Chris Brown - Mindset of Domestic Violence
2009-09-18 15:50:00 I was asked to put the series in one post for people.Part One Chris Brown, Mom and Denial...Part Two Chris Brown Abuse NEVER happened before!Part Three Chris Brown - We are FRIENDS nowPart Four Chris Brown I'm NOT a monster!
Domestic Violence
2009-09-07 06:45:00 Last night we went for Iftar at Wong Solo Restaurant in Bangi with Azman?s friends from his secondary school. His friends are mostly guys but their wives are awesome women, very friendly and nice so I didn?t hesitate to start selling infra red bra stuff my face with the food. Yum! Yum! Fantastic sweet and ...
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Poems about Domestic Violence
2009-08-25 20:31:00 Domestic Violence and the Workplace and Pantagraph.com posted three poems of domestic violence on their sites.One truly hit me hard.What It Means To Be A VictimI am the beastWhich you have lain upon the alterAn offering to an angry GodI am the oneChosen for purity's sakeWhose throat will be slitAs my blood spills outAsk yourselfHave you come closer to God?Is God now happy?As my blood runs down the streetAsk yourselfCan we now find peace?Or must we come back to this alter?Again and againI am the oneThat sacrificial beastI think the church needs to FEEL this one so that we can stop the sacrificial alter calls.Years ago I wrote one myself called, "I can't" - a poem also the cycle domestic violence.
Saddleback's Tom Holladay Back pedal about domestic violence
2009-07-17 02:18:00 Saddleback removes audio clip saying abuse no excuse for divorce , but it took them HOW LONG to come up with an excuse as to WHY?I guess Saddleback didn't have their damage control together fast enough when they decided they made silly and dangerous remarks about domestic violence. They decided months later to let the world know about their error at abpnews.com, but NOT leave any explanation or explain themselves at the time. Sorry, but that doesn't make any sense."I wish there were a third [reason for divorce] in Scripture, having been involved as a pastor with situations of abuse," Holladay said. "There is something in me that wishes there were a Bible verse that says, 'If they abuse you in this-and-such kind of way, then you have a right to leave them.'" He let the Baptist news outlet know his statement had to do with other forms of domestic violence, and you seem to have the right to leave ONLY if physical abuse is present now. It took how many months to come up with this...
Shannon Price, Gary Coleman?s Wife, Arrested For Domestic Violence (Photos,
2009-07-03 14:49:00 Gary Coleman?s wife, Shannon Price, was arrested for domestic violence and disorderly conduct in Santaquin, Utah on Wednesday night (July 1). Shannon, who apparently thrashed a room at their home but did not lay a hand on Gary, was booked for two misdemeanors and released on a $1,205 bail. Shannon was not happy with how her ...
Saudi Judge gives ignorant excuses for domestic violence. Are we much bett
2009-05-13 16:24:00 Cnn.com was quoted this week:Judge Hamad Al-Razine said that "if a person gives SR 1,200 [$320] to his wife and she spends 900 riyals [$240] to purchase an abaya [the black cover that women in Saudi Arabia must wear] from a brand shop and if her husband slaps her on the face as a reaction to her action, she deserves that punishment."The judge also ignorantly stated:Al-Razine "also pointed out that women's indecent behavior and use of offensive words against their husbands were some of the reasons for domestic violence in the country," it added.We can all see the ignorance in those comments about what domestic violence actually is. The blog world is on fire about the judges comments, and people are making comments about how backwards this thinking is. That's being NICE!As the author at It Dawned on Me statedI lived in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia for 14 months many years ago. Every time I see stories like this, it makes me angry. This is yet another example of men?and this time validated b...
Another Pro Life Movement - Domestic Violence
2009-04-28 23:10:00 The Other Pro-Life Movement was an article I was reading on Today's Christian Woman. It was about: How to recognize and help rescue the battered women among us Authored by Corrie Cutrer.Many years ago Catherine Clark Kroeger faced a decision that would influence her life's course. Serving alongside her pastor husband, Catherine became aware of a woman in her church whose husband was physically abusing her.Incredibly, several influential church leaders discouraged Catherine from getting too involved. "To them, I was destroying the home by encouraging the woman to get away from the abuse," she remembers.Then Catherine received a call from the battered woman's counselor, who said, "You've got to get either the husband or the wife out of the home, or you're going to have a murder."So Catherine drove to the woman's house to pick her up and help her find shelter. "I decided preserving the life was more important at that time than preserving the family," Catherine says. It wasn't a...
Churches Becoming Shelters for Domestic Violence Victims
2009-04-27 13:43:00 I saw this story recently, and it was based in Hawaii, and I have to admit my jaded side came out. Churches Could Soon Become Shelters for Domestic Violence Victims? 'Don't count on it' was my first reaction. I realize that isn't the best reaction, but it was coming from my GUT and experience.KHON out of Hawaii mentioned due to huge budget cuts, etc they are looking to the church to help with this issue. They feel that it may cut close to the separation of church and state, but many other programs such as homelessness and food pantries are supplemented by churches. They hope the church will stand up and be counted, because its a HUGE need!I hope they do to, but I wouldn't place any bets on it! You may get a couple of churches that did bother to educate themselves, but that's all you will get. A VERY small number!Shelters need partnerships with churchesBefore anyone gets upset with me lets keep in mind that not all shelters are alike. Some may have volunteers that are MORE trai...
Keira Knightley?s Shocking Domestic Violence Video
2009-04-02 17:42:00 Actress Keira Knightley stars in a new campaign against domestic violence set to debut in theaters on April 6. In the two minute PSA directed by Joe Wright, Keira is violently beaten and kicked by a man. It seems like the Chris Brown and Rihanna’s abuse scandal made people talk about domestic violence and we ...
Muslim women speak out about domestic violence
2009-03-31 16:19:00 The Buffalo news has a story about some Muslim Women in the Buffalo area that are SPEAKING OUT against what had happened to Aasiya Zubair Hassan, and about martial abuse within the Muslim home as well.We hear alot about the silence in the Muslim community over this awful tragedy, but there have been those that are speaking out!They also want to give people a glimpse of what the lives of Muslim women in Western New York are like. Because those lives, they admit, often seem to outsiders to be shrouded in mystery.It’s easy for people to see the garb they wear, the women said, and make assumptions about female repression in Muslim- American culture, especially where career opportunities and marital relationships are concerned.“It bothers me that the headscarf is such a barrier,” said Ahmed, 38.The three women said they do see one great good arising from the horrific death of Aasiya Hassan: a new openness about domestic violence, both within and outside of Muslim relationships.“S...
BEBE WINANS ARRESTED FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
2009-03-13 16:49:00 WSMV TV in Nashville reports that Gospel icon Bebe Winans was arrested in February for domestic assault after he pushed his ex-wife Debra to the ground during an argument just before Valentine's Day. He was arrested later that night and held briefly at the Davidson County jail before posting $1000 bond.sourceLAWD HAVE MERCY!!!WATCH THE INTERVIEW WITH HIS EX-WIFE HERE
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Jason Witten Helps the Fight Against Domestic Violence
2009-02-25 13:02:00 Childhood experience moves Cowboys' Witten to help domestic abuse victims Writes BP SportsHe remembers the screaming. He remembers the confusion, the doubt and all the other terrible consequences of domestic violence. He doesn?t want others to experience what he did growing up. So he?s doing something about it.While many NFL players occasionally throw a requisite bone to charities to satisfy their team?s public relations staff, Witten is the rare breed who cherishes self-sacrifice. He devotes untold hours to a myriad of different organizations, mostly involving children, the underprivileged and survivors of shattered homes. He also recently started his own foundation, S.C.O.R.E., which supports families in crisis.?I?m trying to break the cycle of family violence,? he said.You can find videos on youtube about this foundation that Witten started to combat domestic violence. This is the type of thing we need! Its not the fact he is a football star, but the fact he is man that is wil...
Men's Group Raises $36,000 for Domestic Violence Shelter
2009-02-19 23:32:00 Early I had write about a Men's Group from Church Raises Funds for Domestic Violence, and it was reported today on The Evangelical Covenant Church website that raised $36,000 to help the local Shelter for domestic violence!NORTH EASTON, MA (February 16, 2009) ? Despite a difficult economy, the men?s group of Congregational Covenant Church recently raised $36,000 for two agencies assisting battered women.The men raised the funds through their ?Flavors of the World? dinner that included wine tasting, a dance, an auction, as well as coporate donations.The community also has been eager to support the dinner. ?We have made this into a very visible cause,? says Kevin Symmons, one of the co-chairs.This was the fourth annual dinner to benefit Womansplace Crisis Center, an emergency shelter, and HUGS II (Help Us Get Safe), a nonprofit organization that offers various services to combat domestic violence.In the past four years the men have raised more than $130,000. They held the first eve...
Terrence Howard Arrested For Domestic Violence In 2001 (Mugshot)
2009-02-18 14:49:00 Actor Terrence Howard came out on Chris Brown?s defense, saying ?It?s just life, man. Chris is a great guy. He?ll be alright. And Rihanna knows he loves her, you know? They?ll be alright.” He loves her?? He beats her leaving ?horrific” injuries and Chris still loves Rihanna?? I believe Rihanna doesn?t need that kind of ...
Domestic Violence Self Defense Lashing Back - do people grasp the differenc
2009-02-17 02:24:00 Do people not grasp the difference between self-defense and lashing back in anger?I'm sure most of you have heard about the situation with Rihanna and Brown in the news. Beyond the glitz and the glamour that engulfed the lives of Rihanna and Brown, who until now had an image of a wholesome lovey-dovey couple, there is the central question of domestic violence. There are all kinds of questions as to what really happened. What seems to sicken me is this continuing attitude of, "What did she do to provoke this?"Notes of This Native Son was writing about a debate he was having regarding when it is okay to hit a women? Let me be clear about something! When we are talking self-defense when being attacked - you pull out all the stops! No man, woman or child should NOT feel they couldn?t defend themselves when in danger! I don't care who it is that is attacking you!The problem comes with some of these parties that try to give examples to show when its okay to beat the daylights out of som...
CHRIS BROWN WITNESSED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN HIS OWN HOME.
2009-02-10 02:34:00 From an interview in 2007 with Giant Magazine, Chris Brown details how he grew up with domestic violence.Like the day an 11-year-old Brown made a promise to his mother. He vowed that he would go to jail by age 15 for killing his abusive stepfather. ?I just want you to know that I love you,? he told her. ?But I?m gonna take a baseball bat one day while you at work, and I?m gonna kill him.? Brown?s parents had separated when he was seven. When his mother remarried, she moved her son and his new stepfather to a trailer park. Then his stepfather shot himself in the head. The shot went straight through the eyes. He survived the suicide attempt but was permanently blinded.?When you?re blind, your senses are heightened, like your smell, hearing, your sense of touch,? Brown explains. ?You can move and maneuver around your sight. But he used to hit my mom?.He made me terrified all the time, terrified like I had to pee on myself. I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was crying and t...
By: Ghetto Fabu
CHRIS BROWN WITNESSED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN HIS OWN HOME.
2009-02-10 02:34:00 From an interview in 2007 with Giant Magazine, Chris Brown details how he grew up with domestic violence.Like the day an 11-year-old Brown made a promise to his mother. He vowed that he would go to jail by age 15 for killing his abusive stepfather. “I just want you to know that I love you,” he told her. “But I’m gonna take a baseball bat one day while you at work, and I’m gonna kill him.” Brown’s parents had separated when he was seven. When his mother remarried, she moved her son and his new stepfather to a trailer park. Then his stepfather shot himself in the head. The shot went straight through the eyes. He survived the suicide attempt but was permanently blinded.“When you’re blind, your senses are heightened, like your smell, hearing, your sense of touch,” Brown explains. “You can move and maneuver around your sight. But he used to hit my mom….He made me terrified all the time, terrified like I had to pee on myself. I remember one night he made her nose b...
By: Ghetto Fabu
Sheriff's corporal offers domestic violence program to churches
2009-02-03 16:18:00 The Murfeeesboro Post had an article about the police officer pictured, and son of a preacher that offered his services for education on domestic violence within the church.By: Lisa Marchesoni Posted: Friday, January 9, 2009 11:29 am Cpl. Nathan Pagel Helping pastors and church members deal with domestic violence issues more effectively is the goal of a sheriff?s corporal who developed a presentation about domestic violence dynamics based on Biblical terms.Cpl. Nathan Pagel is the son of Church of Christ preacher Wayne Pagel, who retired after 40 years of service in Giles County. The corporal teaches classes about the dynamics of domestic violence at the sheriff?s office.Pagel hopes his experiences will help pastors and church members better address domestic violence and help domestic violence victims who might be reached by the church.?I felt like people (pastors and church members) needed more education? beyond recommendations of counseling, prayer and advice to stay together a...
Men's Group from Church Raises Funds for Domestic Violence
2009-01-31 22:56:00 Wicked Local Mansfield Reports: Church Men?s Group raising funds for HUGS IIBy Rachel BoldenThu Jan 29, 2009, 12:55 PM ESTEaston - Each year the men of the Congregational Covenant Church in Easton raise funds to fight violence against women.On Friday, Feb. 6, the church?s Men?s Group hosts its annual Flavors of the World charity dinner dance at the Thorny Lea Golf Club in Brockton from 7 p.m. to midnight. Proceeds will benefit Help Us Get Safe (HUGS) II and the Womansplace Crisis Center, both local nonprofit organizations which offer shelter and counseling to victims of domestic violence.The Men?s Group became involved with the cause about six years ago, when one of its members served on the jury of a domestic violence case. The fund-raising event, now in its fourth year, began as a modest dinner in a church basement and raised $5,000.Since then, Flavors of the World has dramatically increased both its popularity and its profit. Proceeds have more than doubled since the event?s ince...
Pattern of Behavior: Domestic Violence and Faith
2009-01-29 16:59:00 I think one of the most overlooked characteristic of abusers seem to be the pattern of behavior they portray. I?m not sure if that is due to the spouse?s reactions to their behavior, or if people just genuinely don?t wish to see it. It is a huge source of frustration to me.Since every person on this earth is custom for the most part people will have certain aspects of behaviors that can?t come straight off lists you read. One of the aspects that seem to trigger the behavior is their sense of anxiety over something. I realize that anxiety isn?t a comfortable feeling, but we all have some of it to deal with in life. The reason I feel this is their reactions to small mundane things in life.I remember one story that I was told was about how this woman?s husband loved tortilla chips, and they MUST be round ones! He didn?t want the triangle ones. Now in most cases people wouldn?t have an issue finding those round chips for him. It seems odd, but then again it isn?t worth fighting over. Th...
Series on Domestic Violence
2009-01-19 20:04:00 Honolulu Advertiser is running a series on domestic violence, and I wanted to share with everyone.Part One - Domestic ViolencePart Two: An Abuser's StoryDomestic Abuse; Bystanders Responsibility
Video about Protection Orders for Domestic Violence
2009-01-17 01:02:00 Video about Protection Orders for Domestic Violence or Domestic Abuse. This is from the State of Alaska, and I'm sure certain things vary from other areas. It is a good starting place for you, as I'm sure some of it would apply in alot of areas.
Poem for the Victims of Domestic Violence
2009-01-06 15:15:00 I found something today that was written by a unnamed person, but I thought it was awesome! It speaks of the different types of people in church, and how Jesus also see the victims of domestic violence. The ones that feel alone in the crowded room.A CHOSEN VESSELThe Master was searching for a vessel to use;On the shelf there were many - which one would He choose?Take me, cried the gold one, I'm shiny and bright,I'm of great value and I do things just right.My beauty and lustre will outshine the restAnd for someone like You, Master, gold would be the best!The Master passed on with no word at all;He looked at a silver urn, narrow and tall;I'll serve You, dear Master, I'll pour out Your wineAnd I'll be at Your table whenever You dine,My lines are so graceful, my carvings so true,And my silver will always compliment You.Unheeding the Master passed on to the brass,It was widemouthed and shallow, and polished like glass.Here! Here! cried the vessel, I know I will do,Place me on Your ...
Choices to Abuse, and Domestic Violence
2008-12-23 17:01:00 I have been reading alot of stories about how domestic violence maybe on the raise due to our economic issues in the world presently. There are all kinds of circumstances in which could escalate domestic abuse, but we need to be realize that didn't CAUSE a person to abuse. It just gave the abuser an excuse to show their true colors.Because it Matters was speaking on this as well.My perspective of it from the inside at the time was that his anger was because of his stress, issues at work, because he lost his job, because he couldn?t provide for his family like he wanted to, etc. But here?s the nugget ? I excused, or made excuses for, his rages and actions, based on the circumstances. This is the same thing he always did. His rage was always because I did?, the kids did?, if you would only?.Rage and other personal emotions and actions are always a personal choice. They are not something that happens to a person against their will. They choose to behave that way ? even if they genuine...
Woman At The Well - Lessons about Domestic Violence
2008-12-22 13:14:00 Lessons from the Woman at the Well is another current book that is on the market geared towards women within the church dealing with domestic violence.BibleForums has a thread in which she writes out some of things she has learned from the past, and it does start out a bit rough. I feel it has some very sound advice, and she goes answer questions on the thread itself as well.If you would like to read the author's personal testimony she has posted that as well!Betty Ashanti Davis I felt did a wonderful job of writing on the thread, and she addressed some of the attitudes we write about here on this blog. Her book is worth checking out as well! In the up coming weeks I will be speaking about a number of others I have read as well about domestic violence in the church. I understand the author is currently working on getting a website together as well, and I wish Betty Ashanti Davis and her new book Lessons from the Woman at the Well must success! Its so neat to be seeing so many a...
Senseless and Complacent - Domestic Violence Laws
2008-12-19 14:36:00 Denise and Louisa at ChristmasBarbara's Tchatzkahs called my attention to yet another example of a complacent attitude towards victims of attack, and then another senseless attack on another family member. Domestic Violence laws are to protect, and they seem to do the opposite at times. Most of the time domestic violence is a misdemeanor, but when a family member was attacked instead of the partner of domestic violence perp? Its attempted murder - which isn't a misdemeanor. Does that make any sense at all? The xgirlfriend was attacked with a hammer, and was classfied as a misdemeanor. The sister was shot in the face - that wasn't ... it was attempted murder. I don't know about you but if someone came towards me and hurt me with a hammer - I would assume it was kill! WOULDN'T YOU?BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS had a post today about a story of a family that has been repeatedly victimize by an abuser. Its strange to me at times HOW people can just take this so lightly! Its ALL ov...
Exercise-a-thon for Domestic Violence
2008-12-10 17:30:00 Focus Ministries has a mention on their home page about a fund raiser the are doing for the ministry.FOCUS Ministries is a not-for-profit organization devoted to offer hope, encouragement, education, and assistance to women who are struggling in difficult circumstances, especially dysfunctional marriages, spousal abuse, separation or divorce. Based in Illinois, FOCUS Ministries provides help for women suffering the horror of domestic violence and for those who want to help.They are asking others to have fun with an Exercise-a-thon, and that means ANYTHING you find FUN! Choose any exercise (run, bike, walk, skip, jump rope, swim, play tennis, baseball, football, lift weights, etc.), set your own goal, raise pledges, and take action against domestic violence! They also have included a pre-printed form for you organization's use!Just print off the FOCUS Exercise-a-thon form, fill in your name and address by the participant?s name, raise support, exercise, and then send in the comple...
Domestic Violence with a sandwich is funny I guess.
2008-12-03 07:05:00 I was reading In the shadow of your wings about a story of a women driving down the highway with her infant son in the back, and her boyfriend instead of HITTING her decides to nail her with his sandwich.In The Shadow of your wings mentioned MSNBN in the blog post, but if you look around - its all over the place!The joke? Was it a CLUB sandwich? We aren't sure what type of SANDWICH he hit her with! Yeah - really funny!PORT ST. LUCIE, Fla. - A man faces a domestic battery charge after allegedly hitting his girlfriend with a sandwich as she was driving on Interstate 95 on Friday. Police said the 19-year-old man became angry and hit the woman in the arm and face with a sandwich, knocking her glasses off.The victim nearly lost control of the car because she couldn't see the road and the man then allegedly ripped off the rear-view mirror and used it to shatter the windshield.The man was freed on $7,500 bail.Police haven't said what type of sandwich was involved.Domestic violence is...
Disabled Neglected Victims of Domestic Violence
2008-12-01 19:57:00 Women's Enews I thought had a good article about disabled parties, and the limited resources they have to reach out for help.Feds Focus on Disabled as Hidden Victims of Abuse Run Date: 11/28/08 By Annemarie TaddeucciWeNews correspondent Women with disabilities often feel left out of domestic-violence shelters and unable to communicate with hotline operators. A national meeting in December may help spotlight a hidden population of abuse victims and survivors. (WOMENSENEWS)--Domestic violence among women with disabilities rarely if ever gets this kind of national attention.But next month, representatives from 150 programs that receive funding from the Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women will meet in Nashville, Tenn., to discuss this particular safety problem.Cindy Dyer, executive director of the Office on Violence Against Women--which provides $10 million in yearly funds to state and community organizations--said the focus of the Dec. 16-17 meeting will be on im...
Domestic Violence? Church Leadership show perfect example of how they don'
2008-11-27 01:04:00 The Church Leader Gazette wrote an article about domestic violence, and some of it maybe comment sense, but the rest of it is nonsense!Men are definitely at fault in most cases of domestic violence. As welearned in elementary school, boys should not hit girls?a man should never hit a woman under any circumstances. But contrary to popular belief, women are oftentimes at fault by provoking the man. Some women provoke a negative response from their husbands inadvertently, because they do not know how to deal with a man probably because they never had a father in the home to teach them or they never had a mother, older sister or older woman to teach them how to handle a man. However, some women intentionally provoke their husbands by pushing buttons that they know will cause a negative reaction. First off, I know I have taught my son never to HIT anyone...except in self defense. There is no need for hitting, and to say that people PUSHED your buttons to do that? For goodness sakes! How ...
The scourge of domestic violence
2008-11-26 02:14:00 Gloucester Daily Times has a midweek musing about The scourge of domestic violence.Rev. Richard J. Simeone spoke of how for a number of years they have a brief ceremony proclaiming Gloucester a domestic violence free zone. They had the fanfare that most of these ceremonies have as well! As much as we would like to believe that these events lesson or stop domestic abuse we also know that they don't.Rev. Simeone got a first hand experience it seems from a mocking of this sentiment that all to often happens:At this year's proclamation ceremony, due note was given to the strides made over time in public awareness of the problem as well as concrete steps toward dealing with this public health disease. Yet, it was also noted that we still have much work to do. It made me think about a conversation I had earlier the day of the ceremony with an acquaintance of mine, to whom I mentioned that I was heading to the ceremony. The other person made a scoffing noise, and I asked what it was a...
Domestic Violence - Story on Pastor's considering role
2008-11-25 02:46:00 I found a news article today on the Morning News . It spoke of how a group of pastor's came and listened to a presentation about domestic violence. I thought it was well written and hard hitting........let me know what you think?Local pastors consider role in addressing domestic violenceBy Jamie Rogers (jrogers@florencenews.com)Morni-ng News ReporterPublished: October 29, 2008FLORENCE ? Local pastors considered their role in preventing and treating domestic violence in their communities during an engaging and, at times, spirited roundtable discussion on Wednesday in Florence. The faith leaders roundtable was held by the Pee Dee Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual and was one of many events being held in conjunction with October being recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The Rev. Carl Smith, president of Redeeming the Time, which specializes in biblical treatment of domestic violence batterers, moderated the event. South Carolina consistently ranks as one of the top 1...
Domestic Violence, Church, Faith Resource Books
2008-11-22 04:39:00 I wanted to list a couple of more resource books on domestic violence with an aspect of church or your faith. I have been a little behind keeping up to date with this, and I wanted to point a couple of additional ones out to everyone!I found an online interview of the author of the book below by Rev. Anne WeatherholtRelgious New Blog writes about this book regarding an abusive pastor by Virginia and Robert Coombs.Barbara Roberts - Not Under Bondage with a link to her websiteBehind the Hedge by Waneta Dawn and a link to her blogI hope these help others looking for resources for domestic violence within the church, or concerning your faith. I will post new faith resources soon.
Working to break the domestic violence cycle
2008-11-21 04:13:00 Statesville.com had a good story on domestic violence recently. I wanted to point out a partial note about what a pastor mentioned. It will be highlighted below! Thank you Statesville.com!By Donna Swicegood Published: November 16, 2008The idea that men who batter their partners need anger management is a ridiculous notion to A Call to Men co-founder Tony Porter."They have excellent anger management skills," Porter said at a workshop last week that brought several domestic violence service providers together. "They know who to hit and who not to hit."Porter told the group at the Not Tonight Domestic Violence Peace Initiative Workshop that men are the key to addressing the growing domestic violence problem."Not enough men are standing up and taking responsibility for ending violence against women," he said. "Violence is rooted in sexism, that she belongs to him and he can do whatever he wants with his property."Classifying batterers as "sick" helps men who don't batter justify the...
Domestic Violence - Is the church Neutral?
2008-11-20 03:35:00 When Loving Him Hurts had a very spot on article about the neutral position churches seem to take when it comes to the very HAIRY position of meddling in domestic violence! lol yes I had to throw in some sarcasm there!How many people have heard comments similiar to this?We won?t sides: Even though he has been threatening, we won?t take sides as there is always two sides to every story. He must be in pain over the split and that is why he is mistreating you He needs as much protection from you as you do from him We won?t get involved because we want to maintain relationships with him We won?t confess he has mistreated you, we will just keep emphasising that he is hurting You must have done something to trigger his anger We won?t hold him accountable as we don?t want him to feel worse or upset him even further The part that floored me is he wasn't even her husband either! I guess I had been concentrating SO much on marriages that I never stopped to realize how completely NEUTRAL th...
Silence of Domestic Violence
2008-11-15 03:19:00 A Forward Design had an article on their blog about restoring the broken.Shauna Gauthier mentions stats that I'm sure we have all heard of, but she continues:With these revealing statistics, one might wonder why domestic violence is not at the forefront of our discussions in churches and other community groups. Though the topic is gaining some momentum these days, it is still quite clear that the church has struggled to contend with issues of abuse. Isn't that the truth! I think they truly don't know what the answers are so they choose NOT to deal with them at all. Domestic violence doesn't have easy answers, and at times there are no good choices. There is no clear path to take. To me they seem to spiritualize it more than deal with it.There was a story the other day on Ibelieve.com that I read about a women that I'm not sure realizes what she is dealing with yet clearly. I think she is beginning to see it, but the AHEM healthy ones can't see it at all!SHe was speaking...
Silence of Domestic Violence
2008-11-15 03:19:00 A Forward Design had an article on their blog about restoring the broken.Shauna Gauthier mentions stats that I'm sure we have all heard of, but she continues:With these revealing statistics, one might wonder why domestic violence is not at the forefront of our discussions in churches and other community groups. Though the topic is gaining some momentum these days, it is still quite clear that the church has struggled to contend with issues of abuse. Isn't that the truth! I think they truly don't know what the answers are so they choose NOT to deal with them at all. Domestic violence doesn't have easy answers, and at times there are no good choices. There is no clear path to take. To me they seem to spiritualize it more than deal with it.There was a story the other day on Ibelieve.com that I read about a women that I'm not sure realizes what she is dealing with yet clearly. I think she is beginning to see it, but the AHEM healthy ones can't see it at all!SHe was speaking...
Men's Pledge Against Domestic Violence
2008-10-29 21:57:00 GEORGE F. LEE / GLEE@STARBULLETIN.COMDozens of men attended a rally yesterday at Our Lady of Peace Cathedral committing to work against domestic violence. The event was sponsored by Catholic Charities Hawaii.The Star Bulletin recently reported:Men take pledge against rising domestic violenceA rally at Our Lady of Peace Cathedral brings religious and political leaders togetherBy Bali Fergussonbfergusson@starbulleti-n.comDozens of men rallied yesterday against Hawaii's tide of domestic violence, which has already claimed the lives of eight women in the past 12 months.The men, wearing the white ribbon of men against men's violence toward women, and bearing placards with anti-domestic violence slogans, recited a pledge:"I pledge to seek equality and respect in all my relationships with women. I commit to lead by example and be a role model to other men and a mentor to our young generation in ways that create a future free of violence for women and children."The rally included more than...
Men's Pledge Against Domestic Violence
2008-10-29 21:57:00 GEORGE F. LEE / GLEE@STARBULLETIN.COMDozens of men attended a rally yesterday at Our Lady of Peace Cathedral committing to work against domestic violence. The event was sponsored by Catholic Charities Hawaii.The Star Bulletin recently reported:Men take pledge against rising domestic violenceA rally at Our Lady of Peace Cathedral brings religious and political leaders togetherBy Bali Fergussonbfergusson@starbulleti-n.comDozens of men rallied yesterday against Hawaii's tide of domestic violence, which has already claimed the lives of eight women in the past 12 months.The men, wearing the white ribbon of men against men's violence toward women, and bearing placards with anti-domestic violence slogans, recited a pledge:"I pledge to seek equality and respect in all my relationships with women. I commit to lead by example and be a role model to other men and a mentor to our young generation in ways that create a future free of violence for women and children."The rally included more than...
Sermon on Domestic Violence
2008-10-29 05:44:00 International Student Chaplaincy (ISC) posted a sermon about domestic violence that I wanted to share today.A Sermon by Rev. Waltraut Stroh. Held on the 9th March 2008, ISS, The Hague. The theme is the domestic violence.A new letter of Paul to Christians in all continentsDear brothers and sisters in our Lord Jesus Christ,Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.I received a letter signed by many sisters and some brothers from different countries asking for my opinion and advice on a family issue which they call domestic violence. I was shocked to read about the behaviour of many husbands all over the world. Therefore I write this letter and I strongly urge you to read it carefully.My brothers, how can you treat your wives in such a way, beat them and misuse them? Were they not given to you by God? How can this happen within the church of Christ? Did you forget what I wrote earlier to you, that you are the body of Christ? That all parts are of equal import...
Sermon on Domestic Violence
2008-10-29 05:44:00 International Student Chaplaincy (ISC) posted a sermon about domestic violence that I wanted to share today.A Sermon by Rev. Waltraut Stroh. Held on the 9th March 2008, ISS, The Hague. The theme is the domestic violence.A new letter of Paul to Christians in all continentsDear brothers and sisters in our Lord Jesus Christ,Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.I received a letter signed by many sisters and some brothers from different countries asking for my opinion and advice on a family issue which they call domestic violence. I was shocked to read about the behaviour of many husbands all over the world. Therefore I write this letter and I strongly urge you to read it carefully.My brothers, how can you treat your wives in such a way, beat them and misuse them? Were they not given to you by God? How can this happen within the church of Christ? Did you forget what I wrote earlier to you, that you are the body of Christ? That all parts are of equal import...
Thousands Protest Father-Bashing Domestic Violence Ads
2008-10-27 18:17:00 Several hundred Dallas Area Rapid Transit (DART) buses feature misleading, father-bashing ads purporting to address the serious issue of domestic violence. One ad depicts a happy little girl with the message “One day my husband will kill me.” Another shows a smiling boy with the message “When I grow up, I will beat my wife.” The kids ...
The Role of God's people, Domestic Violence
2008-10-27 14:21:00 Taking Back Your Power had a very moving article about the Place of God's people within the role of domestic violence issues.2 Samuel 22:1-3, 18, 48-50: And David spoke the words of the song to the Lord in the day that the Lord delivered him from the hands of his enemies and from the hand of Saul. He said, ?The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold, and my refuge. My savior, you save me from violence?He delivered me from my strong enemy, from those who hated me, for they were too strong for me?The God who executes vengeance for me, and brings down peoples under me, who also brings me out from my enemies; you even lift me above those who rise up against me; you rescue me from the violent man. Therefore, I will give thanks to You, O Lord, among the nations, and I will sing praises to Your name.In the scripture lesson today, King David sings a song of thanksgiving for God?s prote...
The Role of God's people, Domestic Violence
2008-10-27 14:21:00 Taking Back Your Power had a very moving article about the Place of God's people within the role of domestic violence issues.2 Samuel 22:1-3, 18, 48-50: And David spoke the words of the song to the Lord in the day that the Lord delivered him from the hands of his enemies and from the hand of Saul. He said, ?The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold, and my refuge. My savior, you save me from violence?He delivered me from my strong enemy, from those who hated me, for they were too strong for me?The God who executes vengeance for me, and brings down peoples under me, who also brings me out from my enemies; you even lift me above those who rise up against me; you rescue me from the violent man. Therefore, I will give thanks to You, O Lord, among the nations, and I will sing praises to Your name.In the scripture lesson today, King David sings a song of thanksgiving for God?s prote...
Pastor Crusades Against Domestic Violence
2008-10-26 14:24:00 The Chicago Defender wrote a story about a pastor that is taking up the cause of domestic violence within the church...and in LIFE! I applaud him for this stand, but I wish it didn't take the tragic events that he had to deal with in his neighborhood.Richardson had never considered volunteering his service as an advocate against domestic violence. That is, until his neighbor, Patricia Marble, was murdered on July 11 and her boyfriend, Sampson Ashby, was arrested by police as the prime suspect. Greatly disturbed by the incident, Richardson was determined to see what he could do to prevent such a tragedy from ever happening to anyone else in his community. I hope other pastor's follow his lead, and don't wait until something awful has to happen! I know at times it does take this type of happening to open some eyes to the issue. I will admit that part! I hope Pastor Richardson has great success in his crusade against Domestic Violence!
Pastor Crusades Against Domestic Violence
2008-10-26 14:24:00 The Chicago Defender wrote a story about a pastor that is taking up the cause of domestic violence within the church...and in LIFE! I applaud him for this stand, but I wish it didn't take the tragic events that he had to deal with in his neighborhood.Richardson had never considered volunteering his service as an advocate against domestic violence. That is, until his neighbor, Patricia Marble, was murdered on July 11 and her boyfriend, Sampson Ashby, was arrested by police as the prime suspect. Greatly disturbed by the incident, Richardson was determined to see what he could do to prevent such a tragedy from ever happening to anyone else in his community. I hope other pastor's follow his lead, and don't wait until something awful has to happen! I know at times it does take this type of happening to open some eyes to the issue. I will admit that part! I hope Pastor Richardson has great success in his crusade against Domestic Violence!
Domestic Violence Ads with children - I guess the truth hurts!
2008-10-25 18:08:00 Dallas Domestic Violence Center has ads that have children in them.FamilyPlace.Org placed some ads on the sides of buses within the Dallas area. You can click the link to see a news story about people's reactions to them. I'm sure for some these are over the top, but the truth hurts at times.I hope it does offend personally. Its reality....I would ask them, 'What do you plan to do about it?'Children - no matter what the gender in the family that does the offending - do follow in their parents footsteps.The truth hurts! YEP I went off my beaten path today! Associated Press:Associated Press - October 23, 2008 3:35 PM ET DALLAS (AP) - A domestic violence shelter's new awareness campaign features ads on Dallas buses showing children -- and captions such as, "One day my husband will kill me."The ads appear on and inside several Dallas Area Rapid Transit buses.The executive director of The Family Place, Paige Flink says the ads are designed to shock people.She told The Dallas Mor...
Domestic Violence Ads with children - I guess the truth hurts!
2008-10-25 18:08:00 Dallas Domestic Violence Center has ads that have children in them.FamilyPlace.Org placed some ads on the sides of buses within the Dallas area. You can click the link to see a news story about people's reactions to them. I'm sure for some these are over the top, but the truth hurts at times.I hope it does offend personally. Its reality....I would ask them, 'What do you plan to do about it?'Children - no matter what the gender in the family that does the offending - do follow in their parents footsteps.The truth hurts! YEP I went off my beaten path today! Associated Press:Associated Press - October 23, 2008 3:35 PM ET DALLAS (AP) - A domestic violence shelter's new awareness campaign features ads on Dallas buses showing children -- and captions such as, "One day my husband will kill me."The ads appear on and inside several Dallas Area Rapid Transit buses.The executive director of The Family Place, Paige Flink says the ads are designed to shock people.She told The Dallas Mor...
Faith Based Domestic Violence Abuser Database
2008-10-24 16:25:00 Because it matters posted a story about a domestic violence data base. I have to wonder what an uproar this is going to cause! I do think it is needed. What an awesome idea, and as Alexis A. Moore mentioned it can be called "with a click of a mouse a life can be saved!"I think that is true!The weaker vessel's site states: The name, "The Weaker Vessel", was derived from The Holy Bible, (I Peter Chapter 3 Verses 7-9) where The Word Of God explains how husbands and wives are to treat each other.Verses 7,8 & 9 reads:"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto The Weaker Vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Finally, be all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous. Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing; but contrariwise blessings; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing." The Word ...
October - Domestic Violence Awareness Walk
2008-10-21 16:17:00 Link to Me, Myself and I Blog postA very touching story about a survior, and how she changed her life!Since,I reflected on what I should say.I want to offer hope.My life is as different as night and day since I was in shelter.Enteringshelter was the best gift I ever gave myself although I didn't see it that wayat the time.When I entered I couldn't have been lower physically,mentally,spiritually- and financially.It was maybe the darkest time in my life.I was hopeless.I entered because I didn't know what else to do.I guess looking back it was the last of what survival instincts I had left.I was suicidal.Not that I was going to harm myself necessarily but it was more like if I was diagnosed with cancer I would have refused treatment;if I was going to be struck by a car I wouldn't have jumped out of the way.I was put on a suicide watch for 45 days.To say I was despondent would be an understatement.I can recall my first time on the patio at the shelter after completing my intake and s... |
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