was a bad girl for going off her diet. Now mind you, I didn?t know her. But she picked her shirt up a few inches to show me what she perceived of as rolls of fat. She looked perfectly fine to me. Then she told me how fattening pizza is. And how many points it has.Points! I give pizza 10 points, because it?s so yummy. Her points were negative.She was miserable. When I eat pizza, I?m happy after.I reassured her to no avail and could see that slice of pizza was stuck in her throat as she punished herself for eating it. Why do that to yourself? Why ruin a treat by playing guilt over and over in your head? When I ...
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Interview with Hungry Girl's Lisa Lillien
2008-05-08 13:56:00
Lisa Lillien was a hungry girl and struggled with weight issues for most of her life. When she decided to change her way of eating, she learned so much about food and wanted to share. She began Hungry Girl, a free daily email subscription service. They're all posted on the Hungry Girl website.Lisa's goal was to share everything she learned about food and eating with others.Today I'm featuring Lisa Lillien on my Embracing SUCCESS series. She turned her desire to control her eating and help others do the same into a career. Hungry Girl sends emails to hundreds of thousands of people a day. I first saw her on Entertainment Tonight, and she's done a lot of TV appearances since then. Now she has a great new book, Hungry Girl: Recipes and Survival Strategies for Guilt-Free Eating in the Real World (St. Martin's Griffin). It has healthy recipes, and lots of other helpful food info for taking control of your eating. The book is selling like crazy!The information in Lisa's daily emails...
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I Wanna Be a Super Delegate!
2008-05-06 01:19:00
I don?t normally get political in this blog. It?s for self-empowerment, not politics. But, right now, I feel less empowered as a U.S. citizen who wants her vote to count equally and don?t see an answer.I voted in my primary, as did millions of my fellow Americans. Many people have strong feelings about their choices. I?ve always been taught that we have a democratic process to elect the nominee for the party we support. But now it feels like that?s not true.It looks like the Super Delegates are the ones who might pick the Democratic nominee. I feel cheated!I?m a loyal American. I pay my taxes and try to vote. And I believed we live in a country of equality, and fair voting practices. But I STRONGLY question who these Super Delegates are and why they exist. Didn?t we vote in our primaries? Wasn?t the voice, and the will of the people spoken in election results?Yet this small group of Super Delegates may decide the candidate for all of us. I?m sorry to use this kind of language, but, ...
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The Who of You
2008-05-03 18:47:00
Lately Maria Shriver has been on talk shows, promoting her latest book, Just Who Will You Be? She discussed a perspective that?s been mine for years?focusing on WHO, not WHAT you are?and raised my consciousness about how the way we identify ourselves affects self-esteem. The most literal definition of self-esteem is how you value yourself. My favorite definition is being comfortable in your own skin: being happy in your less than perfect body; accepting yourself beyond thinning hair or a small bank account; loving yourself despite failures and limitations. It?s okay if you don't like everything. Good self-esteem is liking and accepting yourself for WHO you are, not for what you?ve accomplished or how good you can look. Yet that?s how so many of us identify ourselves. Are you your job? Your physique? The people you attract? Your bank account? Your car? Choices others make? Give yourself a break! That?s not who you are as a person. Outside factors don?t make you WHO you are! So, WHO ...

Interview with Patrice Tanaka (CRT/tanaka)
2008-05-01 00:03:00
As I continue with interviews for my Embracing SUCCESS series, I'm delighted to have one with Patrice Tanaka , Co-chair and Chief Creative Officer of CRT/tanaka. Patrice is one of those inspirational people that brings sunshine to all she encounters. She's brought her spirit into her company, which greatly benefits her clients. I hope that her words motivate you the way they motivated me.Interview with Patrice TanakaPatrice Tanaka was raised in Hawaii, where she started her career as a journalist. But she always wanted to live in NYC, and happily moved there, with no job. She's always had a positive spirit that supported her goals and enabled her to make a solid impact on the world of PR. Even then, Patrice had strong faith that her expectations would come to fruition. And they did.Patrice Tanaka & Company, Inc. was founded in 1990. It became one of the nation's most well-respected consumer public relations firms, winning more than 180 PR industry awards and recognized as th...

Becoming Decisive
2008-04-29 22:14:00
Sorry that I haven't been posting frequently. I'm on some very tight deadlines for 2 books. But that will be done shortly and I'll be posting more now. Thanks for your patience. I didn't hesitate to explain this to you, as per this post!Do you hesitate to make decisions? It?s a common problem. Concern about the results of making a choice can drive even the best of us hesitate to commit to something. Yet in order to reach the SUCCESS you?d like, it?s important to learn to trust yourself to make choices. Everyone has some insecurity, and it can rear it?s head when decisions need to be made. Are you scared of making poor choices? You may worry about disappointing or inconveniencing someone. So you hesitate and hesitate, as it pounds your confidence to know you just can?t be definitive about making a choice. Waffling puts you on shaky ground. Stammering loses respect, from yourself too.It can get frustrating when you know you should make a decision but you don?t trust yourself to do...

Daniel Glass, founder, Glassnote Entertainment
2008-04-23 21:47:00
I'm delighted with the interview I have today for my continuing Embracing SUCCESS series. Daniel Glass has had, and still has, an illustrious career in the music industry. As a music journalist, I've been in awe of his ability to be instrumental in helping launch the careers of many top music business executives and hit recording artists. Daniel Glass has always been passionate about music. He began as Vice President of SAM Records. From there he was Director of New Music Marketing, and then Senior Vice President at Chrysalis Records, guiding the careers of superstars including Billy Idol, Pat Benatar, Sinead O?Connor, and Huey Lewis and The News. Daniel next joined the SBK Records as Senior Vice President of Promotion, where he helped break artists, such as Jesus Jones, Technotronic, Wilson Phillips, and Vanilla Ice. From there he was promoted to Executive Vice President/General Manager of SBK Records and after the consolidation of SBK, Chrysalis and EMI Records USA, he became Pr...
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Is Revenge SUCCESS?
2008-04-22 01:09:00
I hear people proudly talk about the revenge they?re getting on someone. Is achieving it something to be considered SUCCESS? Going after revenge is usually destructive. The behavior that revenge motivates is unhealthy. You might feel successful at hurting someone. Think about if that?s the kind of SUCCESS you want to own.Tricia Walsh-Smith has gotten a lot of media attention for insulting her husband about what he?s not giving her after their divorce in her YouTube videos. She must feel a distorted version of satisfaction as she fumes and sputters trying to get her revenge. Many people, women and men, seek revenge when they think someone has done them wrong. They look to hurt, lash out at or embarrass someone who disappointed or hurt them. Negative revenge is NOT sweet. It?s a harmful action that hurts YOU, as much as or more than the one you want to get even with. Shame on Tricia Walsh-Smith! Her YouTube video airs her husband?s dirty laundry. She married a guy 25 years older, who...
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Why Building Relationships Beats Sales Training
2008-04-14 18:43:00
Building good relationships is at the core of most SUCCESS. Whether it?s a romantic partner, friend, or colleague, relationships can be a source of support, contacts, warmth and much more. Business relationships are key for making progress and achieving career SUCCESS. Tdoay Robin Jay is my guest. After more than 18 years as an Advertising Account Manager, she began her current career as an author, speaker, and coach. She shares some insight about building good relationships from her book, The Art of the Business Lunch (Career Press). Why Building Relationships Beats Sales Training by Robin JayWe all have a neighborhood store that?s just around the corner from our house. Whenever I?m speaking before an audience, I ask if anyone in the room has ever gone out of their way ? regularly passing by that neighborhood store, traveling a bit farther down the road to another, different store?sometimes even paying more for whatever they needed?JUST BECAUSE they didn?t like the way they were tre...
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CHOOSE Your Perception
2008-04-11 04:12:00
Life isn?t in black and white. You choose how to color what you see and do. Your life is as colorful as YOU allow it to be. Just like a child brings a coloring book page to life with crayons, your thoughts color your world. I?ve talked about how we can create new habits to replace those that aren?t serving you in a positive way. You can break habits of letting other people program how you view your life and then create a habit of having a more positive perception. You can create the good habit of coloring your world with bright hues!Did you ever adjust the color of a TV set? You turn the dial one way and the colors get brighter and more vibrant. Go the other direction and it gets washed out or not there. That?s what perception does to you thoughts! YOU control the dials. Perception allows you to choose your reality; to color it positive or negative. For example: * You can CHOOSE to see a glass half empty or CHOOSE to see it half full. Which sounds better? You know the answer, yet ma...
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Tim Westergren, founder of Pandora
2008-04-09 22:59:00
Tim Westergren?s passion has always been music. He began his career as an independent musician, a composer for films and other aspects of the music industry. In 2000, he created the Music Genome Project?. An enormous collection of songs were gathered and analyzed, one by one, along close to 400 musical attributes, by a trained musician. They break down music into its most basic components?every element of melody and harmony, rhythm and instrumentation. An analyst gives a number to each of those attributes and together they make up a song?s musical fingerprint. When you type a song into Pandora , it looks at that song?s music fingerprint and starts connecting it to other songs that are its nearest musical neighbors. Working as a film composer Tim had to figure out the director ?s musical taste and translate what they said into a musical composition, which gave him the idea of creating the Genome. He shared it with a friend who?d already started and sold a company. A week later they be...
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I Was Sick, Tired and Ran!
2008-04-08 04:08:00
About 10 days ago, my allergies began to kick in. My nose and eyes were itchy and watery. Then I spent 2 days having a reunion for a group of people I went to elementary school with so there was a lot of talking going on and irritated my throat. By Sunday I couldn?t wait to crash early. But, the guy designing my new website called to go over some stuff so I had to talk, for a long time, on that scratchy throat. Tuesday night I went to see Lifehouse at Roseland. I was on the guest list and couldn?t pass up the opportunity. But all the talking above the music and singing along made my already sore throat worse. An air conditioning vent blew some very cold air on my left side all night. Plus I stood most of the time. It wasn?t crowded because I was in the balcony?a restricted area. Celebs like Keifer Sutherland and Nick Lachey stood nearby. After ages of staying mainly in one place, I leaned awkwardly on the balcony railing to take pressure off my feet. By Wednesday morning I felt like...
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Controlling Fear of Success
2008-04-05 03:12:00
The idea of begin afraid of SUCCESS might seem odd. After all, isn?t that what we strive for? In theory, SUCCESS is a positive. It can mean your career is advanced, you make more money, and you get closer to realizing dreams. What?s the fear factor? It?s in the unknown I?ve talked about. WThe hardest fear to deal with is being scared what MIGHT happen. It?s not quite reality based ?you?re afraid of ?what ifs? instead of concrete situations. If someone threatens you, it?s normal to be afraid. Jumping out of a plane can cause a legitimate set of frazzled nerves. But fear of the unknown is worrying about things that your mind conjures up. Your imagination can create a variety of scenarios that keep you stuck. And for those of us who don?t know what SUCCESS may bring, fear of SUCCESS can create blocks that prevent us from achieving it. In my DoorMat days, fear ruled me on many levels. Being insecure, I worried about how I?d handle a new or different scenario, even if it was a good one. ...
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Interview with Craig Newmark, Founder of Craigslist
2008-04-03 01:35:00
For the first interview of my Embracing SUCCESS series I have Craig Newmark, Founder of Craigslist , a site that?s made life easier for millions of people. Every Wednesday I?ll interview someone who?s become successful by following his or her passions. I find Craig inspiring. He?s so down-to-earth and caring about the services he offers, as you?ll see by some of his answers. In 1994, Craig saw the beginnings of online communities and news groups and thought the Internet would help him connect with people. He began sending an e-mail list of what he considered cool events in San Francisco to friends. It became popular and more people got added to his mailing list. Then requests came in to list apartments, jobs, etc. Craig decided to move it to a list server. People were calling it Craigslist and despite other ideas, the name stuck. Craig still had a day job and ran it as a hobby. In 1998, there were things that needed to be adjusted. He left his day job and worked on developing Craig?...
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Try, Try Again!
2008-04-01 04:07:00
If at first you don't succeed, ?try, try again. This saying is said to have been included in a Teacher's Manual in the eighteen hundreds. So perseverance is an old concept! In my last post, Controlling Fear of Failure, I talked about how fear of failure keeps us from even trying. From the emails I got, I know this topic resonated with many of you. It?s important to be conscious of how you let fear sabotage your chances of attaining the SUCCESS you say you want.You can?t try, try again if you don?t try even once. In my DoorMat days, fear was the overriding factor that guided me. So much of that fear was of the unknown. I didn?t know what might happen if I tried, so I made excuses to postpone taking action. How could I try something new if I didn?t know the outcome? What if failure made me feel worse than I already did? So I lived in a state of wanting to try new things and have new accomplishments. But fear of failing put invisible weights on my resolve. I was stuck! We often get s...

Controlling Fear of Failure
2008-03-29 14:46:00
Do you block SUCCESS if you're scared to fail? It's ridiculous, but trying to avoid what worries you can impede succeeding. Before being published, I made excuses for not going after a book deal. The truth was, I was terrified my dreams would evaporate if editors didn't like my writing. It felt better to write than to pursue a publisher. Fear of rejection choked me. Failure sounds awful on the surface. It represents shattered dreams. I talked about getting published but never sent a manuscript out. It took years to develop enough confidence to do it. Failure teaches. When twenty publishers passed on my second book, I found an agent who helped me rewrite my proposal and got a GOOD deal two weeks later. Before I was published, I made excuses for not trying to get a book deal. The truth was, I was terrified that if editors didn't like my writing, my dreams would evaporate. It felt better to go through the motions of working on my books than to pursue a deal. The thought of being re...

Developing Balanced SUCCESS
2008-03-26 17:36:00
I agree with SUCCESS magazine?s perspective that one-dimensional success really isn?t success at all. Often we focus on career advancement or business deals as SUCCESS. But a well-rounded life focuses on body, mind, spirit, AND your career. It creates a bouquet of successes that blossom as you acknowledge them. A lot of my writing relates to self-empowerment and learning to love yourself. I believe that you need use the same amount of energy that's put into making money to nurture your health, your relationships with people close to you, maintain a comfortable living space, and build your spiritual well-being. A good relationship, both in business and your personal life, is SUCCESS. For me, striving for it all is the greatest self-love, which leads to most satisfying happiness. On Monday I listed some of my SUCCESSES in my post, introducing my Embracing SUCCESS series. Thinking about it after, I realized that:My biggest SUCCESS is my strong spiritual faith! After being an atheist f...
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Embracing SUCCESS series
2008-03-25 00:19:00
I was delighted that SUCCESS magazine re-launched with the March issue, which was packed with articles on many people who?ve achieved success that motivate and stimulate new ideas. I love this magazine! Everything is about SUCCESS. Reading it is a constant reminder of going for your own. I applaud its publisher, Darren Hardy, for being innovative in bringing the magazine SUCCESSFULLY to life again. I'll have samples from the magazine on Wednesday!The magazine inspired me to launch my Embracing SUCCESS series. I want to explore what success is and different roads for reaching it. I?d hope to get it underway sooner but got delayed with some of my own successes and the crane accident I wrote about last week delayed me further. But now I?m back on track, which I consider a SUCCESS!Over the next few weeks I?ll post articles that focus on some aspect of SUCCESS. Starting next week, each Wednesday will have an interview with someone who achieved SUCCESS http://www.blogger.com/img/gl.link....
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Safe vs. Happy
2008-03-21 22:26:00
Safety has been on my mind since Saturday when the crane fell on several building that I see right outside my window and talked about in my previous post, Shame on NYC--Building Crash Outside My Window. My neighborhood still feels like a war zone, reminding me of what it was like after 9/11 on some levels. Drilling and banging 24/7. Helicopters buzzing overhead have slowed down. But going to the store or bank is a struggle as one side of Second Ave. is closed and people pack the other side to look at the fallen buildings.Eyewitness News came here on Sunday, filmed the wreckage from my apartment, and interviewed me for ABC. It aired several times.My work has gotten very backed up as I?m tired from being jolted awake occasionally when a loud piece of metal falls or banging gets intense during the night. Even with earplugs, noise gets through. That?s why I haven?t posted all week. That will change next week when I launch my Embracing SUCCESS series. Last night I had an awesome acupunct...
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Shame on NYC--Building Crash Outside My Window
2008-03-16 01:50:00
For 8 years I?ve been tortured by construction going on outside my window. One building after another on East 51st, which my apartment faces, has been knocked down and built up since 2000. Drilling, clanking, banging and trucks beeping is the music I write to, eat with, try to ignore when I want to relax and get wake to at 7AM, every day. This morning it was 7:30. There?s no mercy on weekends! Today there was a tragic example of how construction companies get preference over the welfare of New York City ?s residents. The very tall crane used on a building going up at 303 East 51nd Street, diagonally across from my windows, crashed across the street, smashing a small apartment building. It was 10 minutes after I?d left to go to brunch. I?m grateful I wasn?t here to see it happen. My neighbor did. She looked out just as it fell, and saw the crane crush 2 construction workers. Four people are confirmed dead. Other injured.Manhattan borough president Scott Stringer said there are at leas...
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Develop Bigger Cojones & Say YES? to More
2008-03-14 20:49:00
Last night I was at a panel put on by the American Society of Journalists and Authors, which I?m a member of. Five editors of top magazines spoke about how to pitch them articles. There was a reception before the panel began. As each person arrived, the same question was asked??Would you be willing to verbally pitch the panel with an idea for an article? They wanted the editors to critique verbal pitch and also give people a chance to get instant feedback.For those of you who aren?t writers, it?s rare to have an opportunity to pitch an editor face-to-face. It?s often hard to even get a response to an email pitch. There are so many writers trying to get into editorial doors. So when I was asked, I said YES! without even thinking. I didn?t even know what I?d pitch. I wanted to hear their talks first. But how could I not put my name down?? What a great opportunity!Yet I was the only writer in the room to think so!During the reception I asked folks why they weren?t going to pitch. ?I?m ...
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Position Yourself for Self- Empowerment by Dyan Garris
2008-03-12 16:50:00
I write a lot about the Law of Attraction in a variety of situations. It really is the biggest power tool for getting what we choose to have. Yet so many people complain that they try to think happy thoughts and do affirmations but don?t manifest. There really are a lot more dynamics that you can work on that don?t have to take ages.Today, I?m pleased to have Dyan Garris stop by on her virtual book tour. She is the author of several books, including Money and Manifesting, in which she shares an interesting perspective on the Law of Attraction and has suggestions for manifesting more. She explains how our energy is also a factor in doing so. I learned a lot about effectively balancing chakras when I read it. Here she shares a sample:POSITION YOURSELF FOR SELF-EMPOWERMENT by Dyan GarrisThe purpose of The Secret according to the teachers of The Secret was to raise awareness about the Law of Attraction. And raise awareness they did. The concept of the laws of attraction and the power of...
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The Arrogance of Some Powerful Men
2008-03-11 03:51:00
Today I heard the disturbing news that my governor was caught hiring a prostitute. The full story hasn?t come out yet, but reports say he hired a woman through a prostitution service in NY to take a train down to Washington DC. When she got there, Governor Eliot Spitzer got caught!This is the man who ran a campaign as the good guy, pledging to fight for ethics reform. When he was NY state Attorney General, he seemed squeaky clean. He was even dubbed ?the sheriff of Wall Street? for his strong campaigns against misconduct in the financial services area, and other industries. I was thrilled when he ran for governor of NY. When Spitzer won, I thought my state was in good hands. Yet this pillar of politics got caught with his pants down, well almost, anyway. After working to clean up prostitution, he thought he was above the law and still entitled to indulge in the industry he crusaded against. Power does get to the heads of some men! I saw his news conference and he walked in confident...
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