Mixed reaction on Twitter to Rihanna speaking out about domestic abuse on &
2009-11-07 09:44:00 In this publicity image released by ABC, Diane Sawyer, left, interviews singer Rihanna about her relationship with ex-boyfriend Chris Brown in New York. The interview aired on the morning program "Good Morning America," Thursday, Nov. 5, 2009, and will also air Friday on the prime time news program "20/20: Good Morning America". (AP Photo/ABC, Ida Mae Astute) A week before Valentine's Day, R&B singer Chris Brown was being investigated by the Los Angeles Police Department for assault on his then-girlfriend pop star Rihanna. After the February 8 notorious fight that put Rihanna in the hospital with a bruised face, an image of her face taken by LAPD was then posted on TMZ's Web site. Nine months later, Rihanna finally...
Submissive Wife? Sacrificing Husband??
2009-09-15 23:47:00 Over at Reflections of a Mirror blog was a man that did a piece call the The Submissive Wife? I had to giggle because his introduction the article included making sure you paid attention the question mark at the end of the title, "The Submissive wife???"He did poke fun at some that believe that Ephesians 5:22 seems to be the only sentence with any true meaning in that entire passage. We have all heard it ourselves - Wifes Submit to your husbands! I could tell he was off to a good start with a bit of sarcasm:There you have it, wives- do whatever your husband says. Guys, wouldn?t that be awesome? To have slaves that have to do what we tell them to do? I mean, how incredibly boring would that be? Never fight, never argue, never have a complicated discussion. Never be interrupted while the NFL is on. Never have to worry about her feelings or her opinions. Never wonder if she will make you breakfast, lunch and dinner, because, well, she has too right? It?s in the Bible.(giggle...
Carter Speaks out about Treatment of women of faith, and how it encourages
2009-07-14 03:47:00 I ran across this article today regarding our former President Carter, and how he feels that faiths have been doing women (in some sectors of course) a disservice. That they are using cherry picked scripture to keep them in a inferior position, and he feels its against scripture.The words of God do not justify cruelty to women, and when I read that I almost fell off my chair today.He seemed have joined an organization called The Elders, and they wish to speak about things that seem more like 'tradition' or 'culture' than truth when it comes to issues like women's rights in this aspect. I was floored when I came across this. Churches for the most part don't wish to acknowledge this is happening, and here comes a gentleman that is willing to bring the truth into the light!He also has decided after MANY years to leave the Baptist church over their view of women in scripture.I have been a practising Christian all my life and a deacon and Bible teacher for many years. My faith i...
Men's Group Raises $36,000 for Domestic Violence Shelter
2009-02-19 23:32:00 Early I had write about a Men's Group from Church Raises Funds for Domestic Violence, and it was reported today on The Evangelical Covenant Church website that raised $36,000 to help the local Shelter for domestic violence!NORTH EASTON, MA (February 16, 2009) ? Despite a difficult economy, the men?s group of Congregational Covenant Church recently raised $36,000 for two agencies assisting battered women.The men raised the funds through their ?Flavors of the World? dinner that included wine tasting, a dance, an auction, as well as coporate donations.The community also has been eager to support the dinner. ?We have made this into a very visible cause,? says Kevin Symmons, one of the co-chairs.This was the fourth annual dinner to benefit Womansplace Crisis Center, an emergency shelter, and HUGS II (Help Us Get Safe), a nonprofit organization that offers various services to combat domestic violence.In the past four years the men have raised more than $130,000. They held the first eve...
Elephants in the Room - Sermon on Domestic Abuse
2009-02-11 06:14:00 I found a video tonight as I was browsing. I have to say I was very touched, and at the end tears were coming down my cheeks as I listened to this pastor preach to his church. He spoke of sexual abuse of children, and domestic violence within the church. He spoke of how scripture is used to keep people within homes where violence is taking place. He spoke of the damaging effects of emotional abuse, and he spoke of how the world (attitudes at times) pretty much sets us the abuse that happens. He spoke of how Jesus would not wish others to stay in danger. He mentioned stories of how the cycle continues. You could hear the spirit and attitude in his voice, and you could HEAR the urgency! How its the most unreported crime, and yet the stats are awful as they are. Its about 20 minutes long, and towards the beginning his mic goes out! LOL Its about 10 seconds, and you see a lady RUN up and hand him a replacement! So its NOT your computer! Just wanted to warn you. How people's...
Sermon on Domestic Abuse
2009-02-02 15:50:00 iChalice: Unitarian Universalism meets Web 2.0 had a sermon listed, and I would encourage you to go and visit to view the entire thing.It listed some very powerful quotes I felt. Thisthewaith, a minister and President of a Chicago theological school, tells of a woman who had complained to her husband of his abuse and the scars she bore. He responded that her bones were his bones, as it said in the Bible ? relating back to the story of Adam and Eve (?Every Two Minutes? 311). Other texts, such as 1 Peter 2:19-21 tell the faithful that they should suffer as Jesus suffered for them. As my colleague, Rev. Michael Tino writes, ?If a woman is taught to believe that the pain inflicted by her abusive [partner] is a test of her faith and her willingness to keep her family together no matter what the personal cost, there is a problem with what she is being taught?not with her (Tino ?Saving Paradise).?Oh what a day that will be when the words are gentle and the homes are safe. It?s up to us, ...
Pattern of Behavior: Domestic Violence and Faith
2009-01-29 16:59:00 I think one of the most overlooked characteristic of abusers seem to be the pattern of behavior they portray. I?m not sure if that is due to the spouse?s reactions to their behavior, or if people just genuinely don?t wish to see it. It is a huge source of frustration to me.Since every person on this earth is custom for the most part people will have certain aspects of behaviors that can?t come straight off lists you read. One of the aspects that seem to trigger the behavior is their sense of anxiety over something. I realize that anxiety isn?t a comfortable feeling, but we all have some of it to deal with in life. The reason I feel this is their reactions to small mundane things in life.I remember one story that I was told was about how this woman?s husband loved tortilla chips, and they MUST be round ones! He didn?t want the triangle ones. Now in most cases people wouldn?t have an issue finding those round chips for him. It seems odd, but then again it isn?t worth fighting over. Th...
The Bible Does Allow Divorce in Domestic Abuse Cases
2009-01-28 20:57:00 Barbara Roberts author of Not Under Bondage was cited on the Christian New Wire, and stating "The Bible Does Allow Divorce in Domestic Abuse Cases"The Barbara Roberts in the article goes on to state:Using the scriptures and scholarly research, the book refutes the official policy concerning divorce held by many evangelical churches and denominations. Not Under Bondage explains the scriptural dilemmas of abuse victims and shows how the Bible sets victims of abuse free from bondage and guilt.The author is a Christian survivor of domestic abuse who is concerned about how false teaching on domestic abuse in churches may be damaging victims of domestic abuse and their children, as well as neglecting the biblical directive to make perpetrators properly accountable. Not Under Bondage is the result of three years work researching Christian beliefs and the biblical texts about divorce.Sparked by a message forbidding divorce to abuse victims posted on Rick Warren's Saddleback Church site, Ch...
Saddleback says you CAN'T ESCAPE THE PAIN!!
2009-01-17 23:49:00 Saddleback Church - Does the bible say it is alright to divorce a spouse that is abusing you? Question 32. Danni at Because it matters beat me to the transcript as I was doing the same thing. lol She is faster than I am! Anyway, here is what was said:Someone asked this out of their heart though, ?Does the Bible say it is alright to divorce a spouse who is abusing you. I think that?s an excellent question of Scripture. It?s not like you can escape the pain. You think you are. There?s an immediate release when you divorce and you think I?ve escaped the pain but anyone in this room who has been divorced you could come up here and give testimony after testimony after testimony after testimony to say that, no, you don?t escape the pain. There?s still a pain there. It?s a long-term pain. It may come years later when a son or daughter graduates from high school and they have to get back together somehow and make that thing work. It may come years later as you talk with a new spouse and an ...
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
2008-12-25 13:50:00 Some people may have seen Lifehouse Skit, but I found a different version this week. I wanted to post it as my present to you! I know some of you may have have the best day due to domestic violence within the home, but always know that God is there for you.Everything!Happy Holidays, and God Bless
Tackling domestic abuse in Syria
2008-12-18 16:51:00 Stop Honor Killings had an article I just found:Throughout her 25 years of marriage, Olfat, was regularly beaten and humiliated by her husband. Yet she never complained to anyone for fear of tarnishing her family?s reputation.?I suffered a great deal of psychological and physical violence,? said Olfat, now a 49-year-old mother of four. Her husband was always accusing her of having relationships with other men as an excuse to hit her.Following in the steps of other victims of domestic abuse, Olfat decided to put an end to her ordeal. She recently separated from her husband, after her children had all married and left home.Although it was a taboo subject for a long time, violence against women is now being denounced in the Syrian media and other public forums as a reprehensible form of behaviour. In the past few years, the Syrian government has held several conferences designed to raise awareness about domestic violence. However, the current public outcry against the abuse of women is...
Entitlement of an Abusive Mind
2008-12-17 14:35:00 When I speak to those that I know that don't have to deal with domestic abuse, or should I say don't really recognize its there is always one word they can relate to ENTITLEMENT! I remember once sitting waiting for another party to show up for a business lunch one day, and the gentleman that was there was talking about his girlfriend's xhusband. It wasn't out of vindictive nature or really anger. It was more confusion over his behavior towards NOT her, but their children they had together. It seemed like a rather new relationship at the time, and he remembers how she was thankful for his help with the dinner dishes. I mean REALLY thankful almost shocked that he would do that at all! He mentioned - as he shook his head in amazement - how this man had certain hours placed aside that she was 'allowed' to vaccum so it didn't interrupt his television viewing. His peace and quiet that he needed in the evenings so he could relax. He really seemed disturbed at his views on how he w...
Religion can play role in domestic abuse
2008-12-06 02:40:00 The Delphosherald.com wrote a really good story on how religion can play a NOT so good role when it comes to domestic violence.Religion can play role in domestic abuseBy Mike Ford, The Delphos HeraldPublished: Saturday, November 15, 2008 Print E-mail By MIKE FORDThe Delphos HeraldChristian churches are a staple of many communities across the region and the nation. They provide valuable moral guidance, support and social services.However, the religion can have a negative psychological affect when a person who never feels ?good enough? is caught in a cycle of ?sinning,? repenting and praying for forgiveness only to ?beat themselves up? for repeating the cycle. Regardless of how bad the behavior really is, the guilt and shame can be perpetuated by religious beliefs and manipulated by an abusive spouse.The Delphos Public Library will host a talk on the subject at 6:30 p.m. Monday by Kathy Boaz, the director of Van Wert Crisis Care. She oversees a 20-bed shelter where abused women can s...
Domestic Violence, Church, Faith Resource Books
2008-11-22 04:39:00 I wanted to list a couple of more resource books on domestic violence with an aspect of church or your faith. I have been a little behind keeping up to date with this, and I wanted to point a couple of additional ones out to everyone!I found an online interview of the author of the book below by Rev. Anne WeatherholtRelgious New Blog writes about this book regarding an abusive pastor by Virginia and Robert Coombs.Barbara Roberts - Not Under Bondage with a link to her websiteBehind the Hedge by Waneta Dawn and a link to her blogI hope these help others looking for resources for domestic violence within the church, or concerning your faith. I will post new faith resources soon.
Working to break the domestic violence cycle
2008-11-21 04:13:00 Statesville.com had a good story on domestic violence recently. I wanted to point out a partial note about what a pastor mentioned. It will be highlighted below! Thank you Statesville.com!By Donna Swicegood Published: November 16, 2008The idea that men who batter their partners need anger management is a ridiculous notion to A Call to Men co-founder Tony Porter."They have excellent anger management skills," Porter said at a workshop last week that brought several domestic violence service providers together. "They know who to hit and who not to hit."Porter told the group at the Not Tonight Domestic Violence Peace Initiative Workshop that men are the key to addressing the growing domestic violence problem."Not enough men are standing up and taking responsibility for ending violence against women," he said. "Violence is rooted in sexism, that she belongs to him and he can do whatever he wants with his property."Classifying batterers as "sick" helps men who don't batter justify the...
Mary Winkler has Custody of the Children
2008-10-26 03:43:00 I have to admit I was surprised when I read this recently. Don't know how I could have missed it, since it happened at the beginning of the month of August. Mary Winkler picked up her daughters from their grandparents and took them to her home in McMinnville, according to a newspaper report.The Jackson Sun article mentioned:The Commercial Appeal reported on its Web site that Winkler, who was convicted last year of killing her preacher husband, reached an agreement with her in-laws that allows the children to live with their mother. The newspaper cited an unnamed source in the report.The grandparents are the ones that frought even supervised visitation, and wanted her parental rights taken away. Now they are in agreement that the children will live with her? You have to seriously wonder what happened there.Dan and Diane Winkler of Huntingdon, the girls' paternal grandparents, took custody of the children following Mary Winkler's arrest in the slaying of their son, Matthew Winkler,...
Mary Winkler has Custody of the Children
2008-10-26 03:43:00 I have to admit I was surprised when I read this recently. Don't know how I could have missed it, since it happened at the beginning of the month of August. Mary Winkler picked up her daughters from their grandparents and took them to her home in McMinnville, according to a newspaper report.The Jackson Sun article mentioned:The Commercial Appeal reported on its Web site that Winkler, who was convicted last year of killing her preacher husband, reached an agreement with her in-laws that allows the children to live with their mother. The newspaper cited an unnamed source in the report.The grandparents are the ones that frought even supervised visitation, and wanted her parental rights taken away. Now they are in agreement that the children will live with her? You have to seriously wonder what happened there.Dan and Diane Winkler of Huntingdon, the girls' paternal grandparents, took custody of the children following Mary Winkler's arrest in the slaying of their son, Matthew Winkler,...
Hayden?s Dad Not To Harass Wife
2008-10-15 19:38:00 Hayden Panettiere’s father, Alan, has been temporarily ordered not to “harass, strike or threaten” his wife, Lesley Vogel, a Beverly Hills judge ruled Tuesday. Judge H. Chester Horn issued the protective order until Panettiere’s new arraignment date of Dec. 11. If convicted, Panettiere faces up to a year in county jail. You might remember that he ...
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When Apologies are Dangerous with marriages of Domestic Abuse
2008-09-17 00:36:00 RBC Ministries speaks of the dangerous practice of asking women to constantly forgive the abuse of her husband, and using scripture to tell her that will keep the relationship together. We all know that the bible tells us to forgive, and we should forgive! When you never address the cruel behavior of domestic abuse within the home, and all you require is an apology the cycle will continue. We never address the root of the rage within the person that is abusing others. Is that really God's intent?In this video they actually speak to a couple that had domestic abuse going on in their marriage. He speaks of how he was good at showing people the man he felt they needed to see, and how that wasn't whom he was at home. I have to admit I do feel that abusers - some abusers - are some of the best con artists there is. Some people can say they don't understand, don't mean it, don't realize how bad it is. I have wonder about that at times. I'm sure in some circumstances they do talk the...
Domestic Abuse within the Church - When Men Hurt Their Own
2008-08-13 14:56:00 I found an interesting set of articles on The Hope Blog. From the comments after a number of entries she made it sounds like she is placing together a book from the prospective of a women dealing with domestic violence. The ring of horror of their pastor's attitude is what people need to understand about this aspect. YES this is a woman's prospective about domestic violence within the church, and her life dealing with a controlling husband. I believe it happens to both genders, but the more information and stories that get out there the better I believe.Inherit the Wind: When Men Hurt Their Own Part OneInherit the Wind: When Men Hurt Their Own Part TwoInherit the Wind: WHen Men Hurt Their Own Part ThreeThe Final Installment the author states is coming SOON!The responses are very good to this series, and of course you have to have some bad ones as well.By the way, according to the account in Genesis, Abraham sent his wife to be in the harem of the Egyptian Pharaoh.Yet, Sarah...
This ministry gets DOMESTIC ABUSE... YEAH GOD!
2008-08-11 13:26:00 I was doing some reading the other night, and came across a blog (love the theme and pictures by the way) called Lifetime Intimate Portrait. The author spoke about her church's ministry towards domestic violence, and how people might be surprised at whom shows up!At our church we now have a ministry in place to reach out to women who are dealing with these issues, or who have just come out of a situation. Help is completely confidential. We are committed to protecting these precious women at all costs. Interestingly enough, when the group was started we wondered how many we would have or if anyone in the church would respond. It is sad to report, but the statistics bear out and we have never had a lack of people in our support group ministry who need help along these lines. You might think your church is exempt, but...think again. You would be surprised who would attend a meeting if they could be certain no one would ever know! (We change our meeting times/dates each month to avoid...
Untouchables - Sermon on Domestic Violence or Domestic Abuse
2008-07-10 16:16:00 Pastor does a sermon on domestic abuse. Kirk Peters of Will Street Church in Maroubra Australia did a sermon on domestic violence or domestic abuse. He speaks of scripture that is used as examples of victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence, and how they are misapplied. How the because of the true nature of domestic abuse or domestic violence they victims rarely speak up, but within the last 30 years people are starting to speak for them. How he feels that the stats are just the tip of iceberg due to the silence. How hitting is just a small portion, and how its much bigger than that. He starts in Genesis and continues to the worse case of domestic violence in the bible, and that would be killing of Jesus Christ.
KARRINE "SUPERHEAD" STEFFANS NEEDS A SUPERHERO CLAIMS DOMESTIC ABUSE FROM E
2008-06-05 20:15:00 Listen to Superhead on Jamie Foxx's Foxxhole Radio Show. Warning explicit 18+ content. Karrine "Superhead" Steffans sent a message to celebrity gossip blogger Perez Hilton that she needs help. Perez...
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God gave us all our own story to tell
2008-05-14 18:13:00 SadieGod gave us all our own unique story to tell!What an awesome message! We all get there our own way, and have our own journey!
Dennis Rodman Arrested Over Domestic Abuse
2008-05-01 18:00:00 The Basketball Legend Was Drunk At The Time...
Faith groups work against domestic abuse
2008-04-16 16:00:00 Angela Cain/Community Affairs wrote the article Faith Groups Work Against Domestic AbuseBishop Charles FinnellIt starts out with:Domestic violence is a regular part of central Indiana news headlines, and some experts say it is on the rise. Last year, domestic violence claimed 79 lives in Indiana, affecting the rich and the poor of every race, and even people of faith. Bishop Charles Finnell States:Recognizing problems within the vocation, Bishop Charles Finnell and his wife Vivian have worked to shatter the silence on domestic abuse for years by educating their congregation at Christ Temple Apostolic Faith Assembly in Indianapolis and holding community forums outside the church."Most of you know that there is a great problem in our society with domestic violence," said Bishop Finnell as he urged faith leaders to take a stand against domestic abuse. "I think the church has been in denial that the problem exists.""Someone has to say this is wrong. This isn't right. This isn't God-li...
Faith groups work against domestic abuse
2008-04-16 16:00:00 Angela Cain/Community Affairs wrote the article Faith Groups Work Against Domestic AbuseBishop Charles FinnellIt starts out with:Domestic violence is a regular part of central Indiana news headlines, and some experts say it is on the rise. Last year, domestic violence claimed 79 lives in Indiana, affecting the rich and the poor of every race, and even people of faith. Bishop Charles Finnell States:Recognizing problems within the vocation, Bishop Charles Finnell and his wife Vivian have worked to shatter the silence on domestic abuse for years by educating their congregation at Christ Temple Apostolic Faith Assembly in Indianapolis and holding community forums outside the church."Most of you know that there is a great problem in our society with domestic violence," said Bishop Finnell as he urged faith leaders to take a stand against domestic abuse. "I think the church has been in denial that the problem exists.""Someone has to say this is wrong. This isn't right. This isn't God-li...
Covering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues.
2008-04-14 17:43:00 BibliographyCovering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues. I found this page, and it looks like the home page has been removed. The sources of information listed I felt my be helpful to others!
Covering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues.
2008-04-14 17:43:00 BibliographyCovering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues. I found this page, and it looks like the home page has been removed. The sources of information listed I felt my be helpful to others!
A Cry for Help
2008-02-17 06:05:00 I remember seeing this film a while ago. What is chilling is how short a time ago the world took domestic violence within families seriously. Ahem. I guess I could say was FORCED to take it seriously. This happened in the 1980's, and that wasn't so long ago. We have come far from that time, but look at the toll. SURE the lady in this film may have NOT been a faith follower, but to be perfectly honest I don't think it would have mattered. I have often wondered how long it will be until the church is placed in this situation before they take the issue a bit more seriously. Everyone knows its wrong, but how they deal with it....is wrong as well. I would bet in the future the church goes thru what this lady did, but in a different realm. Everyone - unless they are completely blind - knows that this issue is serious. Emotional and verbal abuse is not taken as seriously, and yet it is shown that it could be taken into this realm very quickly. Sick people with a need for con...
The Difference Between Hurt and Harm
2008-01-11 05:07:00 The difference between hurt and harmThis is another video from Cloud and Townsend. Its called the Difference between hurt and harm. I thought it was a good one to remind people there is a difference, and so that next time the abuser says to you, "You hurt me when you do that" it may help placed things into prospective. Help place the guilt away, because it isn't needed. Alot of times we take unneeded and unwarranted guilt.A word from a friend is better than a Kiss from an Enemy.
Divorce: Harmful to Kids and the Environment?
2008-01-06 01:36:00 Divorce: Harmful to Kids and the Environment?Mark EarleyPrison Fellowship President Is divorce bad for children? The data strongly suggests that it is. There is no shortage of studies that show a correlation between divorce and what social scientists call "adverse outcomes," such as drug use, teen pregnancy, depression, and other bad things. Yet, even with the data, many scientists and academics decline to tell people that they should stay married for the sake of children. If Americans will not stay together for their children's sake, would they do it to save the planet? That is the question being asked in the wake of a recent Michigan State study. Researchers there found that divorce "exacts a serious toll on the environment." How? It boosts "the energy and water consumption of those who used to live together." Why this should be the case is not hard to understand: Divorce turns what used to be one household into two. The efficient use of resources, including money, that comes nat...
Should I leave him or keep trying?
2008-01-02 05:03:00 My husband has been physically abusing me for years. Counseling helps for a while, but his rage always comes back. Should I leave him or keep trying?Link to good video on subject!
Bloggers Unite - Acts of Kindness
2007-12-09 17:08:00 I realize this isn't a faith based idea, but what an awesome tool that people can use! As a Christian we are asked to do this on a regular basis, and this could be a good tool to show the world about our faith. Take advantage of this and use it for his Glory!Bloggers Unite
Domestic Abuse Lease Termination
2007-12-08 03:35:00 The holiday season is in full swing and much to the chagrin of public servants and mental health professionals, increased holiday fervor is accompanied by an increase in domestic violence. Reasons can be many ranging from more parties with access...
Church Speak
2007-11-26 01:57:00 Rev. Mears on People Helping People Ministries has an article called "Church Speak" or What Language does your church speak!I really think he did a good job of showing how some churches use certain terms to basically get you to BEND to their way, and encourage you to keep your mouth shut!The question he asked was a very good one!If you have noticed ?church-speak? being used within your faith community to convey their message, what has the impact been on you and others around you?I wanted to take a couple of his examples in his article that I personally could relate to. I draw from not only my personal experiences, but those I hear from on regular basis...or even just ONCE!Angry: What a person is deemed to be when they tell the truth about something that has happened. Because you are "angry" and have a "bitter spirit" your legitimate concerns and issues can be written off and ignored. After all, "you are the one with the problem", not the actual offender, especially if the offender ...
Saturday Night Special - Warning PG at best - Domestic abuse
2007-11-23 22:51:00 This blogger wrote a poem about Domestic abuse in her life. Here is the link to her blog, and page with this poem! But, please know through my faith in God I have not onlysurvived.....I have a happy life.Jackie Hooper Tattern and torn with eyes that mournshe stood with eyes aglaze always alone;in the only prison she'd ever known.Trapped by forces of trust, that were merely dust,she stood mighty and strongand wondered what she'd done wrong?He put her there to keep her near.Her only guilt--she'd been to0 sincerein desperation and stupidity of youth,she thought he to be one of truth.Long since she escaped his twisted ways;long ago, thousands of days.But, still the wounds ground forever in her soul;everyday she still wakes--she pays the toll.Jackie Hooper 2005
Poem I wrote one night when frustrated.
2007-11-15 22:10:00 You Can'tby hHe comes in that day and you feel your stomach ache.You shudder and he shames and you wonder what you say.You know you must say something, but the words do not come.You been there before, and it?s never undone.You sit at the table with your children in towOne glass of juice or a noodle does fall.The yelling begins, and the tantrums our showWords not from him are mentioned to solveYou can?t say anything to make the hurt go away.Silence does happen, but you don?t want to stay.Your children are hurting, and he still isn?t nice.You wait for that moment to calm and make nice.Dinner is done and the dishes put awayYour start the next shift, and go on with your day.You get the kids settled, and you find your little safe spot.Inching and wondering, Why is your world so shot?Then he comes down to greet you with a smile on his face.He acts like nothing has happened with no shame or disgraceYou sit there wondering what message did you send?I don?t want you here and I shouldn?t hav...
Growing crisis of domestic abuse in the church
2007-11-03 04:11:00 Therapist Unlimited Blog brought my attention to the story of Rev. Unnia Pettus, Ph.D.For the full story LINKAfter years of emotional and physical abuse behind closed doors, and both being seen as active Christians.......she tried to kill herself to escape.I found another blog called Unity First that spoke about the book she wrote.Article from the Washington Post about her had a quote:"The fact of the matter is what happens in the broader community can happen within the body of Christ," said the Rev. Jonathan Weaver, pastor of Greater Mount Nebo African Methodist Episcopal Church. "The church is not a haven for saints, but a hospital. For the longest time, talking about domestic violence has been off-limits, but it is a vexing problem plaguing our community." Here is a link to her book at Amazon
Home is where the hurt is!
2007-10-30 21:11:00 Entire Article of Home is Where The Hurt IsHere is a portion of the article listed above. To read the whole thing please click on the link above.The Church's RoleFor Christian women, faith may become another obstacleto leaving an abusive and dangerous marriage. For women like Laura, someteachings may confuse rather than clarify:I think the church's contribution takes place much earlier than when it is finally perceived you are abused. So many times when I was frustrated with my husband, I leaned on my faith. My beliefs were about "turning the other cheek," "for better or worse," "treat others as you would like to be treated," all the sort of phrases that speak of unconditional love. They are profound, and they teach great things. But the church gives young women no perspective about protection, self-preservation, empowerment. Maybe these ideas are threatening in a basically patriarchal system. But the lack of them leads a well-intentioned wife to believe that selfless love comes b...
Preacher's Wife Guilty
2007-10-24 19:06:00 Ponderings on a Faith Journey Wrote about Mary Winker's conviction of killing her Husband.But the family, as traumatized as they must be, aren't the only parties involved. There is also a church, now without a pastor and facing questions about its judgment in selecting a pastor. From Ted Parks' article in the Church of Christ magazine the Christian Chronicle, we find out more about what's going on from within.**The church?s progress after the shattering loss does not mean the congregation fully comprehends what happened the Wednesday morning in March 2006 when Matthew Winkler died.**?The pieces just do not fit together,? said Fourth Street rember Pam Killingsworth. ?I think there?s some things that weren?t meant to be understood. And we?re just going to have to live with that fact and go on with our lives.**?At this point,? she added, ?I?m ready just to give it to God, and let him take care of it.?Indeed, this is a tragedy that affects families, congregations, and the church at ...
Preacher Juanita Bynum Deals With Domestic Abuse
2007-09-27 12:33:00 Some critics have accused Bynum of using the situation to gain recognition and a larger following. Bynum shot down such allegations.
Domestic Abuse No Longer A Problem, Say Bruised Female Researchers
2007-09-21 22:00:00 Share on StumbleUpon: According to a team of female researchers who all recently sustained injuries due to various accidents, domestic abuse does not exist.Watch the Video Report:
Bill Seeks to Make Animal Abuse Equal to Domestic Abuse in Wisconsin
2007-09-21 02:10:00 Introduced by State Senators Fred Risser (D-26), Tim Carpenter (D-3), and Julie Lassa (D-24), Senate Bill 162 seeks to make ?harm or threat of harm? to an animal a form of domestic abuse, potentially meaning the loss of one?s Second Amendment rights. SB 162 is outlandish because it not only equates animals to humans, ...
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Juanita Bynum Assaulted: victim of Domestic Abuse
2007-08-23 07:17:00 In my most recent post I shared the great news that Juanita Bynum was set to play in the movie "Mama I want to sing". I have now learned that Atlanta Police are reporting that Reverand Bynum was savagely beaten by her husband in her hotel parking lot, Tuesday night.According to a relative she and her husband are in the middle of a separation. The relative said the two agreed to meet Tuesday night in the dining room of the Renaissance Hotel near Hartsfield-Jackson airport. The meeting reportedly did not go well. In a statement to police, Reverend Bynum said her husband, Thomas Weeks, "choked her, pushed her down, kicked her and stomped her in the Renaissance parking lot." Reverend Bynum is being kept at an undisclosed location.Police are searching for Thomas Weeks.I don't know if this incident will affect her movie role, but lets make sure to keep this sister and her family in prayer.Read Full Story
Abusive Marriage - Indepth view of the sickness
2007-07-19 06:15:00 What an awesome article! LINKHere are some snippets! I would encourage you to read the entire thing!I feel an urgency, almost a fury, to send out this call across the nation. This is not written as an appeal to your emotions, to evoke sympathy nor even compassion. The purpose of this writing is to state facts, to uncover the secrets of abusive relationships and to reveal the nature of abuse-induced instability, causing the mind of an abused woman to be incapable of thinking realistically and making rational decisions. It's as if society expects abused women to think and act as mentally healthy, stable human beings, while scoffing at what could possibly be wrong with such a person who would stay in an abusive relationship. She's already fully aware that no one understands her and that she is judged and ostracized. Yet, she is expected to courageously and confidently embark upon a whole new life for herself in a society which looks down their noses at her, whispers and laughs behi...
Ellen Young's (D-Flushing) Bill Combats Senior Domestic Abuse
2007-07-06 13:50:00 A new bill penned by state Assemblywoman Ellen Young (D-Flushing) is expected to bring the state Office for the Aging and the state Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence into closer cooperation in an effort to highlight and reduce cases of domestic abuse against senior citizens.The bill, the first to be authored by the first-term legislator, will make a representative of the Office for the Aging an ex officio member of the Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence.Young said last Thursday that the bill was passed by both the state Senate and Assembly and is expected to be signed into law in the near future by Gov. Eliot Spitzer."This bill is particularly important in light of the vicious mugging of 101-year-old Rose Morat of Queens in March," Young said. "Although not a domestic violence issue, it still shows that our senior citizens are susceptible to violence anywhere and additional care must be taken to ensure their protection. With the passage of this elder-abuse b...
By: Elder Abuse
Ware Shaols councilman arrested for domestic abuse
2007-06-20 17:38:00 George Frederick, a 60-year-old Ware Shoals town councilman was arrested Tuesday on charges of assault and battery of a high and aggravated nature. According to Greenwood County Sheriff?s Office incident reports, deputies were called to assist the Ware Shoals Police Department shortly before midnight Monday. They were told the incident was a fight between Frederick, 60, ... |
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