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When Adult Children Return to Live At Home
2008-06-02 17:07:00 When a parent allows a son or daughter to become dependent on them well into adulthood, they aren’t doing themselves or that child any favors. I recently received this message by e-mail from a father who is struggling with his stepson who is still living at home, though he is 25 years old. Here’s what he wrote: “I ... More About: Children , Home , Live , Adult , Return
Could You Be the Prodigal?
2008-05-17 01:03:00 In a world where parents indulge their kids with everything they want, it would seem that these kids would be especially grateful. Instead, a generation has become selfish, self-centered, and unprepared for real life. A dictionary definition of a “prodigal” is “one who spends or gives lavishly and foolishly.” You may think your teenager is acting like a prodigal these days, but have ...
The Hidden Culprit of Teen Troubles
2008-05-08 21:13:00 Whether or not you think it can happen in your Christian home, your teenager is most likely experimenting with drugs or alcohol. I say that because you probably wouldn’t be reading this article unless you were already having problems with your teen. It’s always surprising to me when parents ask for my help, and then list ... More About: Hidden
When An Adult Child Makes Bad Decisions
2008-04-18 17:48:00 When a child becomes an adult and is old enough to make his own decisions, or is living on his own, it is no longer within our power to control much in their life. It is, however, within our power to manage our relationship with that child. More About: Adult , Child , Decisions
Parenting 201
2008-04-08 17:55:00 Have your ever left for work in the morning, leisurely driving along while merrily sipping your coffee, confident in the fact that you’ll arrive a few minutes early, only to turn into the parking lot and suddenly realize that you forgot something back at home that you absolutely needed that day? Then it becomes a mad ... More About: Parenting , The Gathering , Gathering
Know Pain Know Gain
2008-04-06 08:13:00 If pain were knocking on your door, you wouldn’t welcome him, invite him in, or help him in any way. You would send him to the next neighborhood, reassuring him that he was at the wrong address. Parents in trouble with their teen call me when they are in pain and need help, but I’ve learned ... More About: Pain
No Quick Fixes for Teen Behavior Problems
2008-03-27 04:18:00 I see as many problems surface from the unrealistic expectations of parents of struggling teenagers as I do with teenagers themselves. In some ways parental issues are tougher to address than a teen’s. Parents often think that their teen’s problems can be fixed with the right formula, medication, or educational bandage, just like the cut ... More About: Behavior , Problems , Quick
Teen Modesty in a Culture of Seduction
2008-03-15 18:03:00 Remember the crazy fads in the late 60’s and 70’s? The tie-dyed shirts, the beads, headbands, and the peace symbols? When I was in high school my dad hated my bushy sideburns and long hair, my purple bell bottoms and boots that came up over my knees. It was a fad to look like the rock idols of the day and that look was in. My dress made no sense to my parents, but it made a lot of sense to me at the time. I bet there are things your parents didn’t like about the way you dressed as a teenager. Chances are, you don’t still dress that way, and when you look at those old pictures you may giggle, as I do, about how foolish you looked back then. Today, I mostly hear from concerned parents of teenage girls who want to dress too seductively. They wonder how to deal with the issue of seduction when it has become so pervasive in our culture. Teens today live in a world of sexual innuendo, where outward packaging and presentation is all important. The... More About: Culture , Modesty , Seduction
Teens Can Be Cooler Online
2008-03-03 06:56:00 Online networking sites offer teens a place to post videos, music, images, comments, thoughts, and wallpaper in any form they want. They can express whatever they want to whomever they want. They can invite people into their “home,” and limit who enters their “home.” They present themselves as they want to be presented. They form groups, ... More About: Teens , Online , Cooler
Your Teen and the Internet
2008-02-27 19:06:00 Do you remember the old Star Trek television shows and those futuristic gadgets they used to communicate with each other? It seemed so far-fetched at the time, but today it is mostly a reality and deeply ingrained in our culture, especially among teenagers. My concern is that while teens have more ways to communicate than ever before, they are ... More About: Internet , The Internet
Troubled Teen Triggers
2008-02-22 06:55:00 Do your parents know everything that happened every minute of your childhood? Probably not. Neither do you know everything that has happened in your teenager’s life. Events in our childhood can impact the way we relate and act in our teenage years and sometimes for the rest of our lives. Past happenings may lead us to feel that we ... More About: Troubled , Triggers
Teens and Self-Control
2008-02-16 20:55:00 Parenting teens is not just about caring for their physical and educational needs. It’s also about training your teen to handle what life will later dish out, with body and soul intact. It’s about teaching self-control. After all, your child will spend 80% of his lifetime away from you. So, you need to ask yourself this question: ... More About: Teens , Control , Self-Control
Rulemaking Versus Ruling Your Home
2008-02-01 06:49:00 Some parents mix the idea of rulemaking with ruling their home. Reasonable rulemaking and proper boundaries will help a teenager mature into a confident adult, while living under a “ruler” can lead to frustration, rebellion and eroded self-esteem. Which kind of home is yours? One that has rules or one that is ruled? Rules for your home ... More About: Home , Versus , Ruling
A Fitting Response to a Teen?s Need to Fit In
2008-01-27 07:05:00 Do you recall some stupid things you did as a teenager? I do, and I’m sure you do, too. I guess that’s why many of us parents work overtime to help our teenagers avoid such embarrassment. But unfortunately, these life lessons cannot be learned any other way. Experiencing and becoming embarrassed by our own immaturity ... More About: Response
Connecting with Your Teen
2008-01-15 17:17:00 One would think it is becoming easier to connect with our teenagers today with all of the newer, faster, and easier ways to communicate. We have chat, e-mail, VOIP, SKYPE, instant messaging, cell phones, text messaging and voicemail. But are they really doing anything to improve your parental communications? Lately I was in a conversation where plenty of information was transferred, lips were ... More About: Connecting
Try a Different Approach
2008-01-03 23:06:00 Have you ever had a child balk at your ideas or run from your suggestions, even when you know life could be better if they followed your advice? Do you have a teen that would rather do it “their way” and not “your way?” Let me offer some advice from a lesson I learned when our ... More About: Diff
Parenting Lessons from Knox and Nash
2008-01-03 23:06:00 Have you ever had a child balk at your ideas or run from your suggestions, even when you know life could be better if they followed your advice? Do you have a teen that would rather do it “their way” and not “your way?” Let me offer some advice from a lesson I learned when our ... More About: Parenting , Lessons , Pare
Mall Shootings: When Hurt People Hurt People
2007-12-19 19:01:00 I believe that most young people who go on a rampage of shooting others in malls or schools, do so because of a combination of two things…hopelessness for their current situation, and a sense of abandonment by others. It’s an attempt to ”pay back” mankind for their misery, forcing others to feel a similar hurt that they have been ... More About: People , Hurt , Mall
Unique Retreat to Help Parents and Youthworkers
2007-12-12 23:18:00 You are invited to an all new event designed to encourage you and provide the tools you need to effectively work through tough issues with your teenager… The Gathering at Heartlight to be held February 21-23, is a 3-day retreat that will provide some of the same intensive training that the Heartlight resident parents receive–a vital element in Heartlight’s 20-year history of successfully helping troubled teens and ... More About: Parents , Unique , Retreat , Pare
A Game Plan for Change
2007-12-12 23:18:00 You are invited to an all new event designed to give you the tools to deal with your teenager and a game plan to make a real change in your home. The Gathering at Heartlight, February 21-23 A 3-day retreat that will teach many of the insights learned from Heartlight’s 20-year history of successfully helping troubled teens and their families. You’ll learn ... More About: Change , Game , Plan
The Author of Reconciliation
2007-12-07 03:16:00 This time of year can be rough for families who are dealing with a struggling teenager. Holidays are supposed to be joyous, not full of strife, so it can be difficult to know how to respond. During moments of reflection afforded by time-off from work and school, we often examine our painful relationships with a spotlight instead of candlelight. We have time to ... More About: Author , Reconciliation
A Journey to Hope
2007-11-22 09:50:00 Pain is the pen that writes the song that calls us forth to dance. –Michael Card, from Underneath the Door Thanksgiving marks the beginning of the season when we celebrate life and the goodness of God. We give gifts, attend parties, and make an effort to spend time with family. If all is well, we feel happy. But for those of ... More About: Journey , Hope
Unique Struggles for Adopted Teens
2007-11-19 04:10:00 When it comes to having “unique issues,” adopted teens seem to have more than their share. When an adopted teen struggles with the who and why of their adoption, their adolescent years are often more intense and emotionally charged than what is experienced by their non-adopted peers. Even though their struggles surround issues that are quite unique to their adoption, the ... More About: Teens , Unique
Adopting for the Right Reasons
2007-11-09 00:44:00 Every day hundreds of orphaned or unwanted children from around the world find welcome and love from men and women in the U.S. through adoption. Today, in honor of National Adoption Week, I want to applaud those who take on this role, and especially those who adopt children with disabilities, children of a different race, and older children. You are among today’s most ... More About: Reasons
Peace in Parenting At-Risk Teens
2007-10-29 20:39:00 When your teen is spinning out of control it is frightening to think about the damage he may be doing to his future. But that’s just what we parents do…we worry about our child when we see the warning signs (grades dropping, hanging around with the wrong crowd, drug use, depression, defiance, sexual promiscuity). The unknown is always scary, but ... More About: Peace , Parenting , Teens , Risk , Parent
Ending Family Chaos - Consequences
2007-10-20 07:37:00 A sensible person learns by being corrected. –Proverbs 19:25b If I asked, “Does your teen seem sensible?” Most parents would look at me cross-eyed, or ask me if I’ve lost my mind. Of course my teen isn’t sensible! Teens are wired for chaos and they spread it everywhere they go, including your home. Our job as parents ... More About: Family , Ending , Chaos , Consequences
Ending Family Chaos - Part 3
2007-10-12 23:59:00 Most of us work for companies that have a policy manual. We follow the policies, since they are a requirement of enjoying the financial benefits and privileges of employment. From that we know what to expect, how to act, and how not to act if we want to keep our jobs. Likewise, the rules within ... More About: Family , Ending , Part , Part 3 , Chaos
Ending Family Chaos - Part 2
2007-10-02 00:08:00 Last week I wrote about the first step in developing a Belief System for Discipline for your home — to identify your basic beliefs. This week we will discuss developing correlating boundaries for those beliefs. Have you taken time to discuss your beliefs this week? If not, I encourage you to start with just the top ... More About: Family , Ending , Part , Chaos
Teenagers and Family Chaos
2007-09-22 22:43:00 When a teenager doesn’t know what is expected in your home, he does what seems right in his own eyes - and that’s a formula for chaos. A good way to avoid chaos in the teenage years is to establish a Belief System for Discipline, which is a clear and undeniable plan for what is expected in your home. A Belief System for Discipline ... More About: Family , Chaos , Teenagers , Ager
Ending Family Chaos - Beliefs
More articles from this author:2007-09-22 22:43:00 When a teenager doesn’t know what is expected in your home, he does what seems right in his own eyes - and that’s a formula for chaos. A good way to avoid chaos in the teenage years is to establish a Belief System for Discipline, which is a clear and undeniable plan for what is expected in your home. A Belief System for Discipline ... More About: Family , Beliefs , Ending , Chaos 1, 2 |
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