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Advice from the Dating Maven: Co-Dependant OR In-Dependant?
2007-03-22 13:46:00
Advice from the Dating Maven : Co-Dependant OR In-Dependant?
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Co-Dependant OR In-Dependant?
2007-03-22 13:43:00
There comes a time, usually in your mid 20’s and after, that you will start noticing that your single friends are dropping like flies and getting “hitched.” If you are one of those lucky singles left, you will be keen on your friend’s choice of partner, husband, or wife, and hopefully will be comfortable enough to sometimes be the “3rd wheel.” Unfortunately though, oftentimes you’ll hear awful stories of how some friends can’t stand their friend’s significant other, and cannot fathom why they chose to marry this “loser.” Thankfully, I’m not in that position and I happen to truly adore all my married friends’ “SOs.” However, being still single, you will usually find that making plans with your married friends doesn’t come as easy as it did when you were all a bunch of young singles, scoping out the party scene, and staying out to wee hours of the morning. Sooner or later, your married friends start ditching going out to the trendy corner bars and choo...
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Dirty Talk
2007-03-19 01:59:00
SEX. It’s great, feels good, is pleasurable, exciting, and with some may start out “iffy” but (if done again with the same person) may just keep getting better and better. BUT, what happened to sex being a little mysterious? Has society painted it out just to be “raunchy and dirty?” We often see couples cheating, screwing in strip clubs, bathrooms, oceans, and getting so drunk that they end up having a one-night-stand. However, do men just think relationships are only about getting laid? What happened to a man displaying the fundamentals of passion and romance by courting a woman, while leaving some mystery before showing their full hand? Having “IM’d” with many online singles without having met face to face, oftentimes the “sex talk” will arise. Why is it that so many men feel the need to have the sex talk, discuss what positions they like, where they’ve “done” it and how they loathe women who are dead fishes, what turns them on and off to, and how many...
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Thong.....Or Bloomers??
2007-03-16 21:20:00
Is being single in your 20s or 30s such a bad thing? Why is it that so many parents are so quick to see their children married? Is it to take them off their ATM (if you’re that child to still be on it)? Is it so they can have the gratification of being grandparents to make them feel young again? Or, is it because they got married, had kids, and did the “norm,” that they’re expecting their children to follow in their same footsteps? Does this necessarily mean our parents are, or were, “perfect role models” and that we should follow their “map” and live our lives like theirs? Or, do they just not understand how being single and out there dating often, if done too much, turns into added pressure, or starts feeling like it’s becoming another job?Well, NO. Some parents today just don’t understand what it is like to be single, working, surviving, and going out every-other night. As my mother voices, “Don’t you get sick of going out to the same places, seeing the sa...
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The Truth About "Hanky Panky!"
2007-03-15 02:50:00
Why are so many men and women single today? Is it like most women think, “a man’s world?” Or, is the underlying problem in the women, and not the men? Most single women claim they are single because it’s the men who don’t pursue anything more than a fling, and show trouble when having to “commit.” Oftentimes men, no matter what age they are, don’t even understand how to ask a girl out in the proper fashion. When speaking with Brady, a male friend of mine, I was telling him how while at my friend’s party, I met a “prospect” who, on the “surface” seemed like a sincere, quality guy, I’d be interested in getting to know. Since we had exchanged contact information and hung, clung, and chatted the night away, I couldn’t understand why a week had gone by and I hadn’t heard from him. Brady said, “SO? Pick up the phone if you want to talk. For heavens sake, it’s the 21st Century; what’s the big deal?” Well, to MOST women, having to initially contact t...
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Back, Sack, & Crack
2007-03-10 23:56:00
It’s very easy to be at home surfing all the singles websites on a cold winter night, and then going out drinking and fulfilling your daily calorie intake while meeting some random “dude” at a bar. One gets to a certain point in their life where they just don’t frequent the bars/clubs as much as they used to, and instead find themselves sitting at home, searching the net looking for singles. Could we ever have imagined, years ago, that we just may find our husband or wife in the world of internet dating?You start by posting a profile and picture, and in the boxes where is asks you to tell about yourself, you sit there and think about what to write. Do I speak the “truth” or do I say the generic; I’m looking for my “soul mate,” I want a “best friend,” or I like the movies, clubs, bars, and museums…and don’t forget, oh, I’m SO athletic. Then, you click on the second picture and you think—ATHLETIC! This guy looks like he weighs 250 pounds. Is his sport of...
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Make Up Or, Break Up Sex?
2007-03-09 17:54:00
Anyone knows that New Year’s Eve can either be really, REALLY fun, or REALLY bad. I keep trying to convince myself that staying in and getting sushi take-out with a bottle of red wine and champagne to toast with when the ball drops is such a better way of celebrating New Years than racing over to the “Bal Harbour Shops” 24 hours prior to the big night trying to scout out new “digs” since I can’t seem to settle for anything my wardrobe has to offer!The phone and texts won’t stop. Are you buying a ticket? What’s your deal? Where are you going to go and what have you decided what to do? Dude, I can’t hold this ticket forever! Previous years I had no question of what to do and would buy two or sometimes even three tickets to parties held either at Raleigh, Setai, Shore Club or Shelburne, or wherever else I was being “convinced” to go. For some reason though, this year I wasn’t too keen on partying in one of those overpriced hotels for hours on end, where you can...
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Mr. Right OR, Mr. Right Now
2007-03-08 03:30:00
How do you actually know you’re ready for a relationship or… marriage? Oftentimes women, when meeting a man, automatically assume he’s “the one.” What makes a woman assume this? Is it the vibe the man gives off? Is it the attraction/chemistry they both have for each other? Well, let’s just say that it’s not as presumptuous as one may think. While chatting with Elena, my married girlfriend, she tells me that she just finished speaking with her sister who has been dating this guy for almost a year. She’s been contemplating their next move, the ring before the key, or the key to the apartment with no ring.Prior to being married, many couples decide to move in together, whether or not they’re engaged. It’s been shown that living with a significant other with or without that one, two, or three or more (if you’re lucky) carat flawless stone with rocks on the side is, a “make or break.” Does this mean that once you get the “bling” and after saying “yes,” a...
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HAPPY HOUR AND EX'S
2007-03-05 01:27:00
So my phone rings....it, was Jay, my “ex”, a prince that once swept me off my feet. But I was so blinded in the relationship that I did not recognize the larceny in his sole; proving that old adage true, “never lend cash or credit cards to boyfriends with the expectation of being paid back. Though even with all the wrong Jay did causing me to back his bags and send him hiking, I still manage to catch occasional glimpses of the knight in shining armor. Yes though, there are still those certain “ex’s” for some unknown reasons that, even with their tarnished coats just don’t disappear. I flipped open my phone and he asked that I meet him at the Four Season’s at 4. “Ok, see you there!” Before I met him I had a 3pm appointment on 63rd and a 3:30 on 76th n 2nd. I was showing two studio apartments to my friend’s mother. For the first time ever I was having an indecisive moment. The mother asked, “Which apartment did you like better?” I couldn’t decide, both had ...
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Courting a Woman
2007-03-03 01:59:00
Why is it that men in today’s society do not play the “role” of the man? What do women want from men? How does a woman want a man to “pursue” her? All of these questions are highlighted current topics of discussion among society today. Getting a man to ask a woman out the “appropriate” way can be quite the “challenge.” Men get hungry, they know they’re craving a “FILET” and have no problem choosing where to eat it, Wolfgang’s or Strip House? On the contrary it’s quite a shame they are not as able to be decisive when asking a girl out and, picking the place to meet. It’s a sad commentary, but more often then not, the man will leave it up to the woman to pick the place, therefore “making” the date! Seriously MEN, Is this the way you should be asking a woman out? Let me explain this concept to you, WOMEN LOVE when you, the MAN, take charge and make all the date “arrangements.” THIS is very attractive to a woman! It’s not like we woman are dem...
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FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
2007-02-26 01:16:00
It was the night before Thanksgiving back in Boston. You are getting all “dolled up” for a night out, a few “pops” and are excited to go out see and catch up with old and new friends. Being back for break means living with your mother and “step father” under one roof, one can do quite an amount of late night “tip toeing” around! Thank heavens the bedrooms are on opposite sides of the house! The horn honks, “Mom, I’m leaving make sure you take Emis and Pasha out so they don’t pee or shit in the house!” “Okay, have fun and make sure you have your keys!” (However mom was safe not to ask, “Do you have money?” WHY, because if mom asked, any smart kid or hustler would lie say “NO” hoping to score a few extra funds for the night!) I hoped into Courtney’s ML 500. We decided to make a “pit stop” prior to heading downtown. Courtney and I took one look at each other and said “Met Bar”? Now ladies all of us know being back home during Thanksgivin...
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NICE GUYS STILL CHEAT?
2007-02-24 03:53:00
Do nice guys "cheat?" Why do men and women cheat? Is it like the saying because, “the grass is always greener on the other side?” My phone rings, YES (the phone actually not a door opening and closing with a yellow guy running) Its Nicolas, my nice brotherly guy friend that I never hooked up with, late 30s, from Florida, single and dating, self made, and always charming and nice to the ladies! Ladies love nice guys, like the guys who always make sure they’ve gotten their “digits” before ending the conversation if, you initially met “online” or, if you were at a bar/event/party and were introduced. In today’s world, just like men, women are President’s and CEO’s of companies and is working in the corporate faced paced industry. Even though women make important daily decisions in the work place, THIS does not mean they want to start deciding, Sushi Samba vs. Bond St in the relationship! Since we all come from different streams in life, and living in NYC streams ma...
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Raging Hormones!
2007-02-22 01:08:00
Everyone has hormones...girls have lots of them. And, anyone with said hormones knows that hooking up with a guy, whether it’s a one-night-thing (you may meet him out and end up going home together), or a friend-with-benefits (that may or may not carry the possibility of leading to something more), is USUALLY fun and “hormone satisfying.” BUT sadly, there are those times when the “hook up” can lead to women becoming disappointed and annoyed (often within a 6 hour time frame from doing the deed).For instance take one recent Saturday night out in the city. Amy and I got all dolled up in our sexy tops, Hudson jeans, and Manolos, which will probably need a trip to the shoe man on Lexington for “clean up.” The taxi dropped us off at 15th and 9th and we were ready to go party and dance, get giddy, flirt, and have some innocent old fashioned fun. Long story short, our “old fashioned” girl duo ended up with extra number and gender to our “duo”, and losing its "innoce...
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CHANGING A MAN
2007-02-11 09:20:00
Have you ever wanted to change a man? Well, if you haven’t then you might be the first. I often wish I could combine every ex-boyfriend in a mixing bowl, taking a little of this and a little of that from each. I'd then pour my "man mixture" into a perfect guy mold. What I'm trying to say is, I've wished I could change a man more than once and it has never cooked up quite right.When I first meet a guy, I can't help but assess his looks and personality. In some cases I might feel some “sex appeal.” BUT, if he isn't quite doing it for me, I wonder what he’d be like if only he was just a bit more outgoing or personable or had some slick moves... and I might wish he dressed more GQ or Zenga and less Kenneth Cole. Then there are those traits that shift my initial impression from 350 degrees to cooling, like consideration and generosity. And let's not leave out manners, especially table manners. If he pushes food onto his fork with his fingers or sucks it off them my impressi...
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NO CALL BACK
2007-02-09 01:54:00
You go out with, what appears to you, a great date and guy. The date lasts for longer than coffee or your typical drink and the two of you seem to be hitting it off and end up having dinner and hitting “10Jun.” The guy expresses to you, "I had a great time. I'll call you this week and we'll get together.” Perhaps he'll call then again AND MAYBE HE WON'T. The Call Back can be played out in several ways:Scenario A: He calls, you make plans and he cancels and never reschedules. This is the tentative guy who is indecisive about whether he likes you, or not. As your mind starts to wonder about why he canceled, the truth could be because he’s already involved with someone else and doesn't want to complicate this by going out with you a second time. But, enough with the excuses we’ve all had plenty of those...if he really liked you and was “into you”, there would be that second date and you would hear back and see him again. Scenario B: There is No Call Back, peri...

Critical Mothers
2007-02-05 19:04:00
My special and endearing Mother (I do LOVE her & she is my best friend) but Mom tends to voice her opinions about everything, from this is wrong to that should be changed, to I don’t like you in that color to why can’t you find a man? You go out with all these guys, aren’t any of them NICE? To, Why didn’t you like him, he seemed very “nice.” You spoke enough on the phone for the past several weeks. Oh, and that brings me to just because you speak with a guy on the phone and computer for weeks and “click” with him does NOT mean you will want a 2nd date OR to rip off his clothes and get wild with him in the sack!My mother for years told me I’m “critical” and that I’m just like my grandmother. WELL it’s a wonder where I learned it from. Now I realize my mother is WORSE then me, (even though I love her and take what she says’s with a grain of salt!) this is what made me be such a picky little Maven about everything. I only want to look the best, be the best...
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IF I NEVER WAS AN INTERNET DATER.....
2007-02-05 01:05:00
So it's a Sunday in Boston, I'm hung over from attending a Jewish charity event in Southie the evening before. Pasha(the dating princess bichon frise) and I are vegetating upstairs in bed, and trying to not eat the bagels, lox, and cream cheese Channel brought. Mom and Emis (her son she never had and prince bichon frise)come upstairs to "hang out." The phone rings, it was a number I recognized from Bear Sterns. I pick up the phone and said "hello?, he replied, "Is Laura there?" I said, "this is she", I could tell it was a man, he sounded a little on the wise ass side, but then again, more times then not I tend to like a cocky(confident) guy. Who shouldn't? All that it shows is that the man takes charge and shows strength. Well he said, "Richard gave me your name and number because I'm in need for an apartment and you're "hot shot" broker with Corcoran." I said, "oh he did, did he?" "Ah, he didn't tell me you'd be calling, but sure,I'd love to help you find a place"! We went ...
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ONLINE CAN NOT ONLY BE TO MEET SINGLES BUT FOR HELP TOO!
2007-02-04 22:23:00
So last night yet again I found myself surfing around online for singles, this is after my "couple" friends, Dean and Mandy stopped before going on their big night out for a few Bellini's. They'd asked me to join but I it was too cold out and the thought of motivating off the sofa and bundling up Vs. sitting on my sofa and hanging with Pasha wasn't even a debate!As I started to "surf" away, I stumbled upon this profile. His screen name was Yonaton, figured he was Israeli with a name like that. Usually I tend to stick with Americans just because I think relationships are hard enough. See my fellow singles when you throw different cultures into the stew things tend to become more complicated, how are you raising the kids, parent involvement gets heightened, you'll hear your future "inlaws" say, "I don't want to hear about that kid being baptised or baby named or having bris." Oh dear, how do couples survive this "religon pressure?" All these issues eventually will cause tension...
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AN ARCTIC SATURDAY IN NYC
2007-02-04 00:32:00
So I woke up early this morning after my long and very hectic week of filming. Was scheduled to see Lisa for a mani! After a mani, cabbed it to the West side for back to back appointments on the 1 bed coop between WEA and RSD.All the appointments went surprisingly well, a shocker that was! All the customers were punctual, and actually showed interest my Southern facing 1 bedroom, sadly still no offers. Enthusiastic about my piece on Online Dating live on the set airing in 2 weeks proudly mention it to everyone I encounter including from my whole office to all my clients from today a total of 8 more viewers will be watching and gaining advice from online dating. Linda, a broker with Halstead, was sitting in the lobby waiting to show her clients the apartment. But upon introductions I managed to wedge it in about my debut. It was obvious that Linda could not ask me enough questions as she had been online dating herself and hence yet we find her still single. My advice to her was, stic...
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Dating Online - Are Men actually telling the Truth?
2007-02-03 00:17:00
Well let me begin that I have been dating online for the past ten years. Since I've been 21 and yet I find myself still single. This week I was asked to do a feature on the Dr. Keith Ablow Show (The piece will air in 2 weeks and of course I will let you all know the date). I will be discussing my experience on online dating. Stay tuned!Having been on many dates throughout the years, I have now determined what it is that i ACTUALLY want from and in a man. Determining your wants in my opinion is a MAJOR step in going about finding your "dream guy." See, since it was at 21 that I started online dating, I have met many types of men. From short, to bald (I tend to usually stay away from the short and bald) but sometimes you will find a guy where there picture is SO old from there college years we all know the hair thins as men age and that they have fabicated the truth about there looks. Which brings me to the "online dating fear"; are the picture postings there actual looks or are the ...
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