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Its not a Communication Problem. Its not an Anger Managment Problem.
2011-07-24 03:33:00 Can't see Video? Click here. All to often when abuse victims try to describe what is happening in their life they are told they have ?communication? problems. That is one of the biggest misunderstandings it seems to me. It isn?t a communication problem between the two parties at all. On occasion my children and I watch Teen Mom. One of the couples since the show started was Amber and Gary. Amber in this case is the abusive party. Gary on the other hand seems to be the enabler, along with the victim. I don?t think most people blame a couple for trying to stay together, because they have a child. If you watch Amber she got herself into trouble for physically attacking Gary, and like most abusive people has a really hard time dealing with the consequences. I wasn?t able to upload these video clips to youtube due to copyright, and you may have to download Adobe Flash in order to view it the video I have supplied. One thing you notice is that ...
They Turned Out Despite THEM!
2011-05-27 19:06:00 I sitting here praying this morning for Tina Anderson, and all those that are watching and waiting for the jury to come back. Will there be justice? I think some justice has happened even before this trial started. Willis will go to jail no matter what the jury comes back with today. I pray for a different type of justice ? that people will open their eyes and hearts to those families that don?t give their children a chance. What I saw at this trial ? among other things ? is adults at the time trying to SHAMEFULLY take ?credit? for the awesome adults that Tina and Tom turned out to be. It amazes me because their ?safe adults? in childhood were just as dangerous as their stepfather Daniel Leaf at the time. These adults ? Tina and Tom ? turned out despite the outrageous conduct, behavior, and ghastly beliefs the adults in their life's made them endure. The church?s ignorance is killing children, and if we are lucky enough to have some survive? ...
No Place For Abuse
2010-12-13 14:00:00 One of the very first faith related books I read on domestic violence within the church was 'No Place For Abuse' by Catherine Clark Kroeger and Nancy Nason-Clark. I was reminded again about this book, but I was far from crazy about the description or review. I remember I was flooded at the time with mixed messages within the faith community that I couldn't figure out WHAT was WHAT! It was clear to me right away that most didn't realize the impact this has on everyone involved. I remember doing searches for domestic violence in the church, and very little besides the list of abusive behaviors was present at that time. Thankfully, that has changed in some ways today. I started this blog at the time, because I wanted to keep track of what 'little' material there was available. I looked for this book on Amazon today, and the book cover is different now. Focus Ministries sent this to me after I spoke with them on the phone. I remember s...
Be June Cleaver not Murphy Brown!
2010-10-13 14:00:00 I wanted to move to the Next Video from a previous True Women's Conference. The last portion I spoke about Part One - You've Come a Long Way Baby! Mary Kassian states that the Leave it to Beaver had been replaced by The Mary Tyler Moore show. By the late 1960s, the image of June Cleaver being happy at home in her role as wife and mother were gone by the wayside, replaced by the 1970s Mary Tyler Moore image of a pretty, single woman in her 30s pursuing a career at a television station. The show was lauded as a breakthrough because it had the first, independent, attractive career woman as the center. It discreetly implied that Mary was single. She was on the pill. She was also sexually active, but the focus of the show was on her career, not on her association with men. She truly was on her own, without a recurring father or husband or boyfriend or anyone looking out for her. Every episode, the theme song proudly alluded to her autonomy. ?You're gonna make it af...
Agenda - its so clear to see!
2010-08-04 04:11:00 Our Agenda Let the name calling begin! I just did a quick web search on the recently released, FREEDOM FOR CHRISTIAN WOMEN COALITION demand for an apology over teachings that can lead down the wrong path. As usual when you speak out against how approaches to this could lead to dangerous circumstances? The dysfunctional men that stand behind them (Counsel of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood) start fanning the flames of some feminist uprising, because they refuse to see past the end of their nose. To me you see agenda. Why do say AGENDA? Way of Life it seems got extremely defensive over it, and without knowing WHOM the people are behind the request! Lets look at the their point of view, because it shows the attitude right away. CHRISTIAN FEMINISTS DEMAND APOLOGY FOR ?TEACHING THAT DENIGRATES WOMEN? Does David Cloud know the sources in which he calls 'feminists'? It doesn't seem so, or he wouldn't have placed that out there.&nbs...
5 articles dealing with domestic violence and the church
2009-12-11 15:40:00 Why is Loving You Hurting Me?, by Frederick D. Haynes III is a very touching article about domestic violence in the church. He speaks very clearly about the silent on this issues, and the suffering of those that we pretend are not there. Well, let me see if I can make this plain by focusing the lens even more. There is no sadder story than the one of Tamar, found in the thirteenth chapter of second Samuel. Tamar is the daughter of King David, and Tamar happens to be extremely beautiful, yet, Tamar soon discovered that the beauty she had going for her ended up being used against her. I think I'll park here, parenthetically, because for some of you, what you have going for you has been sadly used against you. Perhaps it's the way God has blessed you to look; perhaps it's the education you have been blessed to achieve; but whatever the case, it is some gift that God has blessed you with, that sadly, has turned out to be something that haters and others are using against...
Interesting Domestic Violence Links for the Week
2009-11-20 15:20:00 I put together a couple of interesting links about domestic violence within the church, biblical roles of women, found a amazing public service announcement for violence within the home, and also an author's message on steps to healing. I hope you enjoy the lists of link. copyranter has an article about an 'interactive domestic violence' poster that has been placed in a German bus station. I believe they changed the words to English for the advertisement purposes. An eye tracking camera was installed in the board, so that when you looked directly at the domestic violence, after a delay, the scene morphed into spousal harmony. What areas do you believe that Baptist General Convention of Virginia needs to address? I don't know who placed the poll online, but one of the choices is domestic violence. Here is your opportunity to vote, and let someone know that you would like to hear the church address this issue. A Different Drummer wrote an article ...
Annulment catholic church and Domestic Violence
2009-11-17 14:27:00 I came across an article called, 'A new theology of divorce'. Mike Sweitzer-Beckman is the author, and he was speaking about he was one of the statistics when it comes to children of divorce. He isn't one of those that seemed all that harmed by it as he speaks of his parents, and later their new marriages and his new step siblings. He spoke of a number of different circumstances of annulment that people he knew from the Catholic church had gone though personally. I'm not Catholic myself, but I have heard about the process a number of times from people I know. I wanted to point this article out, because it seems one of my most popular articles on this blog from the past was Marriage Annulment Grounds in the Catholic Church. There was a lady in my Domestic Violence group that was seeking an annulment due to the emotional abuse, verbal abuse, among other things that torn the marriage to pieces. I will never forget her husband for one reason! ...
5 reasons domestic violence isn't addressed in church
2009-11-14 02:22:00 Houston's Praise 92.1 Radio had an article by Noelle Sewell regarding the top 5 reasons the church doesn't address domestic abuse. Should we try to add to the list or do you think the list is fine the way it is? Number one reason is the pastor himself could be the abuser They themselves maybe or have been perpetrators of domestic violence (Yes I went there). There are pastors who are perpetrators and their deacons, elders and ministry leaders know it but they are afraid to call them on it. Often times the church leaders don?t want to appear to be attacking the pastor, cause disruption in the congregation, being shunned by other members, being removed from their ministry position, being asked to leave the church. Now you should make sure that there is abuse before approaching the pastor. Pray about if you have any doubts because once you make the accusation and it not true it will be difficult to restore the person?s reputation. If you witness it you need to address it with the ...
Mixed reaction on Twitter to Rihanna speaking out about domestic abuse on &
2009-11-07 09:44:00 In this publicity image released by ABC, Diane Sawyer, left, interviews singer Rihanna about her relationship with ex-boyfriend Chris Brown in New York. The interview aired on the morning program "Good Morning America," Thursday, Nov. 5, 2009, and will also air Friday on the prime time news program "20/20: Good Morning America". (AP Photo/ABC, Ida Mae Astute) A week before Valentine's Day, R&B singer Chris Brown was being investigated by the Los Angeles Police Department for assault on his then-girlfriend pop star Rihanna. After the February 8 notorious fight that put Rihanna in the hospital with a bruised face, an image of her face taken by LAPD was then posted on TMZ's Web site. Nine months later, Rihanna finally...
Faith Based Presentations based on Domestic Violence
2009-11-03 03:29:00 Faith Based Presentations based on Domestic Violence United Methodist Domestic Violence Education Video United Methodist Domestic Violence Education Video - MPEG Link Interesting Comments on Forgiving When Love Hurts: Understanding and Healing of Domestic Violence ..Direct Video Link at bottom When Apologies are Dangerous - link at Bottom of post Forgiveness - What is it? Detours: Domestic Violence Sermon Taking a Break From Words Sermon
Blogs and Websites for Abuse
2009-11-03 02:24:00 Blogs and Websites Because It Matters Sanctuary for the Abused Submission Tyranny in Church and Society Adventures in Mercy Quivering Daugthers Woman Submit Not Under Bondage Battered Husband Support Husband Abuse Blog What about when Mom's the Abuser Heart 2 Heart For Battered Men Hotline For Men
Zero-Tolerance on Domestic Violence Within the Church
2009-10-27 19:17:00 Creekside Ministries wrote an article Called, A Zero Tolerance Level. I have to tell you in my little naive world as a same child? I always assumed that the church 'had that' no questions asked because that is how it is there! When I grew older I knew there were taboo subjects that you need to approach lightly. In the environment that I grew up in? I already felt I wasn't capable of it, or so I thought. I would throw out small hints, and if they didn't follow up? I just wasn't justified. When I grew to an adult I knew some subjects you just didn't bring up at all, unless you could show you are almost a Saint! They were going to look at my every move, attitude, and it seemed to me like a hunting trip for that one sin they could hang their hat on. The Ministries first quote: I have a zero-tolerance level for abuse in any form. It is always sin. It is a completely inappropriate reaction to stress, frustration, demands, disappointments, others' behavior. There are no e...
Submissive Wife? Sacrificing Husband??
2009-09-15 23:47:00 Over at Reflections of a Mirror blog was a man that did a piece call the The Submissive Wife? I had to giggle because his introduction the article included making sure you paid attention the question mark at the end of the title, "The Submissive wife???"He did poke fun at some that believe that Ephesians 5:22 seems to be the only sentence with any true meaning in that entire passage. We have all heard it ourselves - Wifes Submit to your husbands! I could tell he was off to a good start with a bit of sarcasm:There you have it, wives- do whatever your husband says. Guys, wouldn?t that be awesome? To have slaves that have to do what we tell them to do? I mean, how incredibly boring would that be? Never fight, never argue, never have a complicated discussion. Never be interrupted while the NFL is on. Never have to worry about her feelings or her opinions. Never wonder if she will make you breakfast, lunch and dinner, because, well, she has too right? It?s in the Bible.(giggle...
Carter Speaks out about Treatment of women of faith, and how it encourages
2009-07-14 03:47:00 I ran across this article today regarding our former President Carter, and how he feels that faiths have been doing women (in some sectors of course) a disservice. That they are using cherry picked scripture to keep them in a inferior position, and he feels its against scripture.The words of God do not justify cruelty to women, and when I read that I almost fell off my chair today.He seemed have joined an organization called The Elders, and they wish to speak about things that seem more like 'tradition' or 'culture' than truth when it comes to issues like women's rights in this aspect. I was floored when I came across this. Churches for the most part don't wish to acknowledge this is happening, and here comes a gentleman that is willing to bring the truth into the light!He also has decided after MANY years to leave the Baptist church over their view of women in scripture.I have been a practising Christian all my life and a deacon and Bible teacher for many years. My faith i...
Men's Group Raises $36,000 for Domestic Violence Shelter
2009-02-19 23:32:00 Early I had write about a Men's Group from Church Raises Funds for Domestic Violence, and it was reported today on The Evangelical Covenant Church website that raised $36,000 to help the local Shelter for domestic violence!NORTH EASTON, MA (February 16, 2009) ? Despite a difficult economy, the men?s group of Congregational Covenant Church recently raised $36,000 for two agencies assisting battered women.The men raised the funds through their ?Flavors of the World? dinner that included wine tasting, a dance, an auction, as well as coporate donations.The community also has been eager to support the dinner. ?We have made this into a very visible cause,? says Kevin Symmons, one of the co-chairs.This was the fourth annual dinner to benefit Womansplace Crisis Center, an emergency shelter, and HUGS II (Help Us Get Safe), a nonprofit organization that offers various services to combat domestic violence.In the past four years the men have raised more than $130,000. They held the first eve...
Elephants in the Room - Sermon on Domestic Abuse
2009-02-11 06:14:00 I found a video tonight as I was browsing. I have to say I was very touched, and at the end tears were coming down my cheeks as I listened to this pastor preach to his church. He spoke of sexual abuse of children, and domestic violence within the church. He spoke of how scripture is used to keep people within homes where violence is taking place. He spoke of the damaging effects of emotional abuse, and he spoke of how the world (attitudes at times) pretty much sets us the abuse that happens. He spoke of how Jesus would not wish others to stay in danger. He mentioned stories of how the cycle continues. You could hear the spirit and attitude in his voice, and you could HEAR the urgency! How its the most unreported crime, and yet the stats are awful as they are. Its about 20 minutes long, and towards the beginning his mic goes out! LOL Its about 10 seconds, and you see a lady RUN up and hand him a replacement! So its NOT your computer! Just wanted to warn you. How people's...
Sermon on Domestic Abuse
2009-02-02 15:50:00 iChalice: Unitarian Universalism meets Web 2.0 had a sermon listed, and I would encourage you to go and visit to view the entire thing.It listed some very powerful quotes I felt. Thisthewaith, a minister and President of a Chicago theological school, tells of a woman who had complained to her husband of his abuse and the scars she bore. He responded that her bones were his bones, as it said in the Bible ? relating back to the story of Adam and Eve (?Every Two Minutes? 311). Other texts, such as 1 Peter 2:19-21 tell the faithful that they should suffer as Jesus suffered for them. As my colleague, Rev. Michael Tino writes, ?If a woman is taught to believe that the pain inflicted by her abusive [partner] is a test of her faith and her willingness to keep her family together no matter what the personal cost, there is a problem with what she is being taught?not with her (Tino ?Saving Paradise).?Oh what a day that will be when the words are gentle and the homes are safe. It?s up to us, ...
Pattern of Behavior: Domestic Violence and Faith
2009-01-29 16:59:00 I think one of the most overlooked characteristic of abusers seem to be the pattern of behavior they portray. I?m not sure if that is due to the spouse?s reactions to their behavior, or if people just genuinely don?t wish to see it. It is a huge source of frustration to me.Since every person on this earth is custom for the most part people will have certain aspects of behaviors that can?t come straight off lists you read. One of the aspects that seem to trigger the behavior is their sense of anxiety over something. I realize that anxiety isn?t a comfortable feeling, but we all have some of it to deal with in life. The reason I feel this is their reactions to small mundane things in life.I remember one story that I was told was about how this woman?s husband loved tortilla chips, and they MUST be round ones! He didn?t want the triangle ones. Now in most cases people wouldn?t have an issue finding those round chips for him. It seems odd, but then again it isn?t worth fighting over. Th...
The Bible Does Allow Divorce in Domestic Abuse Cases
2009-01-28 20:57:00 Barbara Roberts author of Not Under Bondage was cited on the Christian New Wire, and stating "The Bible Does Allow Divorce in Domestic Abuse Cases"The Barbara Roberts in the article goes on to state:Using the scriptures and scholarly research, the book refutes the official policy concerning divorce held by many evangelical churches and denominations. Not Under Bondage explains the scriptural dilemmas of abuse victims and shows how the Bible sets victims of abuse free from bondage and guilt.The author is a Christian survivor of domestic abuse who is concerned about how false teaching on domestic abuse in churches may be damaging victims of domestic abuse and their children, as well as neglecting the biblical directive to make perpetrators properly accountable. Not Under Bondage is the result of three years work researching Christian beliefs and the biblical texts about divorce.Sparked by a message forbidding divorce to abuse victims posted on Rick Warren's Saddleback Church site, Ch...
Saddleback says you CAN'T ESCAPE THE PAIN!!
2009-01-17 23:49:00 Saddleback Church - Does the bible say it is alright to divorce a spouse that is abusing you? Question 32. Danni at Because it matters beat me to the transcript as I was doing the same thing. lol She is faster than I am! Anyway, here is what was said:Someone asked this out of their heart though, ?Does the Bible say it is alright to divorce a spouse who is abusing you. I think that?s an excellent question of Scripture. It?s not like you can escape the pain. You think you are. There?s an immediate release when you divorce and you think I?ve escaped the pain but anyone in this room who has been divorced you could come up here and give testimony after testimony after testimony after testimony to say that, no, you don?t escape the pain. There?s still a pain there. It?s a long-term pain. It may come years later when a son or daughter graduates from high school and they have to get back together somehow and make that thing work. It may come years later as you talk with a new spouse and an ...
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
2008-12-25 13:50:00 Some people may have seen Lifehouse Skit, but I found a different version this week. I wanted to post it as my present to you! I know some of you may have have the best day due to domestic violence within the home, but always know that God is there for you.Everything!Happy Holidays, and God Bless
Tackling domestic abuse in Syria
2008-12-18 16:51:00 Stop Honor Killings had an article I just found:Throughout her 25 years of marriage, Olfat, was regularly beaten and humiliated by her husband. Yet she never complained to anyone for fear of tarnishing her family?s reputation.?I suffered a great deal of psychological and physical violence,? said Olfat, now a 49-year-old mother of four. Her husband was always accusing her of having relationships with other men as an excuse to hit her.Following in the steps of other victims of domestic abuse, Olfat decided to put an end to her ordeal. She recently separated from her husband, after her children had all married and left home.Although it was a taboo subject for a long time, violence against women is now being denounced in the Syrian media and other public forums as a reprehensible form of behaviour. In the past few years, the Syrian government has held several conferences designed to raise awareness about domestic violence. However, the current public outcry against the abuse of women is...
Entitlement of an Abusive Mind
2008-12-17 14:35:00 When I speak to those that I know that don't have to deal with domestic abuse, or should I say don't really recognize its there is always one word they can relate to ENTITLEMENT! I remember once sitting waiting for another party to show up for a business lunch one day, and the gentleman that was there was talking about his girlfriend's xhusband. It wasn't out of vindictive nature or really anger. It was more confusion over his behavior towards NOT her, but their children they had together. It seemed like a rather new relationship at the time, and he remembers how she was thankful for his help with the dinner dishes. I mean REALLY thankful almost shocked that he would do that at all! He mentioned - as he shook his head in amazement - how this man had certain hours placed aside that she was 'allowed' to vaccum so it didn't interrupt his television viewing. His peace and quiet that he needed in the evenings so he could relax. He really seemed disturbed at his views on how he w...
Religion can play role in domestic abuse
2008-12-06 02:40:00 The Delphosherald.com wrote a really good story on how religion can play a NOT so good role when it comes to domestic violence.Religion can play role in domestic abuseBy Mike Ford, The Delphos HeraldPublished: Saturday, November 15, 2008 Print E-mail By MIKE FORDThe Delphos HeraldChristian churches are a staple of many communities across the region and the nation. They provide valuable moral guidance, support and social services.However, the religion can have a negative psychological affect when a person who never feels ?good enough? is caught in a cycle of ?sinning,? repenting and praying for forgiveness only to ?beat themselves up? for repeating the cycle. Regardless of how bad the behavior really is, the guilt and shame can be perpetuated by religious beliefs and manipulated by an abusive spouse.The Delphos Public Library will host a talk on the subject at 6:30 p.m. Monday by Kathy Boaz, the director of Van Wert Crisis Care. She oversees a 20-bed shelter where abused women can s...
Domestic Violence, Church, Faith Resource Books
2008-11-22 04:39:00 I wanted to list a couple of more resource books on domestic violence with an aspect of church or your faith. I have been a little behind keeping up to date with this, and I wanted to point a couple of additional ones out to everyone!I found an online interview of the author of the book below by Rev. Anne WeatherholtRelgious New Blog writes about this book regarding an abusive pastor by Virginia and Robert Coombs.Barbara Roberts - Not Under Bondage with a link to her websiteBehind the Hedge by Waneta Dawn and a link to her blogI hope these help others looking for resources for domestic violence within the church, or concerning your faith. I will post new faith resources soon.
Working to break the domestic violence cycle
2008-11-21 04:13:00 Statesville.com had a good story on domestic violence recently. I wanted to point out a partial note about what a pastor mentioned. It will be highlighted below! Thank you Statesville.com!By Donna Swicegood Published: November 16, 2008The idea that men who batter their partners need anger management is a ridiculous notion to A Call to Men co-founder Tony Porter."They have excellent anger management skills," Porter said at a workshop last week that brought several domestic violence service providers together. "They know who to hit and who not to hit."Porter told the group at the Not Tonight Domestic Violence Peace Initiative Workshop that men are the key to addressing the growing domestic violence problem."Not enough men are standing up and taking responsibility for ending violence against women," he said. "Violence is rooted in sexism, that she belongs to him and he can do whatever he wants with his property."Classifying batterers as "sick" helps men who don't batter justify the...
Mary Winkler has Custody of the Children
2008-10-26 03:43:00 I have to admit I was surprised when I read this recently. Don't know how I could have missed it, since it happened at the beginning of the month of August. Mary Winkler picked up her daughters from their grandparents and took them to her home in McMinnville, according to a newspaper report.The Jackson Sun article mentioned:The Commercial Appeal reported on its Web site that Winkler, who was convicted last year of killing her preacher husband, reached an agreement with her in-laws that allows the children to live with their mother. The newspaper cited an unnamed source in the report.The grandparents are the ones that frought even supervised visitation, and wanted her parental rights taken away. Now they are in agreement that the children will live with her? You have to seriously wonder what happened there.Dan and Diane Winkler of Huntingdon, the girls' paternal grandparents, took custody of the children following Mary Winkler's arrest in the slaying of their son, Matthew Winkler,...
Mary Winkler has Custody of the Children
2008-10-26 03:43:00 I have to admit I was surprised when I read this recently. Don't know how I could have missed it, since it happened at the beginning of the month of August. Mary Winkler picked up her daughters from their grandparents and took them to her home in McMinnville, according to a newspaper report.The Jackson Sun article mentioned:The Commercial Appeal reported on its Web site that Winkler, who was convicted last year of killing her preacher husband, reached an agreement with her in-laws that allows the children to live with their mother. The newspaper cited an unnamed source in the report.The grandparents are the ones that frought even supervised visitation, and wanted her parental rights taken away. Now they are in agreement that the children will live with her? You have to seriously wonder what happened there.Dan and Diane Winkler of Huntingdon, the girls' paternal grandparents, took custody of the children following Mary Winkler's arrest in the slaying of their son, Matthew Winkler,...
Hayden?s Dad Not To Harass Wife
2008-10-15 19:38:00 Hayden Panettiere’s father, Alan, has been temporarily ordered not to “harass, strike or threaten” his wife, Lesley Vogel, a Beverly Hills judge ruled Tuesday. Judge H. Chester Horn issued the protective order until Panettiere’s new arraignment date of Dec. 11. If convicted, Panettiere faces up to a year in county jail. You might remember that he ...
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When Apologies are Dangerous with marriages of Domestic Abuse
2008-09-17 00:36:00 RBC Ministries speaks of the dangerous practice of asking women to constantly forgive the abuse of her husband, and using scripture to tell her that will keep the relationship together. We all know that the bible tells us to forgive, and we should forgive! When you never address the cruel behavior of domestic abuse within the home, and all you require is an apology the cycle will continue. We never address the root of the rage within the person that is abusing others. Is that really God's intent?In this video they actually speak to a couple that had domestic abuse going on in their marriage. He speaks of how he was good at showing people the man he felt they needed to see, and how that wasn't whom he was at home. I have to admit I do feel that abusers - some abusers - are some of the best con artists there is. Some people can say they don't understand, don't mean it, don't realize how bad it is. I have wonder about that at times. I'm sure in some circumstances they do talk the...
Domestic Abuse within the Church - When Men Hurt Their Own
2008-08-13 14:56:00 I found an interesting set of articles on The Hope Blog. From the comments after a number of entries she made it sounds like she is placing together a book from the prospective of a women dealing with domestic violence. The ring of horror of their pastor's attitude is what people need to understand about this aspect. YES this is a woman's prospective about domestic violence within the church, and her life dealing with a controlling husband. I believe it happens to both genders, but the more information and stories that get out there the better I believe.Inherit the Wind: When Men Hurt Their Own Part OneInherit the Wind: When Men Hurt Their Own Part TwoInherit the Wind: WHen Men Hurt Their Own Part ThreeThe Final Installment the author states is coming SOON!The responses are very good to this series, and of course you have to have some bad ones as well.By the way, according to the account in Genesis, Abraham sent his wife to be in the harem of the Egyptian Pharaoh.Yet, Sarah...
This ministry gets DOMESTIC ABUSE... YEAH GOD!
2008-08-11 13:26:00 I was doing some reading the other night, and came across a blog (love the theme and pictures by the way) called Lifetime Intimate Portrait. The author spoke about her church's ministry towards domestic violence, and how people might be surprised at whom shows up!At our church we now have a ministry in place to reach out to women who are dealing with these issues, or who have just come out of a situation. Help is completely confidential. We are committed to protecting these precious women at all costs. Interestingly enough, when the group was started we wondered how many we would have or if anyone in the church would respond. It is sad to report, but the statistics bear out and we have never had a lack of people in our support group ministry who need help along these lines. You might think your church is exempt, but...think again. You would be surprised who would attend a meeting if they could be certain no one would ever know! (We change our meeting times/dates each month to avoid...
Untouchables - Sermon on Domestic Violence or Domestic Abuse
2008-07-10 16:16:00 Pastor does a sermon on domestic abuse. Kirk Peters of Will Street Church in Maroubra Australia did a sermon on domestic violence or domestic abuse. He speaks of scripture that is used as examples of victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence, and how they are misapplied. How the because of the true nature of domestic abuse or domestic violence they victims rarely speak up, but within the last 30 years people are starting to speak for them. How he feels that the stats are just the tip of iceberg due to the silence. How hitting is just a small portion, and how its much bigger than that. He starts in Genesis and continues to the worse case of domestic violence in the bible, and that would be killing of Jesus Christ.
KARRINE "SUPERHEAD" STEFFANS NEEDS A SUPERHERO CLAIMS DOMESTIC ABUSE FROM E
2008-06-05 20:15:00 Listen to Superhead on Jamie Foxx's Foxxhole Radio Show. Warning explicit 18+ content. Karrine "Superhead" Steffans sent a message to celebrity gossip blogger Perez Hilton that she needs help. Perez...
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God gave us all our own story to tell
2008-05-14 18:13:00 SadieGod gave us all our own unique story to tell!What an awesome message! We all get there our own way, and have our own journey!
Faith groups work against domestic abuse
2008-04-16 16:00:00 Angela Cain/Community Affairs wrote the article Faith Groups Work Against Domestic AbuseBishop Charles FinnellIt starts out with:Domestic violence is a regular part of central Indiana news headlines, and some experts say it is on the rise. Last year, domestic violence claimed 79 lives in Indiana, affecting the rich and the poor of every race, and even people of faith. Bishop Charles Finnell States:Recognizing problems within the vocation, Bishop Charles Finnell and his wife Vivian have worked to shatter the silence on domestic abuse for years by educating their congregation at Christ Temple Apostolic Faith Assembly in Indianapolis and holding community forums outside the church."Most of you know that there is a great problem in our society with domestic violence," said Bishop Finnell as he urged faith leaders to take a stand against domestic abuse. "I think the church has been in denial that the problem exists.""Someone has to say this is wrong. This isn't right. This isn't God-li...
Faith groups work against domestic abuse
2008-04-16 16:00:00 Angela Cain/Community Affairs wrote the article Faith Groups Work Against Domestic AbuseBishop Charles FinnellIt starts out with:Domestic violence is a regular part of central Indiana news headlines, and some experts say it is on the rise. Last year, domestic violence claimed 79 lives in Indiana, affecting the rich and the poor of every race, and even people of faith. Bishop Charles Finnell States:Recognizing problems within the vocation, Bishop Charles Finnell and his wife Vivian have worked to shatter the silence on domestic abuse for years by educating their congregation at Christ Temple Apostolic Faith Assembly in Indianapolis and holding community forums outside the church."Most of you know that there is a great problem in our society with domestic violence," said Bishop Finnell as he urged faith leaders to take a stand against domestic abuse. "I think the church has been in denial that the problem exists.""Someone has to say this is wrong. This isn't right. This isn't God-li...
Covering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues.
2008-04-14 17:43:00 BibliographyCovering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues. I found this page, and it looks like the home page has been removed. The sources of information listed I felt my be helpful to others!
Covering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues.
2008-04-14 17:43:00 BibliographyCovering Jewish Domestic Abuse, Religion and Abuse, and Related Issues. I found this page, and it looks like the home page has been removed. The sources of information listed I felt my be helpful to others!
A Cry for Help
2008-02-17 06:05:00 I remember seeing this film a while ago. What is chilling is how short a time ago the world took domestic violence within families seriously. Ahem. I guess I could say was FORCED to take it seriously. This happened in the 1980's, and that wasn't so long ago. We have come far from that time, but look at the toll. SURE the lady in this film may have NOT been a faith follower, but to be perfectly honest I don't think it would have mattered. I have often wondered how long it will be until the church is placed in this situation before they take the issue a bit more seriously. Everyone knows its wrong, but how they deal with it....is wrong as well. I would bet in the future the church goes thru what this lady did, but in a different realm. Everyone - unless they are completely blind - knows that this issue is serious. Emotional and verbal abuse is not taken as seriously, and yet it is shown that it could be taken into this realm very quickly. Sick people with a need for con...
The Difference Between Hurt and Harm
2008-01-11 05:07:00 The difference between hurt and harmThis is another video from Cloud and Townsend. Its called the Difference between hurt and harm. I thought it was a good one to remind people there is a difference, and so that next time the abuser says to you, "You hurt me when you do that" it may help placed things into prospective. Help place the guilt away, because it isn't needed. Alot of times we take unneeded and unwarranted guilt.A word from a friend is better than a Kiss from an Enemy.
Divorce: Harmful to Kids and the Environment?
2008-01-06 01:36:00 Divorce: Harmful to Kids and the Environment?Mark EarleyPrison Fellowship President Is divorce bad for children? The data strongly suggests that it is. There is no shortage of studies that show a correlation between divorce and what social scientists call "adverse outcomes," such as drug use, teen pregnancy, depression, and other bad things. Yet, even with the data, many scientists and academics decline to tell people that they should stay married for the sake of children. If Americans will not stay together for their children's sake, would they do it to save the planet? That is the question being asked in the wake of a recent Michigan State study. Researchers there found that divorce "exacts a serious toll on the environment." How? It boosts "the energy and water consumption of those who used to live together." Why this should be the case is not hard to understand: Divorce turns what used to be one household into two. The efficient use of resources, including money, that comes nat...
Should I leave him or keep trying?
2008-01-02 05:03:00 My husband has been physically abusing me for years. Counseling helps for a while, but his rage always comes back. Should I leave him or keep trying?Link to good video on subject!
Bloggers Unite - Acts of Kindness
2007-12-09 17:08:00 I realize this isn't a faith based idea, but what an awesome tool that people can use! As a Christian we are asked to do this on a regular basis, and this could be a good tool to show the world about our faith. Take advantage of this and use it for his Glory!Bloggers Unite
Domestic Abuse Lease Termination
2007-12-08 03:35:00 The holiday season is in full swing and much to the chagrin of public servants and mental health professionals, increased holiday fervor is accompanied by an increase in domestic violence. Reasons can be many ranging from more parties with access...
Church Speak
2007-11-26 01:57:00 Rev. Mears on People Helping People Ministries has an article called "Church Speak" or What Language does your church speak!I really think he did a good job of showing how some churches use certain terms to basically get you to BEND to their way, and encourage you to keep your mouth shut!The question he asked was a very good one!If you have noticed ?church-speak? being used within your faith community to convey their message, what has the impact been on you and others around you?I wanted to take a couple of his examples in his article that I personally could relate to. I draw from not only my personal experiences, but those I hear from on regular basis...or even just ONCE!Angry: What a person is deemed to be when they tell the truth about something that has happened. Because you are "angry" and have a "bitter spirit" your legitimate concerns and issues can be written off and ignored. After all, "you are the one with the problem", not the actual offender, especially if the offender ...
Saturday Night Special - Warning PG at best - Domestic abuse
2007-11-23 22:51:00 This blogger wrote a poem about Domestic abuse in her life. Here is the link to her blog, and page with this poem! But, please know through my faith in God I have not onlysurvived.....I have a happy life.Jackie Hooper Tattern and torn with eyes that mournshe stood with eyes aglaze always alone;in the only prison she'd ever known.Trapped by forces of trust, that were merely dust,she stood mighty and strongand wondered what she'd done wrong?He put her there to keep her near.Her only guilt--she'd been to0 sincerein desperation and stupidity of youth,she thought he to be one of truth.Long since she escaped his twisted ways;long ago, thousands of days.But, still the wounds ground forever in her soul;everyday she still wakes--she pays the toll.Jackie Hooper 2005
Poem I wrote one night when frustrated.
2007-11-15 22:10:00 You Can'tby hHe comes in that day and you feel your stomach ache.You shudder and he shames and you wonder what you say.You know you must say something, but the words do not come.You been there before, and it?s never undone.You sit at the table with your children in towOne glass of juice or a noodle does fall.The yelling begins, and the tantrums our showWords not from him are mentioned to solveYou can?t say anything to make the hurt go away.Silence does happen, but you don?t want to stay.Your children are hurting, and he still isn?t nice.You wait for that moment to calm and make nice.Dinner is done and the dishes put awayYour start the next shift, and go on with your day.You get the kids settled, and you find your little safe spot.Inching and wondering, Why is your world so shot?Then he comes down to greet you with a smile on his face.He acts like nothing has happened with no shame or disgraceYou sit there wondering what message did you send?I don?t want you here and I shouldn?t hav... |
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