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Poem for the Victims of Domestic Violence
2009-01-06 15:15:00
I found something today that was written by a unnamed person, but I thought it was awesome! It speaks of the different types of people in church, and how Jesus also see the victims of domestic violence. The ones that feel alone in the crowded room.A CHOSEN VESSELThe Master was searching for a vessel to use;On the shelf there were many - which one would He choose?Take me, cried the gold one, I'm shiny and bright,I'm of great value and I do things just right.My beauty and lustre will outshine the restAnd for someone like You, Master, gold would be the best!The Master passed on with no word at all;He looked at a silver urn, narrow and tall;I'll serve You, dear Master, I'll pour out Your wineAnd I'll be at Your table whenever You dine,My lines are so graceful, my carvings so true,And my silver will always compliment You.Unheeding the Master passed on to the brass,It was widemouthed and shallow, and polished like glass.Here! Here! cried the vessel, I know I will do,Place me on Your ...
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Sweep it under the rug church informs victim!
2009-01-05 20:01:00
Someone pointed out to me a video on youtube about a woman that was assaulted by her boyfriend (no longer at this point). They are both members of the same church, and they don't seem to feel accountability for him is needed. Its her word against his, but they will offer her 'recovery classes' to help her heal. I have to wonder if that tells anyone something? You want her to recovery from something you refuse to acknowledge or talk about. She wanted to speak out against this, and she was told that would be unChristlike of her.You can hear the pain in her voice, and suffering in her tone. I can only imagine how much MORE emotional she may have been during this meeting. If the church can't deal with these types of issues why all the lip service about how they are there to help?This is another great example of 'sweep it under the rug' because we can't acknowledge domestic violence within the church, and PLEASE don't go near the sexual assault either! I will be praying for this...
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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
2008-12-25 13:50:00
Some people may have seen Lifehouse Skit, but I found a different version this week. I wanted to post it as my present to you! I know some of you may have have the best day due to domestic violence within the home, but always know that God is there for you.Everything!Happy Holidays , and God Bless
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Choices to Abuse, and Domestic Violence
2008-12-23 17:01:00
I have been reading alot of stories about how domestic violence maybe on the raise due to our economic issues in the world presently. There are all kinds of circumstances in which could escalate domestic abuse, but we need to be realize that didn't CAUSE a person to abuse. It just gave the abuser an excuse to show their true colors.Because it Matters was speaking on this as well.My perspective of it from the inside at the time was that his anger was because of his stress, issues at work, because he lost his job, because he couldn?t provide for his family like he wanted to, etc. But here?s the nugget ? I excused, or made excuses for, his rages and actions, based on the circumstances. This is the same thing he always did. His rage was always because I did?, the kids did?, if you would only?.Rage and other personal emotions and actions are always a personal choice. They are not something that happens to a person against their will. They choose to behave that way ? even if they genuine...
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Woman At The Well - Lessons about Domestic Violence
2008-12-22 13:14:00
Lessons from the Woman at the Well is another current book that is on the market geared towards women within the church dealing with domestic violence.BibleForums has a thread in which she writes out some of things she has learned from the past, and it does start out a bit rough. I feel it has some very sound advice, and she goes answer questions on the thread itself as well.If you would like to read the author's personal testimony she has posted that as well!Betty Ashanti Davis I felt did a wonderful job of writing on the thread, and she addressed some of the attitudes we write about here on this blog. Her book is worth checking out as well! In the up coming weeks I will be speaking about a number of others I have read as well about domestic violence in the church. I understand the author is currently working on getting a website together as well, and I wish Betty Ashanti Davis and her new book Lessons from the Woman at the Well must success! Its so neat to be seeing so many a...
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Accountability within the Church
2008-12-21 18:24:00
Rebecca Hancock has been in the news a lot lately, and its brought church discipline into the limelight. I know for myself I did struggle with this, and not because I don?t realize that Jesus wouldn?t condone having relations with your boyfriend out of wedlock. Scripture is clear about this subject. To me it was the way she described the events that bothered me.I?m NOT going to say that I?m 100% right here, but there are items in this story that do tend to bother me. I got the impression that she had been a member of this church for sometime, and during this time she was given a mentor. I think that?s awesome! She spoke of how she never realized how they deal with church discipline, and that portion was never made clear to her. I don?t know if she was new Christian, and she had never heard of such a concept. If they do indeed use this tool, and if you look at the size of their membership it can?t be uncommon to know about it. To me this would be discussed if in nothing else...
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Senseless and Complacent - Domestic Violence Laws
2008-12-19 14:36:00
Denise and Louisa at ChristmasBarbara's Tchatzkahs called my attention to yet another example of a complacent attitude towards victims of attack, and then another senseless attack on another family member. Domestic Violence laws are to protect, and they seem to do the opposite at times. Most of the time domestic violence is a misdemeanor, but when a family member was attacked instead of the partner of domestic violence perp? Its attempted murder - which isn't a misdemeanor. Does that make any sense at all? The xgirlfriend was attacked with a hammer, and was classfied as a misdemeanor. The sister was shot in the face - that wasn't ... it was attempted murder. I don't know about you but if someone came towards me and hurt me with a hammer - I would assume it was kill! WOULDN'T YOU?BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS had a post today about a story of a family that has been repeatedly victimize by an abuser. Its strange to me at times HOW people can just take this so lightly! Its ALL ov...
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Tackling domestic abuse in Syria
2008-12-18 16:51:00
Stop Honor Killings had an article I just found:Throughout her 25 years of marriage, Olfat, was regularly beaten and humiliated by her husband. Yet she never complained to anyone for fear of tarnishing her family?s reputation.?I suffered a great deal of psychological and physical violence,? said Olfat, now a 49-year-old mother of four. Her husband was always accusing her of having relationships with other men as an excuse to hit her.Following in the steps of other victims of domestic abuse, Olfat decided to put an end to her ordeal. She recently separated from her husband, after her children had all married and left home.Although it was a taboo subject for a long time, violence against women is now being denounced in the Syria n media and other public forums as a reprehensible form of behaviour. In the past few years, the Syrian government has held several conferences designed to raise awareness about domestic violence. However, the current public outcry against the abuse of women is...
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Entitlement of an Abusive Mind
2008-12-17 14:35:00
When I speak to those that I know that don't have to deal with domestic abuse, or should I say don't really recognize its there is always one word they can relate to ENTITLEMENT! I remember once sitting waiting for another party to show up for a business lunch one day, and the gentleman that was there was talking about his girlfriend's xhusband. It wasn't out of vindictive nature or really anger. It was more confusion over his behavior towards NOT her, but their children they had together. It seemed like a rather new relationship at the time, and he remembers how she was thankful for his help with the dinner dishes. I mean REALLY thankful almost shocked that he would do that at all! He mentioned - as he shook his head in amazement - how this man had certain hours placed aside that she was 'allowed' to vaccum so it didn't interrupt his television viewing. His peace and quiet that he needed in the evenings so he could relax. He really seemed disturbed at his views on how he w...
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Emotional Abuse Verbal Abuse Message Board
2008-12-16 13:42:00
Recently I knew board has popped up, and I wanted to point it out due to the fact it also has a section for people of faith! It seems to be the traffic is quite good, and if you are needing input quickly this would also be a good source of support.I know I have mentioned others in the past, but I wanted to introduce you to a new one. It seems also very well moderated.Our Place
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Patriarchy Leaves the Broken Behind
2008-12-15 21:51:00
The bible speaks alot about the oppressed and broken people of this world. God's word tells us to help the oppressed, neglected and abused.I was reading today about some ladies mentioning Michael and Debi Pearl, and I'm sure they have some awesome things to say on certain subjects but on abuse within the home they are clearly naive. On the brew*crew the poster wrote about how this legalistic way of thinking can do more harm than GOOD! Domestic Violence within a Christian marriage is possible, and it does happen ALOT with a good article noted by The Dorcas network! There are days in which I have energy to take on those that mention its a rare thing, because if you look at the numbers it happens just as much as it does in the within the protective bubble within the church.At times I get this impression that people are using the shelter of the church so they don't have to deal with life's uglies. I don't think that is what God had in mind when he spoke of separate. I realize some ...
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Emotional Healing - how you get there?
2008-12-11 15:52:00
Emotional healing to me is a step by step process. I know I began to realize and finally own certain aspects of this as time went by. Its not something that comes all at once, but you do know when you finally took that big huge step at times! I remember in the past I would receive threats of how our home would be taken away from me. How he would get everything, and I would be left with nothing. This was a huge fear for me, and above all he knew that would scare me...and that is the reason he used it! Legal issues and rest didn't come into play in my mind, and it wasn't the fact that he would have everything that scared me either. I worked hard for this home, and all the things that went with it. I was constantly told I never did enough, and how he has done most of it. He always had the upper hand. The reality of this was very different, but to me it was a huge sense of fear. He also knew that, and it was a great tool to use when he needed it.When I finally realized that the 'home...
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Exercise-a-thon for Domestic Violence
2008-12-10 17:30:00
Focus Ministries has a mention on their home page about a fund raiser the are doing for the ministry.FOCUS Ministries is a not-for-profit organization devoted to offer hope, encouragement, education, and assistance to women who are struggling in difficult circumstances, especially dysfunctional marriages, spousal abuse, separation or divorce. Based in Illinois, FOCUS Ministries provides help for women suffering the horror of domestic violence and for those who want to help.They are asking others to have fun with an Exercise -a-thon, and that means ANYTHING you find FUN! Choose any exercise (run, bike, walk, skip, jump rope, swim, play tennis, baseball, football, lift weights, etc.), set your own goal, raise pledges, and take action against domestic violence! They also have included a pre-printed form for you organization's use!Just print off the FOCUS Exercise-a-thon form, fill in your name and address by the participant?s name, raise support, exercise, and then send in the comple...
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Jesus Heals Abuse
2008-12-10 03:51:00
I wanted to call people's attention to a woman I know that has been working with abuse victims online. Her site is called, "Jesus Heals Abuse ". I have known Minister Jacky Hughes for a number of years, and she has a big heart for the Lord. She is from the UK, and if you enjoy listening to podcasts Here is Jacky Hughes Message of Love about her site.There is also a rather new board that was created in which as a spiritual section to it, and Minister Jacky Hughes posts there as well. Its Called, "Our Place" Keep in mind at this point the board is rather new, but it does have alot of regulars. As this section is noticed the traffic will increase as it was just added on as a new portion.If you are interested in Minister Jacky Hughes Story that is available, along with a devotional for the abused that seems very popular!Minister Jacky Hughes has done alot of good online, and she also works offline with people as well. YES She is an ordained minister - at least I think that is wha...

Angel Food Ministry
2008-12-09 02:46:00
Times are tough, and at times we all need a little help! I wanted to point out Angel Food Ministry that are about to give you over $100 worth of food for about $25.00 - $30.00! It can't hurt around the time we need a little extra for the holidays as well. Everyone is welcome! There are no conditions and you may buy more than once box of food!Angel Food Ministry has a website, and you can search for the nearest location near you! I pray that this would be an awesome resource for those of my readers dealing with domestic violence, emotional abuse and verbal abuse!

Religion can play role in domestic abuse
2008-12-06 02:40:00
The Delphosherald.com wrote a really good story on how religion can play a NOT so good role when it comes to domestic violence.Religion can play role in domestic abuseBy Mike Ford, The Delphos HeraldPublished: Saturday, November 15, 2008 Print E-mail By MIKE FORDThe Delphos HeraldChristian churches are a staple of many communities across the region and the nation. They provide valuable moral guidance, support and social services.However, the religion can have a negative psychological affect when a person who never feels ?good enough? is caught in a cycle of ?sinning,? repenting and praying for forgiveness only to ?beat themselves up? for repeating the cycle. Regardless of how bad the behavior really is, the guilt and shame can be perpetuated by religious beliefs and manipulated by an abusive spouse.The Delphos Public Library will host a talk on the subject at 6:30 p.m. Monday by Kathy Boaz, the director of Van Wert Crisis Care. She oversees a 20-bed shelter where abused women can s...
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Why won't you help me?
2008-12-05 03:15:00
wsaw.com had a story I found in which we speak of here. I hate to say this, but I have to wonder if it will take a lawsuit....and maybe even a death to get control of the church's thoughts on domesti violence.In Pursuit of Happiness: Elizabeth's Story, 'Why Won't You Help Me?' Save Email Print Posted: 4:31 PM Nov 20, 2008Last Updated: 11:21 PM Nov 20, 2008Reporter: Liz HayesEmail Address: lhayes@wsaw.com For many people experiencing difficulties in life, reaching out to their church or community of faith seems like a good move.But one area victim of domestic violence says that wasn't the case for her. Continuing our series, 'In Pursuit of Happiness,' Liz Hayes shares Elizabeth's story. She's a woman who contacted her church when she discovered she was in an abusive relationship, but says they blamed her. "I have wanted to be married and be a mother ever since I was a little girl. I love having a family. I want to be married, I want to have all my children live with m...

Domestic Violence with a sandwich is funny I guess.
2008-12-03 07:05:00
I was reading In the shadow of your wings about a story of a women driving down the highway with her infant son in the back, and her boyfriend instead of HITTING her decides to nail her with his sandwich.In The Shadow of your wings mentioned MSNBN in the blog post, but if you look around - its all over the place!The joke? Was it a CLUB sandwich? We aren't sure what type of SANDWICH he hit her with! Yeah - really funny!PORT ST. LUCIE, Fla. - A man faces a domestic battery charge after allegedly hitting his girlfriend with a sandwich as she was driving on Interstate 95 on Friday. Police said the 19-year-old man became angry and hit the woman in the arm and face with a sandwich, knocking her glasses off.The victim nearly lost control of the car because she couldn't see the road and the man then allegedly ripped off the rear-view mirror and used it to shatter the windshield.The man was freed on $7,500 bail.Police haven't said what type of sandwich was involved.Domestic violence is...
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Victims aren't innocent - they like the drama!
2008-12-02 20:40:00
I have been reading a thread on bibleforums.com about an author that had written a book about domestic violence. Her writing touched me very much, and I guess I should have realized that in time - someone would mock what was happening in people's lives. I will be honest I doubt the poster meant to mock, but to me that is how it was received. I guess this subject makes me sensitive, and it is heart breaking to me over the years. It wears me out at times, and I wonder at times if it would be better just to walk away.There was a time in which I was so enraged over how abusers tear victims and their families life's apart. I will admit there was almost hate there. As the years went on God showed me that I must learn to pity them as well due to their broken nature. My heart slowing started to change, and I realized if we didn't address them the cycle of violence would continue on. We have to address both portions, and I personally should give rat's butt what the stats are about gender...
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Disabled Neglected Victims of Domestic Violence
2008-12-01 19:57:00
Women's Enews I thought had a good article about disabled parties, and the limited resources they have to reach out for help.Feds Focus on Disabled as Hidden Victims of Abuse Run Date: 11/28/08 By Annemarie TaddeucciWeNews correspondent Women with disabilities often feel left out of domestic-violence shelters and unable to communicate with hotline operators. A national meeting in December may help spotlight a hidden population of abuse victims and survivors. (WOMENSENEWS)--Domestic violence among women with disabilities rarely if ever gets this kind of national attention.But next month, representatives from 150 programs that receive funding from the Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women will meet in Nashville, Tenn., to discuss this particular safety problem.Cindy Dyer, executive director of the Office on Violence Against Women--which provides $10 million in yearly funds to state and community organizations--said the focus of the Dec. 16-17 meeting will be on im...
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Misogyny seems to be a part of the shootings
2008-11-28 19:50:00
This a picture of the victims of the shooting from NewJersey.com In Order, Reshma James - Dennis John Mallosseril - Silvy PerincherilNYdaily's photo of suspectPhillyburbs stated: Reshma James had taken out a restraining order against her estranged husband, Avigliano said."She found out he wasn't all he was cut out to be," Avigliano said. "He was abusive toward her, and she left him and came out here."The couple were married just over a year ago in India and moved to Sacramento in January.Reshma's aunt, Maria Joseph, of Hartford, Conn., said she warned her niece, who was studying to become a nurse, not to marry him. Other relatives told her the man had a history of "behavioral problems," Joseph said.Telegraphindia mentioned: ?I do not know whether the possessiveness was born of genuine love or an irrational suspicion about her. He did not like her meeting people and preferred her to be indoors all the time,? said James Kochuparampil, Reshma?s maternal uncle.The couple had togethe...
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Domestic Violence? Church Leadership show perfect example of how they don'
2008-11-27 01:04:00
The Church Leader Gazette wrote an article about domestic violence, and some of it maybe comment sense, but the rest of it is nonsense!Men are definitely at fault in most cases of domestic violence. As welearned in elementary school, boys should not hit girls?a man should never hit a woman under any circumstances. But contrary to popular belief, women are oftentimes at fault by provoking the man. Some women provoke a negative response from their husbands inadvertently, because they do not know how to deal with a man probably because they never had a father in the home to teach them or they never had a mother, older sister or older woman to teach them how to handle a man. However, some women intentionally provoke their husbands by pushing buttons that they know will cause a negative reaction. First off, I know I have taught my son never to HIT anyone...except in self defense. There is no need for hitting, and to say that people PUSHED your buttons to do that? For goodness sakes! How ...
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The scourge of domestic violence
2008-11-26 02:14:00
Gloucester Daily Times has a midweek musing about The scourge of domestic violence.Rev. Richard J. Simeone spoke of how for a number of years they have a brief ceremony proclaiming Gloucester a domestic violence free zone. They had the fanfare that most of these ceremonies have as well! As much as we would like to believe that these events lesson or stop domestic abuse we also know that they don't.Rev. Simeone got a first hand experience it seems from a mocking of this sentiment that all to often happens:At this year's proclamation ceremony, due note was given to the strides made over time in public awareness of the problem as well as concrete steps toward dealing with this public health disease.¬ Yet, it was also noted that we still have much work to do.¬ It made me think about a conversation I had earlier the day of the ceremony with an acquaintance of mine, to whom I mentioned that I was heading to the ceremony.¬ The other person made a scoffing noise, and I asked what it was a...
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Domestic Violence - Story on Pastor's considering role
2008-11-25 02:46:00
I found a news article today on the Morning News . It spoke of how a group of pastor's came and listened to a presentation about domestic violence. I thought it was well written and hard hitting........let me know what you think?Local pastors consider role in addressing domestic violenceBy Jamie Rogers (jrogers@florencenews.com)Morning News ReporterPublished: October 29, 2008FLORENCE ? Local pastors considered their role in preventing and treating domestic violence in their communities during an engaging and, at times, spirited roundtable discussion on Wednesday in Florence. The faith leaders roundtable was held by the Pee Dee Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual and was one of many events being held in conjunction with October being recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Rev. Carl Smith, president of Redeeming the Time, which specializes in biblical treatment of domestic violence batterers, moderated the event. South Carolina consistently ranks as one of the top 1...
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Gunman kills three during church service
2008-11-24 01:48:00
Fox News Reports:A shooting inside of a New Jersey church service Sunday morning left one woman dead and two others hospitalized, MyFOXNY is reporting.Reshma James, 24, died after being shot by her estranged husband during church services at St. Thomas Knanaya Church in Clifton, NorthJersey.com said.Congregants were attending the morning service when shots were reported at 11:40 a.m. According to the church?s Web site, service traditionally begins at 11:15 a.m.Dennis John and Silvy Perincheril, both of Hawthorne, were reportedly injured in the shooting, according to NorthJersey.com. Perincheril ? who was shot in the stomach? is the church's choir director. James was Perincheril's niece, visiting from California.The shooting was believed to be a case of domestic violence, with the gunmen suspected to be the spouse of James, NorthJersey.com said.A witness told NorthJersey.com that the shooter came into to the church saying, "I came to take my wife."Officials from the Passaic County ...
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Domestic Violence, Church, Faith Resource Books
2008-11-22 04:39:00
I wanted to list a couple of more resource books on domestic violence with an aspect of church or your faith. I have been a little behind keeping up to date with this, and I wanted to point a couple of additional ones out to everyone!I found an online interview of the author of the book below by Rev. Anne WeatherholtRelgious New Blog writes about this book regarding an abusive pastor by Virginia and Robert Coombs.Barbara Roberts - Not Under Bondage with a link to her websiteBehind the Hedge by Waneta Dawn and a link to her blogI hope these help others looking for resources for domestic violence within the church, or concerning your faith. I will post new faith resources soon.
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Working to break the domestic violence cycle
2008-11-21 04:13:00
Statesville.com had a good story on domestic violence recently. I wanted to point out a partial note about what a pastor mentioned. It will be highlighted below! Thank you Statesville.com!By Donna Swicegood Published: November 16, 2008The idea that men who batter their partners need anger management is a ridiculous notion to A Call to Men co-founder Tony Porter."They have excellent anger management skills," Porter said at a workshop last week that brought several domestic violence service providers together. "They know who to hit and who not to hit."Porter told the group at the Not Tonight Domestic Violence Peace Initiative Workshop that men are the key to addressing the growing domestic violence problem."Not enough men are standing up and taking responsibility for ending violence against women," he said. "Violence is rooted in sexism, that she belongs to him and he can do whatever he wants with his property."Classifying batterers as "sick" helps men who don't batter justify the...
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Domestic Violence - Is the church Neutral?
2008-11-20 03:35:00
When Loving Him Hurts had a very spot on article about the neutral position churches seem to take when it comes to the very HAIRY position of meddling in domestic violence! lol yes I had to throw in some sarcasm there!How many people have heard comments similiar to this?We won?t sides: Even though he has been threatening, we won?t take sides as there is always two sides to every story. He must be in pain over the split and that is why he is mistreating you He needs as much protection from you as you do from him We won?t get involved because we want to maintain relationships with him We won?t confess he has mistreated you, we will just keep emphasising that he is hurting You must have done something to trigger his anger We won?t hold him accountable as we don?t want him to feel worse or upset him even further The part that floored me is he wasn't even her husband either! I guess I had been concentrating SO much on marriages that I never stopped to realize how completely NEUTRAL th...
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Silence of Domestic Violence
2008-11-15 03:19:00
A Forward Design had an article on their blog about restoring the broken.Shauna Gauthier mentions stats that I'm sure we have all heard of, but she continues:With these revealing statistics, one might wonder why domestic violence is not at the forefront of our discussions in churches and other community groups. Though the topic is gaining some momentum these days, it is still quite clear that the church has struggled to contend with issues of abuse. Isn't that the truth! I think they truly don't know what the answers are so they choose NOT to deal with them at all. Domestic violence doesn't have easy answers, and at times there are no good choices. There is no clear path to take. To me they seem to spiritualize it more than deal with it.There was a story the other day on Ibelieve.com that I read about a women that I'm not sure realizes what she is dealing with yet clearly. I think she is beginning to see it, but the AHEM healthy ones can't see it at all!SHe was speaking...
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Silence of Domestic Violence
2008-11-15 03:19:00
A Forward Design had an article on their blog about restoring the broken.Shauna Gauthier mentions stats that I'm sure we have all heard of, but she continues:With these revealing statistics, one might wonder why domestic violence is not at the forefront of our discussions in churches and other community groups. Though the topic is gaining some momentum these days, it is still quite clear that the church has struggled to contend with issues of abuse. Isn't that the truth! I think they truly don't know what the answers are so they choose NOT to deal with them at all. Domestic violence doesn't have easy answers, and at times there are no good choices. There is no clear path to take. To me they seem to spiritualize it more than deal with it.There was a story the other day on Ibelieve.com that I read about a women that I'm not sure realizes what she is dealing with yet clearly. I think she is beginning to see it, but the AHEM healthy ones can't see it at all!SHe was speaking...
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