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Standing up for Yourself in Relationships
2008-05-09 09:05:00 By Barbi Pecenco, MA Click here to contact Barbi and/or see her GoodTherapy.org Profile There are plenty of articles out there from relationship experts encouraging the rules of good communication, but rarely does anyone tell us what to do when we have practiced those rules and our partner continues to act unreasonably. Standing up for ...SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: "Standing up for Yourself in Relationships", url: "http://www.goodtherapy.org/cus-tom/blog/2008/05/08/relationshi-ps-standing-up-for-yourself/" });
Male assertiveness
2008-04-16 12:49:00 A mild-mannered man was tired of being bossed around by his wife so he went to a psychiatrist.The psychiatrist said he needed to build his self-esteem, and so gave him a book on assertiveness, which he read on the way home.He had finished the book by the time he reached his house.The man stormed into the house and walked up to his wife.Pointing a finger in her face, he said, "From now on, I want you to know that I am the man of this house, and my word is law! I want you to prepare me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I'm finished eating my meal, I expect a sumptuous dessert afterward. Then, after dinner, you're going to draw me my bath so I can relax. And when I'm finished with my bath, guess who's going to dress me and comb my hair?""The funeral director," said his wife.
Men's Issues: Assertiveness Vs. Self Confidence
2008-03-20 16:19:00 Many men think that the way to boost their self confidence in a difficult situation is to assert themselves in some way.I would like to challenge this approach by firstly outline what this tactic really reflects and secondly clarifying what it really means to have self confidence in all situations.Assertive behavior can take on many guises i.e. talking louder, being more forceful, needing to be right, attempting to dominate someone else, needing to defend one's position, need for power etc.If you look at the roots of any of these you will recognize the compulsive drive to quench one's underlying feelings of inadequacy. In other words although on the surface one "appears" strong, powerful, self confident, in charge etc., under the surface they are actually feeling weak, vulnerable, afraid, inadequate and lacking self confidence.It is their fear of feeling such feelings that drives them "compulsively" to act otherwise. The term "compulsive" reflects the fact that the individual is a...
Assertiveness: Dealing With Difficult People
2008-03-01 04:05:00 Great article about using assertiveness in a respectful way while dealing with difficult people we all come across on a daily basis. Are you a People Pleaser? Does fear of hurting someone's feelings keep you passive and unable to get the respect you deserve? While there are a variety of assertive techniques one can use to d20 Zoom(s)
Hump Day Hmm - Assertiveness and Gender
2008-02-27 04:52:00 As a follow-up to Julie Pippert's post on Is there gender bias on the playground and political field alike?, here is my take on assertiveness and gender. Since I don't follow the political arena as closely as I should, I'll limit my observations to what I'm supposedly an expert on, my children. Having both a boy and a girl allows us to see differences in assertiveness in action, as well as just about every other area. As all parents, we try not to raise them differently but their natural gender tendencies always show through. Let's just say that when Dova plays with Adam's cars, it's to pretend that families are taking a vacation. And when Adam plays with Dova's doll house, it's to line up the dolls and shoot them down with rubber bands. I hate to make generalizations about gender, as you really need to look at each child individually. But no matter how hard we try to ignore it, there are definite differences in our kids and darn it, they often fall into the temperamen...
By: mommy bytes
Understanding Assertiveness: Getting The Respect You Deserve
2008-02-18 12:00:00 Have you ever felt as though you were a human doormat? Has your self-esteem and self-confidence ever been so low that you began to believe the negative things people would say to you or about you? Are you a People Pleaser? Does fear of hurting someone?s feelings keep you from communicating in a way that ...
Male assertiveness
2007-11-19 04:48:00 A mild-mannered man was tired of being bossed around by his wife so he went to a psychiatrist.The psychiatrist said he needed to build his self-esteem, and so gave him a book on assertiveness, which he read on the way home.He had finished the book by the time he reached his house.The man stormed into the house and walked up to his wife.Pointing a finger in her face, he said, "From now on, I want you to know that I am the man of this house, and my word is law! I want you to prepare me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I'm finished eating my meal, I expect a sumptuous dessert afterward. Then, after dinner, you're going to draw me my bath so I can relax. And when I'm finished with my bath, guess who's going to dress me and comb my hair?""The funeral director," said his wife.
Internal Cleansing: Confrontation and Assertiveness
2007-10-30 19:50:00 Lately my life has been filled with confrontation. This is new territory for me. Usually I run from it like the plague. I would rather bottle up any frustrations and deal with those consequences than have it out with someone. Why? Because I hate how awkward it is and I want everyone to like me, and I cave under pressure. I really struggle with defending my thoughts when going into battle. It’s easier to just keep the peace. However lately that hasn’t been an option. I have gone into battle and I hope good has come out of it. A given example is at my work. This morning I had to confront my boss about micromanaging me. I was not looking forward to it but I knew if I didn’t say anything, it would continue and I would slowly lose any power that I have over my department. I don't want to lose my job, or submit my team to being told what to do by him instead of me because its confusing for them. Plus it tells me that he doesn't trust me to do my job. Feathers have been ruffl...
Have More Assertiveness and Self Respect
2007-09-11 17:38:00 It’s time for us to peep UrbanMonk, once again! Albert Foong, the author of the aforementioned content-rich blog has written a piece on increasing both assertiveness and self respect so you can become a Chuck Norris of the workplace. Just make sure you save the roundhouse kicks, okay? Your goal for today: Quickly, create a list ...
By: Modern Worker
Russia boasts buzzing U.S. base in Cold War-style assertiveness
2007-08-10 14:25:00 GENEVA ?Russian long-range bombers buzzed a U.S. naval base at Guam, Russian military officials said yesterday, the first such sortie since the Cold War and just the latest example of Moscow’s growing assertiveness in reclaiming some of the prerogatives of its Soviet superpower days. Read More… Russian bombers resuming Cold War patrols International Herald Tribune, France - 18 hours ago The ...
By: 1913 Intel
Collateral Benefits: Judicial Assertiveness in Pakistan
2007-07-03 13:01:00 Adil Najam I have commented before (here, here and here) that recent events in Pakistan, especially the dynamics unleashed by popular movement in support of the Chief Justice of Pakistan, have deeper significance than just the future of Justice Iftikhar Chaudhry ; or for that matter merely the future of Gen. Musharraf’s government - with uniform ...
Good Leadership Requires A Moderate Amount Of Assertiveness
2007-03-11 15:00:00 A recent study found that organizational leaders who are perceived as under-assertive or highly assertive tend to be viewed as less effective. The results indicate that too much or too little perceived assertiveness may be the most common weakness in would-be leaders. The study appears in the February 2007 issue of the Journal of Personality and ...
Japan Is Back:Why Tokyo?s New Assertiveness Is Good for Washington
2007-02-27 17:41:07 Japan Rising: The Resurgence of Japanese Power and Purpose.. Kenneth B. Pyle. : Public Affairs, 2007, 448 pp. $29.95 Summary: Kenneth Pyle’s new book argues that a resurgence of Japan’s power and purpose has Tokyo poised to play a bigger role on the international stage. Pyle is right, and it is a good thing for Washington and Asian security. These days, any book on Asia with the word “rising” in the title is likely to be about China. It was doubtless with that in mind that Kenneth Pyle decided on the clever title “Japan Rising” for his masterful new treatise on Japan’s strategic culture. At a time when cabinet secretaries, CEOs, and journalists are rushing past Tokyo on their way to Beijing, Pyle reminds us that China is not the only actor making strategic choices that will shape Asia’s future. As he notes in his introduction, “After more than half a century of national pacifism and isolationism, [Japan] is preparing to become a...
By: 1913 Intel
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