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Emotional Abuse and Your Faith
Collection of Articles, Video, and audio I have found on Emotional and Verbal Abuse. I have been searching for ones that are geared towards the faith based prospective. It is not just towards one but many faiths. Links have been included with article

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For Some Muslim Wives, Abuse Knows No Borders
2008-04-18 16:00:00
For Some Muslim Wives , Abuse Knows No Borders Traditional Pressures Can Persist in U.S.By Pamela ConstableWashington Post Staff WriterTuesday, May 8, 2007; Page A01Portions of the article above:One was a shy, slender young woman who spoke no English when she was brought from Pakistan to enter an arranged marriage with a stranger in Virginia. The other was a self-confident professional, born in Turkey but raised in the United States, who thought she knew what she was doing when she married an educated Muslim man in Maryland.Yet both women fell under the sway of the same powerful pressures that sometimes reach around the globe to keep Muslim wives in the Washington region imprisoned in abusive marriages, unable to fight the gossip and shame that come with defying their culture and religion, isolated from help that is just a three-digit phone number away."My husband beat. He show knife. I am scared for him, for all family," said Shamim, 21, the Pakistani bride, who was rescued by police...

Wife Abuse in the Muslim Community
2008-04-17 16:00:00
Jannah.org has an article for the Muslim Community that is worth the read! Wife Abuse in the Muslim Community by Kamran Memon Below is a portion of the article, and please visit the link for the entire article! For cultural reasons, some Muslim men accept the idea that it's normal for a man to hit his wife and that she is no more than a piece of his property. Some Muslim husbands abuse their wives as a result of frustration resulting from economic hardship, political oppression experienced outside the U.S., problems with the children, or an inferiority complex. Some abuse their wives because they want them to be more "modern" and less Islamic by removing their hijab (Islamic dress), while others are abusive because they want the opposite.Some Muslims with superficial ties to Islam don't know that abuse is unacceptable due to their weak faith, poor Islamic knowledge, and lack of interaction with the Muslim community. Tragically, some Muslim men actually use Islam to "justify" t...

Faith groups work against domestic abuse
2008-04-16 16:00:00
Angela Cain/Community Affairs wrote the article Faith Groups Work Against Domestic Abuse Bishop Charles FinnellIt starts out with:Domestic violence is a regular part of central Indiana news headlines, and some experts say it is on the rise. Last year, domestic violence claimed 79 lives in Indiana, affecting the rich and the poor of every race, and even people of faith. Bishop Charles Finnell States:Recognizing problems within the vocation, Bishop Charles Finnell and his wife Vivian have worked to shatter the silence on domestic abuse for years by educating their congregation at Christ Temple Apostolic Faith Assembly in Indianapolis and holding community forums outside the church."Most of you know that there is a great problem in our society with domestic violence," said Bishop Finnell as he urged faith leaders to take a stand against domestic abuse. "I think the church has been in denial that the problem exists.""Someone has to say this is wrong. This isn't right. This isn't God-li...
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Mariah Carey song - Side Effects With Lyrics
2008-04-15 23:48:00
One of 'Mariah Carey Song s' that speaks about domestic violence.It's M.C. and Y.J.Another hit, okayWe lookin' fine, takin' offSaw us on a runwayOn any given Sunday,Monday, TuesdayThey try to confuse me,I never let 'em use meI was a girl, you was a man I was too young to understandI was naive, I just believedEverything that you told meSaid you were strong,Then I found out that you were weakKeepin' me there, under your thumbCause you were scared that I'd become muchMore than you could handle,Shining like a chandelierThat decorated every room insideThe private hell we built,And I dealt with itLike a kid I wished I could fly awayBut instead, I kept my tears insideCause I knew if I started I'd keep cryingFor the rest of my life with youI finally built up the strength to walk awayDon't regret it but I still live with the side effectsWhen I space am I still dreaming 'bout them violent times?Still little protective 'bout the people that I let insideStill little defensive thinkin...
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Mariah Carey song - Side Effects With Lyrics
2008-04-15 21:13:00
One of 'Mariah Carey Song s' that speaks about domestic violence. amazon_ad_tag = "emoabuandyouf-20"; amazon_ad_width = "300"; amazon_ad_height = "250"; amazon_ad_include = "mariah+carey";//-->It's M.C. and Y.J.Another hit, okayWe lookin' fine, takin' offSaw us on a runwayOn any given Sunday,Monday, TuesdayThey try to confuse me,I never let 'em use meI was a girl, you was a man I was too young to understandI was naive, I just believedEverything that you told meSaid you were strong,Then I found out that you were weakKeepin' me there, under your thumbCause you were scared that I'd become muchMore than you could handle,Shining like a chandelierThat decorated every room insideThe private hell we built,And I dealt with itLike a kid I wished I could fly awayBut instead, I kept my tears insideCause I knew if I started I'd keep cryingFor the rest of my life with youI finally built up the strength to walk awayDon't regret it but I still live with the side effectsWhen I space am ...
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Tools For Tuesday 'online alarm' or 'online alarm clock'
2008-04-15 16:33:00
Welcome to the second edition of Tools for Tuesday .I look for neat tools that people can use on the web!This is something I use a couple of times a week!It an Online Alarm Clock ! When I know I have an appointment, etc coming, and I'm in the middle of something I use this to remind me its time to STOP!If you have any tools you would like to share please let me know!

Covering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues.
2008-04-14 17:43:00
BibliographyCovering Jewish Domestic Abuse , Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues . I found this page, and it looks like the home page has been removed. The sources of information listed I felt my be helpful to others!

'Dr. Dobson' counterdicts himself to much!
2008-04-12 19:23:00
I'm NOT going to say the man doesn't have some good things to speak about. I do believe that all people do have some good nuggets of wisdom within them. I just wanted to be clear on that point.I wrote a post in the past about his book: Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis in which he gave some very dangerous advice when dealing with domestic abuse with marriage. I called the article, Dobson 's Advice that could get women killed!In that article Dobson basically told others:He believes the best approach is to force a crisis that confronts the problem head-on. Only then can it be treated and resolved. When you and your husband are both in a good mood, let him know that you have something important to discuss. Tell him that you love him very much, but that you are not going to allow him to abuse you any more. Tell him that you want him to get counseling for his anger problem immediately, and that unless he agrees, you are going to need to separate from him for a wh...

'Dr. Dobson' counterdicts himself to much!
2008-04-12 18:12:00
I'm NOT going to say the man doesn't have some good things to speak about. I do believe that all people do have some good nuggets of wisdom within them. I just wanted to be clear on that point.I wrote a post in the past about his book: Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis in which he gave some very dangerous advice when dealing with domestic abuse with marriage. I called the article, Dobson 's Advice that could get women killed!In that article Dobson basically told others:He believes the best approach is to force a crisis that confronts the problem head-on. Only then can it be treated and resolved. When you and your husband are both in a good mood, let him know that you have something important to discuss. Tell him that you love him very much, but that you are not going to allow him to abuse you any more. Tell him that you want him to get counseling for his anger problem immediately, and that unless he agrees, you are going to need to separate from him for a wh...

Debi Pearl's "Created to be a helpmate"
2008-04-11 15:55:00
LINK to page "Created to Be His Help Meet" discussion I have written on the misteachings this organization offers, but this blogger actually is taking it my sections. The above link as to do with the domestic violence section. This is not to say that everything they have to say is incorrect, but they clearly are misinformed on some things. Its a shame that they continue to place such a burden on ladies in this situtation. The link above is the this section, and while you are there read section 8 as well!Page 79: ?A Command Man who has gone bad is likely to be abusive. It is important to remember that much of how a Command Man reacts depends on his wife?s reverence towards him. When a Command Man (lost or saved) is treated with honor and reverence, a good help meet will find that her man will be wonderfully protective and supportive. In most marriages, the strife is not because the man is cruel or evil; it is because he expects respect, and is not getting it. When a wife plays he...
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Debi Pearl's "Created to be a helpmate"
2008-04-11 15:55:00
LINK to page "Created to Be His Help Meet" discussion I have written on the misteachings this organization offers, but this blogger actually is taking it my sections. The above link as to do with the domestic violence section. This is not to say that everything they have to say is incorrect, but they clearly are misinformed on some things. Its a shame that they continue to place such a burden on ladies in this situtation. The link above is the this section, and while you are there read section 8 as well!Page 79: â€œA Command Man who has gone bad is likely to be abusive. It is important to remember that much of how a Command Man reacts depends on his wifeâ€™s reverence towards him. When a Command Man (lost or saved) is treated with honor and reverence, a good help meet will find that her man will be wonderfully protective and supportive. In most marriages, the strife is not because the man is cruel or evil; it is because he expects respect, and is not getting it. When a wife play...

"American Idol - Shout To The Lord"
2008-04-11 00:24:00
Shout the Lord was presented on American Idol last night. The American Idol ?Final 8? performed ?Shout To the Lord? as its closing song Wednesday night during Idol Gives Back, a music celebration raising awareness and funds to benefit various U.S. and international charities.
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Congratulations to Sanctuary for the Abused Blog!
2008-04-10 20:43:00
Sanctuary for the Abused has hit a mark of 300,000 hits on her blog! I personally wanted to congratulate her for such an awesome milestone!Barbara covers just about every aspect of abuse you can think of, and finds resources that have helped many over the years. She is good person - herself - as well. We have emailed each other over the years, and I have always been highly impressed with her!I started to notice her posts first on a verbal abuse board that came across when I first started my journey. She would post resources for us all, and the information she found was incredible! She has been giving to others for a long time, and she did this as she was suffering herself in the most awful ways from her own abuser. If you are looking for resources on abuse, and extra aspects like porn, Narcissism, child abuse, personality disorders and much MUCH more please check out her blog! She won't disappoint you!One nice thing is that you know this information is coming from someone with a bi...
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What Makes Narcissists Tick: "Responsibility" Wrap: Narcissist Hurts You to
2008-04-09 20:14:00
What Makes Narcissist s Tick : "Responsibility" Wrap : Narcissist Hurts You to Make YOU Guilty of the Sin of Feeling the PainBarbara of SANCTUARY FOR THE ABUSED gave me a link to this article referenced above. Is a very well written and to the point article! Thank you Barbara! She has an awesome blog, and a HUGE library of articles, references and links on all kinds of aspects of abuse. I recommend her blog very highly, and she is a true person herself as well! She actually inspired me to start my blog!Below is a part of the article, and I encourage you to go and read it on the author's blog to get the whole message! Christians are often told in abusive relationships that their FEELINGS get in the way to much. This article helps wipe that myth away, and tell us that there is nothing wrong with feelings. I think that is very important Don't you?But narcissists aren't the only people who refuse to grow up and quit clinging to the cherished myth that they can make un...

Tools for Tuesday!
2008-04-08 16:28:00
I wanted to see how long I could come up with neat little tools, resources, etc. from the web that I think almost anyone could use!I will call it TOOLS FOR TUESDAY!If you have any tools you wish me to reference that you have found helpful in the past let me know!The first one is by Audio Treasure, and they have some free Audio Bibles!If you look towards the top of that page they also offer Free Classic Audio books!Those are your TOOLS FOR TUESDAY!
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You do not have to live with abuse within the Christian home!
2008-04-07 16:00:00
Minister Jacky Hughes is about to release a new book called, "You do not have to live with Abuse "You can either download it or buy it, and both are very inexpensive. You can view a preview now, and it should be available soon.She has a number of books, devotionals that she has put together, and you can reach Minister Jacky Hughes Storefront Here: Minister Jack HughesShe is a very inspirational lady, and has lived with this herself. She has also started a board online if you are in need of spiritual advice from her and others. That board is called, "Jesus Heals Abuse"I will leave you with a poem written by her, and encourage you to seek out help and support from others. God will be there for you as he always is, but he has also given us a gift of fellowship! Keep asking until someone hears you!RECYCLED ROSELike a crushed flowerSome kind of perfume released in the brokenessof petals lying scatteredKnowing I was a flower seeking my healingI lifted my hands askingWill you heal me?G...
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You can stop the fights. It is very simple. You stop fighting with him.
2008-04-05 18:05:00
Sanctuary for the Abused as a good article on Reactive Abuse. I have seen in the faith realm that many people will speak of their reactions of finally breaking and fighting back in some fashion. They react with harshness, pushing them away, hitting, etc. They felt they just could NOT take it anymore! What is the reaction they receive? It certainly isn't one of understanding. Let me make one thing clear here I'm NOT justifying bad behavior from anyone I'm saying its normal at times. Everyone has their breaking point, and in most situations victims of abuse are told to just DO what the abuser wishes then they don't have to worry about it. What they don't realize is the abuser is looking for the reaction, and will push whatever buttons they can to get it.Reactive abuse is a tool that abusers use to show the world that its NOT THEM that is crazy, but the victim due to their reactions!People will hand over all kinds of advice like:Focus on you and what you can do do be a bet...
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My Christian Husband isn't Emotionally safe! My Protection or sin?
2008-04-04 16:00:00
Focus Ministries as a piece called "Walls", and it really hits home for a lot of people that are experiencing all forms of abuse including emotional abuse and verbal abuse. I found that a lot of it pertains to most circumstances, but remember all doesn't have to apply for it to have the same effect. Some people call this detaching from their spouse due to the abuse within the relationship. It speaks to how the relationship starts, and how it continues. Its very moving!The Walls are used to protection, and they are normal response to Emotional abuse, Verbal abuse and other types. This piece speaks about how they can be removed. Its not an easy journey, and it will require both parties to participate fully!I had mentioned this article before, but wanted to repost it for others that may have not seen it.WALLSI have built a fortress around myself . . .to protect my emotionsto protect my self-esteemto protect my individualismThis fortress will not allow me to share my heart with you, or...
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HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - The conclusion
2008-04-03 16:00:00
Abuse effects people and it injurys them, and don't allow others to tell you different! There are alot of victims of child abuse in this world that have problems dealing with life because of their experiences. They take those troubles into adulthood. Its difficult for them to speak of the past, and unless they learn to NOT keep that secret that secret will continue to harm them! It will cause all kinds of uglies including hate, contempt and resentment. That secret will implode on them, and will harm them further.Despite the hurt and shame, etc that they feel they learn to displace themselves, and go some where else. I don't think just victims of child abuse do this either, and in some ways all victims do this. Its a mode of protection. One thing victims of abuse learn to do is keep the secret of abuse, and it will continue to hurt you until you learn to let go of it.Victims of child abuse will hold on to these secrets and pain, and it will continue to destroy their's li...
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HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part Three God is Able!
2008-04-02 16:00:00
Part One we spoke of how God is LISTENING!Psalms 28:1-2 GW By David. O LORD, I call to you. O my rock, do not turn a deaf ear to me. If you remain silent, I will be like those who go into the pit. (2) Hear my prayer for mercy when I call to you for help, when I lift my hands toward your most holy place.Part Two we spoke of how God is JUST!Psalms 28:3-5 GW Do not drag me away with wicked people, with troublemakers who speak of peace with their neighbors but have evil in their hearts. (4) Pay them back for what they have done, for their evil deeds. Pay them back for what their hands have done, and give them what they deserve. (5) The LORD will tear them down and never build them up again, because they never consider what he has done or what his hands have made.Part three we go into the rest of this passage! GOD is ABLE!Psalms 28:6-9 GW Thank the LORD! He has heard my prayer for mercy! (7) The LORD is my strength and my shield. My heart trusted him, so I received help. My h...
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Pastor, Faith Boards Online, and Church Community says NO HELP to Victim of
2008-04-02 00:02:00
Pastor, Faith Boards Online , and Church Community says NO HELP to Victim of Domestic ViolenceI read quite a bit of articles regarding domestic violence in regards to the faith prospective. At times I realize that I get naïve thinking maybe things would get a little better once people decide to share their experiences. I read things and they point to getting in touch with your church, having your pastor and their resources help you. For goodness SAKES don?t go secular! I think in some circumstances that?s just not wise!I have been watching a story unfold recently. It started ? for me anyway ? on two very popular faith boards. It was a story of a married young woman with 2 small children. As in most stories of domestic violence I don?t think she saw it for what it was at first. We all have to have our realizations. I guess in the past she did have churches that told her that he needed help, and that he could be in danger of hurting himself or others. Steps were taken for the...

HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part Two God is JUST!
2008-04-01 16:00:00
Yesterday I spoke on how God is listening! I reference a passage in which David was crying out to God in a very emotional state!Psalms 28:1-2 GW By David. O LORD, I call to you. O my rock, do not turn a deaf ear to me. If you remain silent, I will be like those who go into the pit. (2) Hear my prayer for mercy when I call to you for help, when I lift my hands toward your most holy place.I recently hear about a new cycle of abuse, and how it looks. It made alot of sense to me, and I wanted to share this with you!Abuse - Guilt - Excuses - Blame - Normal or maybe Cordial behavior - Fantasizing - Setup a situation to enact the plan - Abuse again!Is the guilt sincere? I have to wonder at times, and I have to wonder if it is more shame that things may get OUT into the open! Excuses for their behavior, and of course blame which basically never takes any personal responsiblity. I never liked the term 'honeymoon', and have often heard of the term 'hoovering' which basically means...
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HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part One God is listening!
2008-03-31 16:00:00
I have run into situations in which I could see very hurt people reaching out to others only to be handed some simplistic advice, and I often wondered if I was only one that felt this way. I never understood WHY people would hand over some little tidbits of scripture, and felt it would be a way for these people to forget about their wounds and instantly be transformed. If people would just get RIGHT with God everything would be fine!Shaming others when they are in the depths of despair with telling them that they went into relationships just GET and not to GIVE!Love is not a feeling its an action!God never promised you that you would be happy!People bend themselves into pretzels trying to make things work, and people tell them:WORK on yourself! Don't worry about THEM!They would quickly claim that they were CALLED to tell the truth about things, but one thing they always seemed to miss was the empathy and compassion part of it. I'm NOT saying people don't need to hear truth ok...
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Teen Violence - Domestic Violence or abuse in Dating
2008-03-28 17:27:00
Black Missing but not Forgotten has an excellent article on teen violence!This is one of the videos she offered! Its a great peice if you have children around that age, and want to remind them what a safe relationship really is.The article is worth the read, and I'm sure will help plenty of teens see the light!
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Gospel of John Day Three
2008-03-26 15:00:00
Part 13Part 14Part 15Part 16Part 17Part 18Part 19
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