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Tools for Tuesday!
2008-04-08 16:28:00
I wanted to see how long I could come up with neat little tools, resources, etc. from the web that I think almost anyone could use!I will call it TOOLS FOR TUESDAY!If you have any tools you wish me to reference that you have found helpful in the past let me know!The first one is by Audio Treasure, and they have some free Audio Bibles!If you look towards the top of that page they also offer Free Classic Audio books!Those are your TOOLS FOR TUESDAY!
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You do not have to live with abuse within the Christian home!
2008-04-07 16:00:00
Minister Jacky Hughes is about to release a new book called, "You do not have to live with Abuse "You can either download it or buy it, and both are very inexpensive. You can view a preview now, and it should be available soon.She has a number of books, devotionals that she has put together, and you can reach Minister Jacky Hughes Storefront Here: Minister Jack HughesShe is a very inspirational lady, and has lived with this herself. She has also started a board online if you are in need of spiritual advice from her and others. That board is called, "Jesus Heals Abuse"I will leave you with a poem written by her, and encourage you to seek out help and support from others. God will be there for you as he always is, but he has also given us a gift of fellowship! Keep asking until someone hears you!RECYCLED ROSELike a crushed flowerSome kind of perfume released in the brokenessof petals lying scatteredKnowing I was a flower seeking my healingI lifted my hands askingWill you heal me?G...
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You can stop the fights. It is very simple. You stop fighting with him.
2008-04-05 18:05:00
Sanctuary for the Abused as a good article on Reactive Abuse. I have seen in the faith realm that many people will speak of their reactions of finally breaking and fighting back in some fashion. They react with harshness, pushing them away, hitting, etc. They felt they just could NOT take it anymore! What is the reaction they receive? It certainly isn't one of understanding. Let me make one thing clear here I'm NOT justifying bad behavior from anyone I'm saying its normal at times. Everyone has their breaking point, and in most situations victims of abuse are told to just DO what the abuser wishes then they don't have to worry about it. What they don't realize is the abuser is looking for the reaction, and will push whatever buttons they can to get it.Reactive abuse is a tool that abusers use to show the world that its NOT THEM that is crazy, but the victim due to their reactions!People will hand over all kinds of advice like:Focus on you and what you can do do be a bet...
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My Christian Husband isn't Emotionally safe! My Protection or sin?
2008-04-04 16:00:00
Focus Ministries as a piece called "Walls", and it really hits home for a lot of people that are experiencing all forms of abuse including emotional abuse and verbal abuse. I found that a lot of it pertains to most circumstances, but remember all doesn't have to apply for it to have the same effect. Some people call this detaching from their spouse due to the abuse within the relationship. It speaks to how the relationship starts, and how it continues. Its very moving!The Walls are used to protection, and they are normal response to Emotional abuse, Verbal abuse and other types. This piece speaks about how they can be removed. Its not an easy journey, and it will require both parties to participate fully!I had mentioned this article before, but wanted to repost it for others that may have not seen it.WALLSI have built a fortress around myself . . .to protect my emotionsto protect my self-esteemto protect my individualismThis fortress will not allow me to share my heart with you, or...
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HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - The conclusion
2008-04-03 16:00:00
Abuse effects people and it injurys them, and don't allow others to tell you different! There are alot of victims of child abuse in this world that have problems dealing with life because of their experiences. They take those troubles into adulthood. Its difficult for them to speak of the past, and unless they learn to NOT keep that secret that secret will continue to harm them! It will cause all kinds of uglies including hate, contempt and resentment. That secret will implode on them, and will harm them further.Despite the hurt and shame, etc that they feel they learn to displace themselves, and go some where else. I don't think just victims of child abuse do this either, and in some ways all victims do this. Its a mode of protection. One thing victims of abuse learn to do is keep the secret of abuse, and it will continue to hurt you until you learn to let go of it.Victims of child abuse will hold on to these secrets and pain, and it will continue to destroy their's li...
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HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part Three God is Able!
2008-04-02 16:00:00
Part One we spoke of how God is LISTENING!Psalms 28:1-2 GW By David. O LORD, I call to you. O my rock, do not turn a deaf ear to me. If you remain silent, I will be like those who go into the pit. (2) Hear my prayer for mercy when I call to you for help, when I lift my hands toward your most holy place.Part Two we spoke of how God is JUST!Psalms 28:3-5 GW Do not drag me away with wicked people, with troublemakers who speak of peace with their neighbors but have evil in their hearts. (4) Pay them back for what they have done, for their evil deeds. Pay them back for what their hands have done, and give them what they deserve. (5) The LORD will tear them down and never build them up again, because they never consider what he has done or what his hands have made.Part three we go into the rest of this passage! GOD is ABLE!Psalms 28:6-9 GW Thank the LORD! He has heard my prayer for mercy! (7) The LORD is my strength and my shield. My heart trusted him, so I received help. My h...
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Pastor, Faith Boards Online, and Church Community says NO HELP to Victim of
2008-04-02 00:02:00
Pastor, Faith Boards Online , and Church Community says NO HELP to Victim of Domestic ViolenceI read quite a bit of articles regarding domestic violence in regards to the faith prospective. At times I realize that I get naïve thinking maybe things would get a little better once people decide to share their experiences. I read things and they point to getting in touch with your church, having your pastor and their resources help you. For goodness SAKES don?t go secular! I think in some circumstances that?s just not wise!I have been watching a story unfold recently. It started ? for me anyway ? on two very popular faith boards. It was a story of a married young woman with 2 small children. As in most stories of domestic violence I don?t think she saw it for what it was at first. We all have to have our realizations. I guess in the past she did have churches that told her that he needed help, and that he could be in danger of hurting himself or others. Steps were taken for the...

HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part Two God is JUST!
2008-04-01 16:00:00
Yesterday I spoke on how God is listening! I reference a passage in which David was crying out to God in a very emotional state!Psalms 28:1-2 GW By David. O LORD, I call to you. O my rock, do not turn a deaf ear to me. If you remain silent, I will be like those who go into the pit. (2) Hear my prayer for mercy when I call to you for help, when I lift my hands toward your most holy place.I recently hear about a new cycle of abuse, and how it looks. It made alot of sense to me, and I wanted to share this with you!Abuse - Guilt - Excuses - Blame - Normal or maybe Cordial behavior - Fantasizing - Setup a situation to enact the plan - Abuse again!Is the guilt sincere? I have to wonder at times, and I have to wonder if it is more shame that things may get OUT into the open! Excuses for their behavior, and of course blame which basically never takes any personal responsiblity. I never liked the term 'honeymoon', and have often heard of the term 'hoovering' which basically means...
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HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part One God is listening!
2008-03-31 16:00:00
I have run into situations in which I could see very hurt people reaching out to others only to be handed some simplistic advice, and I often wondered if I was only one that felt this way. I never understood WHY people would hand over some little tidbits of scripture, and felt it would be a way for these people to forget about their wounds and instantly be transformed. If people would just get RIGHT with God everything would be fine!Shaming others when they are in the depths of despair with telling them that they went into relationships just GET and not to GIVE!Love is not a feeling its an action!God never promised you that you would be happy!People bend themselves into pretzels trying to make things work, and people tell them:WORK on yourself! Don't worry about THEM!They would quickly claim that they were CALLED to tell the truth about things, but one thing they always seemed to miss was the empathy and compassion part of it. I'm NOT saying people don't need to hear truth ok...
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Teen Violence - Domestic Violence or abuse in Dating
2008-03-28 17:27:00
Black Missing but not Forgotten has an excellent article on teen violence!This is one of the videos she offered! Its a great peice if you have children around that age, and want to remind them what a safe relationship really is.The article is worth the read, and I'm sure will help plenty of teens see the light!
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Gospel of John Day Three
2008-03-26 15:00:00
Part 13Part 14Part 15Part 16Part 17Part 18Part 19
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Gospel of John - Day Two
2008-03-25 15:00:00
Part SevenPart EightPart NinePart TenPart ElevenPart Twelve
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The Gospel of John
2008-03-24 15:00:00
I found a series online for the Gospel of John . I will post them in sequence!Part OnePart TwoPart ThreePart FourPart FivePart SixI will post some Tommorrow!

Detours: Domestic Violence
2008-03-18 16:05:00
Detours: Domestic Violence sermon was given Pastor Doug Kelly One of a series of sermons entitled Detours: Gettting Back on Track with God ©Christ Presbyterian Church, Carlsbad, Ca
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A New Look Thanks to Tips for New Bloggers!
2008-03-16 01:39:00
Tips for New Bloggers : Three Columns Rounders 4 TemplateI have been wanting to spice things up for a while, and wanted to change this blog to three columns for sometime. Thanks to Tips to New Bloggers for their awesome directions that were VERY clear, and VERY easy to follow!Now I just need to arrange a couple of things!I highly recommend this blog if you are looking for some answers!
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Cash for Books
2008-03-14 15:28:00
I don't know about you, but I have books laying around collecting DUST! Checkout one of link below to see if you can turn those books into cold hard cash!If you are BOOK person please check out the link at the bottom for their updated 500 list.I would appreciate anyone using the links below when doing their search. If I get referals the funds collected goes towards causes of Domestic Violence! I do wish to note that I have actually GOT PAID from them! That to ME is important to know. There is alot of scams out there, and I was pleasantly surprised when payment arrived!I wanted to note this because we can all use some extra cash, and you don't need any special skills with this one to get some money.Cash For Books - We Buy Books & We Pay The Shipping!Sell Textbooks Online - Quick Cash, Free Shipping, Free QuotesPlease read the condition of the book page!Selling books can be done in 4 easy steps:**Type in ISBN(s) from your books and press the Enter key after each one. Click 'pr...

Speech given by Mark Redmond about Domestic Violence
2008-03-12 17:15:00
Link to Speech This gentleman spoke about domestic abuse I felt was very moving.   Thanks for inviting me here this morning. As Gary said, I am the director of Spectrum Youth and Family Services, and when people think of Spectrum they think of our work right across the street, where we help homeless teenagers by providing them with shelter, food, education and job assistance. And when I tell people we also have staff in White River Junction, Bratteleboro, Bennington and Middlebury, and that they work in prisons and probation offices with men who have been convicted of battering, people are surprised. In fact I remember telling this to one person who replied, “And why is Spectrum involved in that?” And the answer is that the vast majority of those young people who come to us off the street seeking help grew up in families where there was domestic violence, where there was a man battering his wife and partner, and very likely battering his children as well. An estima...
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Taking a break from words
2008-03-09 04:08:00
I was told about this sermon, and it speaks of the power and damage that words can cause. Its based on James 3.Christ Community Church is the location.
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Dobson's Advice that could get a women killed!
2008-02-22 14:35:00
I was reading on the web one night and found an response to an abused women from Focus on the Family. Basically the article told her that she should sit down and have firm 'talking to' with her husband about the fact if he hurts her again she will be forced to separate. As I had mentioned in the past, and I'm sure you might have heard before I don't like Dobson's response to this issue at all. Jocelyn Andersen the author of Woman Submit! also pointed out how his advice could get people killed, and also in his book "Tough Love" he spends way to much time on how women might be provoking the man. Begin Quote: My colleague, Dr. James Dobson, addresses the issue of domestic abuse in his book Love Must Be Tough. He believes the best approach is to force a crisis that confronts the problem head-on. Only then can it be treated and resolved. When you and your husband are both in a good mood, let him know that you have something important to discuss. Tell him that you love him very much,...
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Let the wife see that she respects her husband!
2008-02-21 23:49:00
I have been reading the book "Living it and Lovin it" by the http://www.joelandkathy.com/I had to truly giggle with delight as I read their chapter on RESPECT! It was refreshing to hear!25 Husband s, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 ?For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.? 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Neverth...
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Where the women are ruling in Kenya
2008-02-20 05:43:00
This doesn't have to much to do with faith in the traditional sense, but in their culture this is HUGE!Men are very upfront about their being allowed to beat the women, and if they get raped or are to outspoken they are kicked out of the tribe. They are on their own.A number of the 'kicked out' women decided to join forces and get their own community together. They live with no men. The men now that all the women are gone are having to do all of the work. In the past they would lay in the shacks and nap while the women worked, and now they do it all. As you can imagine they aren't very happy! Meanwhile the women have found ways of supporting themselves, and getting funds from tourists, etc. The best the men try to do is steal from them.Its a very interesting story. THere are no protections there, and its expected to deal with being beat and disrespected. Men's attitudes are very much THEY need to come home, and do what is right! LOL The ladies? Well?? LOL Lets say t...
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A Cry for Help
2008-02-17 06:05:00
I remember seeing this film a while ago. What is chilling is how short a time ago the world took domestic violence within families seriously. Ahem. I guess I could say was FORCED to take it seriously. This happened in the 1980's, and that wasn't so long ago. We have come far from that time, but look at the toll. SURE the lady in this film may have NOT been a faith follower, but to be perfectly honest I don't think it would have mattered. I have often wondered how long it will be until the church is placed in this situation before they take the issue a bit more seriously. Everyone knows its wrong, but how they deal with it....is wrong as well. I would bet in the future the church goes thru what this lady did, but in a different realm. Everyone - unless they are completely blind - knows that this issue is serious. Emotional and verbal abuse is not taken as seriously, and yet it is shown that it could be taken into this realm very quickly. Sick people with a need for con...
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Why does he do that? Possible answer?!
2008-02-12 14:45:00
Paul HegstromGod showed Paul Hegstrom how to "rewire the brain" to bring healing from past hurts. Also talks about healing of emotional scars from childhood and learning to have healthy relationships with others.From the Show, "Its Supernatural!"Paul Hegstrom as a successful ministry called, "Life Skills International". This was his book that you may have heard about.! Angry Men and the Women that loved them! LINK!
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Why marriages Fail .... Why do churches truly address this?
2008-02-03 18:15:00
Why Marriages Fail LinkI found an interesting article recently about a study that was done about couples starting even before they married, and then followed up with them a number of times within the years of the relationship.If first spoke about Escalation, and how disagreements are handled. You may be thinking, "we don't fight like cats and dogs." And while that may be true, your marriage may still have this risk factor. Damaging escalation is not always dramatic. Voices do not have to be raised for couples to get into a cycle of returning negative for negative. Conflict over paying the rent, taking out the garbage, running errands that result in muttering to oneself, rolling your eyes, or throwing up your hands can also be examples of escalation.Couples who escalate arguments must control their emotions and control their tongues. James writes, "If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthle...
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The Difference Between Hurt and Harm
2008-01-11 05:07:00
The difference between hurt and harmThis is another video from Cloud and Townsend. Its called the Diff erence between hurt and harm. I thought it was a good one to remind people there is a difference, and so that next time the abuser says to you, "You hurt me when you do that" it may help placed things into prospective. Help place the guilt away, because it isn't needed. Alot of times we take unneeded and unwarranted guilt.A word from a friend is better than a Kiss from an Enemy.
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Divorce: Harmful to Kids and the Environment?
2008-01-06 01:36:00
Divorce: Harmful to Kids and the Environment ?Mark EarleyPrison Fellowship President Is divorce bad for children? The data strongly suggests that it is. There is no shortage of studies that show a correlation between divorce and what social scientists call "adverse outcomes," such as drug use, teen pregnancy, depression, and other bad things. Yet, even with the data, many scientists and academics decline to tell people that they should stay married for the sake of children. If Americans will not stay together for their children's sake, would they do it to save the planet? That is the question being asked in the wake of a recent Michigan State study. Researchers there found that divorce "exacts a serious toll on the environment." How? It boosts "the energy and water consumption of those who used to live together." Why this should be the case is not hard to understand: Divorce turns what used to be one household into two. The efficient use of resources, including money, that comes nat...
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E-Sword Bible
2008-01-04 16:43:00
I found this years ago, and have been using it. It is a very powerful resource. I was reminded of this when my old computer died, and I had to go back and download this program again. It has short training videos to show you all that it can do.
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Should I leave him or keep trying?
2008-01-02 05:03:00
My husband has been physically abusing me for years. Counseling helps for a while, but his rage always comes back. Should I leave him or keep trying?Link to good video on subject!
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Work From Home Blog I started
2007-12-25 16:41:00
I can Work From Home is a new blog I have started to help you reach your bottom line! There are alot of crooks out there, and I'm NOT going to charge you or ask you for money for this information! As with this blog its from information I have found, and another resource for those effected by abuse. I started it so people have tools to help themselves! I will add information on to it as I have time, and find the proper resources!
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Holiday Message!
2007-12-20 16:03:00
This video was awesome, and I wanted to share it with everyone! Hope you enjoy it!
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