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How Letting Go of the Past Can Help You Hold On To The Future (Video)
2008-06-09 15:18:00
The past can be a tricky thing. It always seems to haunt us, especially when we really need to learn to let it go. When you enter into a serious relationship with someone, you tend to take on their pasts as well, and it can be difficult to accept what may or may not have ...
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Thinking of Having a Threesome? Why Not Make It A Foursome? (Video)
2008-06-08 16:15:00
You and your partner have decided to have a threesome. You may even have someone in mind that you and your partner have both agreed on. If you’re about to take the plunge into the world of multiple partner sex, you may have a few questions on how to do it safely. Congratulations! Not ...
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Do You Know Why Your Partner is Pushing You Away?
2008-06-07 15:42:00
Don was a tall thin, ex bass guitar player of 43 who had been sober for 18 months.  He had, for the first time in his adult life begun to experience the pleasure of being alive without drugs in his system and had met Karen.  Karen was a divorcee with two teenaged children. Her ex-husband ...
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He Pulled Out? Can I Still Get Pregnant? (Video)
2008-06-06 16:38:00
You and your partner having been having intercourse for some time now. You feel like a couple, you’re committed to each other . . . and you’ve been having unprotected sex. Sure, he’s been pulling out or you’ve been using the calendar method, but how risky are you actually being? Can you get pregnant? ...
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How The Power of Empathy Can Improve Your Relationships
2008-06-05 17:15:00
Back massage?  Flowers and candles?  Sexual favors?  Yes, all of these help keep the fires of a relationship burning. But have you ever considered the power of empathy? Empathy in a relationship continues to fuel the stuff of really long lasting relationships because, I believe, most people desire to feel like their partner not ...
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My Girlfriend Says She Needs Space - What Does That Mean? (Video)
2008-06-04 16:09:00
Who hasn’t found themselves in a relationship where one partner wanted space? It’s a totally normal and healthy thing unless you’re not the one asking for space. Then it gets uncomfortable and sometimes even awkward when your partner wants space but you’re content with closeness. What does it mean when your partner asks for ...
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Sexual Fetishes - Is My Smoking Fetish Weird? (Video)
2008-06-03 16:00:00
Everyone has different turn-ons, ranging from turn-ons that seem relatively mild to turn-ons that seem to be completely out there and fetishistic. How do you know if what turns you on is normal or not? Should you continue to do what turns you on, even if other people think it’s weird? Many people ...
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How To Ease Into Swinging So That You?re Both Comfortable (Video)
2008-06-02 15:31:00
So you and your partner are thinking about swinging. Whether you’ve tried it once before or this is your first time, it can be nerve wracking when trying to ease yourself into the swinging lifestyle. How can you start swinging slowly, and in a way that makes both partners completely comfortable? While the only ...
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Frustrated Man Can?t Orgasm Wearing A Condom! (Video)
2008-06-01 15:21:00
If you dislike wearing a condom during sex, you’re certainly not the first! Many people dislike the feeling a condom has or, more to the point, the lack of feeling. If your partner insists on having you wear a condom during sex every time, you may be frustrated, especially if she’s already using another type ...
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How Do We Keep the ?New? Feeling and Not Get Too Comfortable? (Video)
2008-05-31 16:16:00
In new relationships, there is the "new" feeling that everyone loves. There’s a scientific explanation for it.  It’s a chemical released by the brain that gives us those warm, fuzzy feelings when we first meet someone new and the relationship gets off to a great start. Unfortunately, those "new" feelings tend to wear off, ...
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What?s Your Safe Word? How to Get Off Without Getting Hurt
2008-05-30 17:09:00
You?ve seen the stories in the news ? a woman dies during a sex play session with her husband. The articles are vague, but they usually mention the word ?kinky,? a kitchen appliance malfunctioning, and the husband being held for questioning. You don?t want this to happen to you. BDSM is fun and exciting, but ...
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Do You Even Know What You?re Fighting About?
2008-05-29 16:06:00
If you’ve ever gotten into a fight with a partner over something seemingly silly, you might have been very confused about why it was such a big deal. And yet, it may have been one of the biggest blow ups of your relationship. The truth is that sometimes a fight is about much more than ...
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Should You Get Married To A Man Who Doesn?t Want Kids? (Video)
2008-05-28 17:44:00
If you find yourself in a situation where you’re in a committed relationship but your partner doesn’t want kids (and you do), take heart because you’re not the first. Regardless, it is still a difficult situation to be in and one in which decisions must be made. It is never easy to choose between the ...
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How Do I Get Past My First Time Swinger Fears? (Video)
2008-05-26 16:21:00
Many couples, especially those who have been together for a long time, are interested in swinging.  If you and your partner find yourselves interested in swinging, take heart. It’s totally normal and healthy to want to experience your sexuality outside of your current relationship.  It’s also normal to be scared. There are a lot ...
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Is It True That Orgasms Kill Brain Cells? (Video)
2008-05-25 16:36:00
While that may seem like a silly question, it’s actually not.  What it is, however, is urban legend.  Many people hear these types of urban legends from their friends or from their relatives, and they were probably started to discourage people from having sex.  Remember the one about how masturbation gives you hairy palms?  ...
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Can We Salvage Our Sex Life If We Don?t Fit Together Physically? (Video)
2008-05-23 15:18:00
It?s a fact of life. Physically, we?re all different.  We?re different shapes and sizes when it comes to our chests, butts and legs, so why wouldn?t it be true with our genitals?  Well, it is true.  Everyone?s penis and vagina is shaped differently from someone else?s, so it?s entirely possible to get a mismatch ...
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Help! I?m Pregnant and He Wants Me to Choose Him or the Baby! (Video)
2008-05-22 16:15:00
" It’s me or the baby!" Believe it or not, many women are faced with the need to choose between a man or a baby, and it?s a tough decision.  It involves weighing all the possible outcomes of each scenario as well as moral beliefs and what you actually want.  If you find yourself ...
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Think Cheaters Are Always the Bad Guys? You May Be Wrong?
2008-05-21 15:05:00
It?s all over the media, Maury Pauvich,  Joey Bosco?s ?Cheater? series,  the front page of the New York Times with the story of Elliot Spitzer, and of course, Bill Clinton.  Now, in our culture, there is nothing worse than a cheater, is there? We hate them for being unfaithful to their wives, husbands, girlfriends, or ...
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My Vagina Is Too Small To Enjoy Sex - What Can I Do? (Video)
2008-05-20 16:11:00
There are many women who have never had an orgasm. For those who have regular or multiple orgasms, this seems absurd. But for the women who truly have never experienced one, it’s a painful reality.  Fortunately, there is help on the horizon for women who want to enjoy sex with their partners and end ...
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Burned By His Ex? Will He Ever Commit to a Relationship With Me? (Video)
2008-05-19 16:04:00
It’s an age old dilemma… A  woman is dating a guy who isn’t ready to commit.  It can certainly be vice versa, and either way, it’s frustrating to be the one ready to commit when your partner isn’t. Everyone stresses the importance of being on the same page relationship-wise with your partner and they’re ...
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My Boyfriend Wants To Have Sex Before Marriage But I?m Not Sure. Is It Real
2008-05-18 16:53:00
Sex before marriage. It?s a tough topic that many people feel very passionate about, but not everyone is passionate about it for the same reasons.  Many people believe that sex before marriage is wrong or immoral and others believe that it?s not an issue.  While there may never be a universal agreement on whether ...
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Oral Sex and Orgasm Dilemma - I Want To Finish In Her Mouth? (Video)
2008-05-17 16:46:00
Men love blow jobs. That’s a fact. Many men also love finishing in a woman’s mouth during a blow job.  It can make them feel powerful or good about themselves and for some men, it just feels better physically to orgasm in a woman’s mouth than finishing another way.  Unfortunately, not all ...
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Is It Normal For a Virgin to Be Into BDSM? (Video)
2008-05-16 15:43:00
As a virgin, it’s normal to find yourself turned on and sexually excited by many things, even if you’ve never actually had sexual intercourse.  What turns you on is going to be different from what turns someone else on, and it’s important to embrace diversity and celebrate your uniqueness!  Is there ever a point where something that turns you on would not be considered normal, especially if you’re a virgin?  Well, yes and no.  It’s a complicated situation that needs a hard, honest look. Dear Dan and Jennifer,   I found your website on YouTube. I think I am into BDSM or there may be something wrong with me.  I believe I am more Sadistic than Masochistic though and I am still a virgin as is my boyfriend.  He likes to be clawed and chained (yet to let me do that though) and when I scream in pain because I got hurt or something he gets a little excited.  I have clawed him so bad I took chunks of skin out of his hi...
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3-Before-Me: A Proven Guideline For Great Sex
2008-05-15 16:40:00
  Have you ever heard of the "3-Before-Me" rule? Simply put, it means that you do whatever it takes to make your woman experience an orgasm 3 times before you even allow her to start pleasuring you. Now, just the thought of this may tire you out but we’re not really talking about orgasms during intercourse here. We mean the following (and in this sequence): Clitoral orgasm G-spot orgasm Blended orgasm It’s best to bring your woman to a clitoral orgasm first for the simple reason that the clitoris is easiest to stimulate and will be most responsive to your ‘attentions’ at the start of making love. Furthermore, a clitoral orgasm prepares her physically for that all-elusive G-spot orgasm. A G-spot orgasm will give your partner a different kind of sensation compared to a clitoral orgasm.  Many women claim that it’s ‘deeper’ and more ‘body-rocking’ than clitoral orgasms. After a G-spot orgasm, it’s time fo...
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Can I Trust Her Or Is She Playing Me For A Fool? (Video)
2008-05-14 15:36:00
Relationships are all about trust.  It is what builds the foundation for a healthy partnership.  It is essential that you trust your partner and that your partner trust you.  However, early on in relationships, it is normal to have questions and suspicions while you are still building that foundation of trust.  The question for ...
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How to Recover From an Emotional Hangover and Create a Healthy Relationship
2008-05-13 16:24:00
Whether you’ve been in a bad relationship, have been cheated on or even been abused, it is possible for you to carry the emotional baggage with you even once the situation itself has passed.  Women especially are vulnerable to emotional hangovers and can let bad experiences affect them continually, even in new relationships.  ...
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Help! I Can?t Feel It When We Have Sex Anymore. Is My Sex Life Over? (Video
2008-05-12 18:20:00
Whether it happens suddenly or it’s something that happens over time, losing vaginal sensitivity can be extremely upsetting for a woman, especially one that’s quite sexually active. This can come as even more of a shock if a woman has previously enjoyed G-spot or vaginal orgasms and great sex, because the loss of sensitivity may ...
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Texas Polygamists Lack Freedom Of Choice
2008-05-11 16:17:00
I must admit when it comes to the polyamory world I tend to be a bit on the somewhat clueless side. It’s not because I don’t know about the world of polyamorous lifestyle, but because I can’t imagine myself being with more than one mate/girlfriend in my life. But there are couples, Christian or otherwise, ...
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4 Reasons Why Female Orgasms Are So Hard To Achieve
2008-05-10 16:07:00
There seems to be a conspiracy. Men want women to climax, women want to climax. So why is that, according to studies, about 70% of women never reach an orgasm during intercourse? We can of course focus on other methods women can orgasm (e.g., oral sex, fingering, etc.) but even those may not be enough ...
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How To Get More Hits To Your Online Dating Profile
2008-05-09 16:01:00
I?m going to premise this by saying that I can give you some tips for helping you get more ?hits? on your profile but I make no promises that if you write the most amazing profile on earth, you?ll find your soul mate. A lot can happen after some winks and a flurry of ...
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